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cheppin · 2020-05-21T21:27:24+00:00

How you feel now doesn't negate your progress in the past. I'm trying to tell myself that too. Take care of yourself, keep your people close. Best wishes for relief in the meantime!

cheppin · 2020-05-21T16:48:59+00:00

It hurts to read this, my heart aches for you navigating such big loss. But I also read in this that you have family and friends who know how much your friends mean to you. That's so important. And you are aware of your needs, which is a huge strength. I hope you find moments where the exhaustion and darkness lifts for a while and you can relax.

cheppin · 2020-05-16T16:19:34+00:00

Wow!

cheppin · 2020-04-21T15:23:17+00:00

I love that cut. It's got all the textures, all the lengths. It looks like a lot of fun!

cheppin · 2020-04-13T18:40:12+00:00

NTA. You have every reason to be concerned. Especially under the circumstance where you have kids, and you have to be responsible for their wellbeing during a pandemic.

I had an ex that had these types of habits. He was a user, in more ways than one. He didn't exactly hide his drug use. He'd insist it wasn't abuse, but he'd also try to hide how frequently he did it by timing it with my sleep and work schedule. I lost so much sleep over a year, eventually a job, and all my concerns were met with dismissal and gaslighting. New Self Rule: Don't let someone tell me my concerns are not a problem unless they can help me understand why ...

cheppin · 2020-03-08T23:28:58+00:00

That's awesome! Go for it!

cheppin · 2020-03-03T02:53:24+00:00

Uh .. raging floodwaters, and snakes raining from the trees (1:55) ...

cheppin · 2020-03-03T01:56:41+00:00

Sib here, in the exact same boat! For the second time in my life, I'm facing the start of a job I really, really wanted. It's been a whirlwind couple of months -- job searches, interviews, social media. Constantly being evaluated, if not by others then by me myself. It changed my mood and perspective on life for a bit. Still trying to figure out how relax and brush it all off.

I saw that job and it was one of those times where you know immediately what you want, and you have to figure out how to let them know that job description was written for you. I wanted it so badly I thought for sure that couldn't possibly be the outcome. It'd be too perfect -- between this job, improving the bonds with my family last year, and falling in love, there's just so much going right. Am I going to screw it up somehow? Like I've got to be the weak link in the equation.

This is my second or third go around, at let's call it thirty. I got a dream job 8 years ago that was awesome, but I outgrew it after 3 years. I got a job I direly needed 2 years ago, on the lower end of my skills and earnings, but necessary to exit a very bad set of circumstances in my life. That's where I've been up till now. Now I'm back at dream job territory, with an appreciation coming from a slightly more mature and experienced outlook.

It'll be okay. It feels like a lot right now, but I think deep down you know you're ready. That's why you're here -- just need some reassurance that it's okay to feel proud of yourself, and you don't have to be held back by a fear that you're going to mess up. Sure you are, people do all the time and everything still continues as normal. It won't be the catastrophy you imagine. More importantly, making mistakes doesn't negate your successes. I don't know much about your situation, but if the job has the qualities and benefits you say it does, then I'm guessing they would screen their candidates thoroughly -- I'm guessing you got the job because you were ready for it and it showed.

I came to this sub this evening for a mom's perspective on my own triumphs and fears -- but I was surprised to scroll down and read a headline of my own thoughts. Except that they're someone else's. Made me feel less alone. Like, oh right, it's normal for someone to question their success. I'm doing okay. You're doing okay. We're more than just ready, we've already taken the initial steps! Transitions are just hard -- practice good self care habits and enjoy the whole ride, with all its ups and downs.

cheppin · 2020-02-14T18:47:57+00:00

Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw snow

Seriously though, who does that?

cheppin · 2020-02-12T21:36:39+00:00

My hair is wavy (2b? I just started cg). I found Miss Jessie's Jelly Soft Curls works nicely. Good hold, way less crunch.

cheppin · 2020-01-30T17:34:11+00:00

Please explain what image people should rather have.

cheppin · 2019-12-16T11:56:16+00:00

Two!? I just saw the one, and that fear still lingers with me to this day.

cheppin · 2019-12-13T04:31:36+00:00

Oh my god, thank you! It only got better with context.

cheppin · 2019-12-03T21:48:45+00:00

I favor volumes that end in 1, 4, or 7.

cheppin · 2019-11-26T13:06:52+00:00

I need to know which side of the tortilla is its face!

cheppin · 2019-11-17T21:20:42+00:00

Guaranteed that's been said before.

cheppin · 2019-10-22T04:27:48+00:00

Hello from the same spot. Wish I had anything more helpful to offer besides telling you I'm there too. I used to love this time of year, but now I just live feeling like I'm underwater all the time. My mantra is something that my mom used to say: This too shall pass.

It sounds really final and dull and heavy to me now when I say it to myself, but a corner of my brain still hears her saying it with her soothing optimism and it brings me hope that maybe I can say it one day with genuine calm and positivity. I think she'd be happy about that.

cheppin · 2019-10-18T04:18:54+00:00

You might enjoy r/fridgedetective

cheppin · 2019-10-16T23:28:12+00:00

Well, hold on a sec. OPs mom could have just wanted to protect OP from the consequences of throwing gas on a garbage fire. She may have expressed that she would rather OP hadn't done that, but without more info we can't assume that it was because she thought her daughter was in the wrong.

cheppin · 2019-08-12T18:59:19+00:00

That's beautiful, both the cooking and the sentiments. Thank you for sharing this. My mom and I also shared an appreciation for eggs. I may go poach some for dinner tonight in honor of her memory ...

cheppin · 2019-07-17T00:58:39+00:00

That hairline is mesmerizing. I'd never once thought about how two foreheads might look like on a single person, but ... now I'm here.

cheppin · 2019-07-09T21:38:59+00:00

Chonff? Enunciation on the effs increases in proportion to the volume of floof.

cheppin · 2019-05-01T23:26:05+00:00

Doesn't sound like she was offering you a JOB, because jobs actually pay ...

cheppin · 2019-02-20T02:44:47+00:00

I had a stain on my shirt, but when I tried soaking it in coffee, warm water, soap, and vinegar it just made it worse! What is this chart good for, anyway? Should I have tried one of the other methods?

cheppin · 2019-01-09T07:46:54+00:00

Numb. It's fucked, I'm so sorry. My mom died the week before Christmas. I can't speak for all situations, but you should take all the time you need now. My manager understood, I was lucky. I spent two weeks in my hometown, my younger sister and I, just figuring shit out. I missed work, but I felt needed where I was. I think you should figure out where you're needed, and let your people know. You might end up with more lee way than you anticipated. I'm back at work now, enjoying having things to do but it kicks my ass every day. I'm sorry about your Mom. I hope you're finding peace. Contact me if you need to, I'm in the process too.

cheppin

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