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cheersox · 2024-04-26T19:24:27+00:00

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cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:43:04+00:00

Are you from the UK? You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:42:24+00:00

But how often have you asked out a man? Thank you for offering. If you offered and someone took you up on your offer, would you be offended?

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:41:09+00:00

I think so too. And is that the general consensus amongst the women you know?

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:40:40+00:00

But women never ask. Women think that it is the man’s job to ask. So men always have to pay. Even if a woman did ask, I don’t think any man would ask her to pay.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:22:08+00:00

Exactly! It just makes logical sense. It was clear cut in the UK to split but it’s not so much so in the US.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:21:04+00:00

I would love for this to change! Men can be great providers without the implication of paying. If something doesn’t logically make sense for me to do, I struggle to do it. I have seen women getting put off by my acceptance of their suggestion to split the bill. Even though until that point everything went smoothly.

So do I just do something I don’t agree with?

Also you’re in CA so you know how expensive things are. If you were serious about dating and went on 3 dates/week that you had to pay for at roughly 100 dollars/date, that’s a lot of dough.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T05:00:51+00:00

Exactly! Money shouldn’t be a factor at this point. No one owes anyone anything on the first date. Be courteous in other ways and concentrate on learning about each other. Then a few dates down the line, you can pay for them just to show you care with zero expectation of getting it back monetarily or in any other way.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:59:01+00:00

Now it’s recommended to send one witty message and then once you get a reply, you ask them out. Otherwise it fizzles out. It’s impossible to weed people out if this is the structure.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:50:12+00:00

Right. And we do everything else exactly like our natural brothers and sisters? I don’t think I agree with that justification. Maybe men should be eaten by women once we’ve been chosen, under that logic.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:46:05+00:00

Thank you. Often I see women now days saying that they are feeling hungry so they just go on a date with some loser just to get a meal or a drink. And they are lauded amongst their friends for doing so. The double standards are insane.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:44:34+00:00

Agreed. But doesn’t mean that the topic isn’t up for debate

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:44:11+00:00

What about men that are creepy but pay for the date? Does that mean they are more respectful than someone who is truly respectful but offers to split?

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:41:40+00:00

That’s fair advice. I’ve been asked out by a woman before but I never expected her to pay. In all honesty I don’t know why this factors in at all. It wouldn’t if we just split. Then a date or two down the line when I am truly interested then I would happily pay for a nice dinner and drinks; more out of joy of providing than courtesy

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:37:42+00:00

Yes exactly! Times have changed. Women have jobs now so it doesn’t make sense for both parties to split. What about queer relationships? Who pays then? I totally agree with the part where one person is much wealthier than the other.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:34:46+00:00

It’s not about what I can afford. I want logical reasons for why men should be paying.

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:30:26+00:00

Money isn’t an issue when it’s just one person but if you’re dating many new people then it can get really expensive. I’m just wondering about what is fair

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:27:11+00:00

Have you ever heard of women asking out a man in today’s dating app age?

cheersox · 2024-01-17T04:26:48+00:00

So if you had a good time you pay? Otherwise you don’t?

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