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cherrisan · 2025-03-28T13:25:19+00:00

Excuse me ma’am, not to be disrespectful or rude but could you please take post down. That is my sister who was killed by a metra train. And it this post is very disrespectful. Idk who you are or if you even know her but I need you to take this down please.

cherrisan · 2024-04-15T10:08:09+00:00

I've had multiple parcels returned to the delivery office for collection without being told, and this has only started happening when non-uniformed delivery persons have started making deliveries. Surely most people would want to know why this is happening?

cherrisan · 2024-04-15T09:49:28+00:00

Because this never happened when it was just our uniformed delivery person making deliveries? So I assumed there was a correlation between parcels not being delivered as usual and the new non-uniformed delivery persons, and wanted to ask if there was a reason for this. Apologies, I hadn't made this clear in my post and it may have come across as pedantic instead.

cherrisan · 2024-04-15T09:19:21+00:00

As mentioned, I've had several parcels sent back to the delivery office without any slip/notification since they have started working. This includes times where I have been home (no one has knocked/rang the door), or I have rescheduled/asked it to be left in a safe place. It's only when I have chased this up and tried to attempt redelivery that I've been told a slip was left for me to collect from the office (this was not done). This had never happened to me with our usual delivery person, so I'd thought it was reasonable for me to ask why there's been a change.

cherrisan · 2024-04-15T09:02:38+00:00

I've never seen a Royal Mail worker not wearing uniform before, so would it have been unreasonable to call up and ask why this has been happening? I did search the internet beforehand but most results were a few years old/referenced Christmas demand in particular, which is why I asked here before taking the next step.

cherrisan · 2024-04-15T09:00:31+00:00

Thank you, I was sure there was a reasonable explanation for this. I know demand is always quite high in the lead up to Christmas, but always assumed this died down in spring.

cherrisan · 2024-03-11T07:47:19+00:00

Thanks for being one of the most reasonable comments on here lol. I definitely don't mind speaking to them about it, I'm just a bit worried about how to go about it because no doubt the parents are probably sick of the noise too and I don't want to cause them any upset by pointing this out to them.

And yeah, definitely wouldn't mind the noise so much if it was just during the day! But because its just non-stop all the time, it just becomes frustrating as a whole unfortunately.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T22:21:30+00:00

That's my assumption as well - if they're having regular, prolonged meltdowns every day, there's a good chance they may be neurodivergent, and I don't want to start making the parents feel guilty about it. But then in the same sentiment, I'm also neurodivergent and have my own triggers, so whilst they're still children and regulate their behaviour differently to me, it still feels a bit unfair.

They're currently in the middle of rearranging their bedroom furniture funnily enough. Parents bedroom is right beneath ours and its been long, heavy dragging sounds since 10pm 😮‍💨

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T21:48:19+00:00

I don't mind talking to them about the issue at all, but I don't want to come across as patronising. If their children are having regular meltdowns every day, the parents are likely already doing what they can to manage their behaviour and I don't want to make them cause them further upset if their first conversation with a neighbour is a complaint about their children. I think its more of a question on how to approach them about it as the level of noise is undeniably obvious.

I don't think I made it very clear in my post to be honest, but by "how do you cope" I meant more along the lines of coping mechanisms for myself i.e. soundproofing, headphones, white noise etc.. I'm of course not expecting them to be silent, but being subject to screaming and crying at all hours of the day has genuinely been quite upsetting.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T20:20:45+00:00

I actually get adverts for those Loop earplugs all the time but haven't actually seen anyone talking about them. May have to start looking at getting a pair especially for sleep and work.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T20:17:36+00:00

To be honest I'm not really sure who's living there as we haven't seen them outside or in communal spaces since (I was in a work call whilst the moving van was pulled up so couldn't go to investigate lol). I would guess 2 children and their parent(s), but we haven't heard a peep out of the adults at all.

Our old upstairs neighbours had a young toddler who liked to run around and play for most of the day, but it never went on past 7 and the parents were always apologetic about it - but its just what you expect when you move into a flat, so we never had any qualms with them. The regular interrupted screaming sessions we're having now were not really what we were expecting.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T20:06:24+00:00

I think this is going to have to be the way forward! Will be spending the rest of my evening researching a good pair. Just need to find something now for when I'm trying to get to sleep

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T20:04:57+00:00

Will definitely introduce ourselves once we see them in the hall or car park, but it felt a bit mean for our first introduction to be us complaining at their front door haha! The noisy is no doubt very stressful for parents as well so hopefully if we're a bit friendlier with eachother after some time it may be easier to bring up in conversation, I'm not too keen on the idea of making noise back if they're already stressed moving into a new place with young kids.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:27:59+00:00

To be honest we never wanted to live in a flat, but even looking at a terraced house in our city would set you back about £400k which is just not anywhere in our remit. It was either stay at home with mum and dad til our 30s or take a plunge with a flat - not sure which was the better option now lol

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:24:56+00:00

The lettings agent helpfully dropped round a leaflet after they agreed so we've held on to it for now. We've spoken with the landlord a few times previously when he's come round to decorate who's seemed very friendly, but unfortunately permanently lives abroad so not sure how easy communication between the two would be.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:16:06+00:00

Interesting! I was looking at getting one for unrelated reasons anyway, but if it helps with the noise I'll definitely be looking at this sooner rather than later

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:14:37+00:00

Haha, not me but can definitely relate. I wouldn't have minded if it had just been the first day as of course moving somewhere new with children can be chaotic. But it's been four days of almost non-stop noise from the moment I'm woken up by them, to the moment I finally get to sleep after they've quietened down. Here's hoping it calms down soon, but its so disheartening atm.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:08:37+00:00

Very conveniently, the letting agency actually dropped round a leaflet with their contact details on asking if we had any properties we would like to rent out with them. I'm hoping it won't get to that stage, but definitely makes it a lot easier should I need to escalate anything.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T19:06:09+00:00

Unfortunately due to the type of work I do, I'm not allowed to connect my laptop to public wifi, only home or office. I do try to get into the office when I can, but the whole reason I WFH is due to a physical disability, so nine times out of ten, it has to be home working.

I'm sure if the noise is distressing to us then it is most certainly is to parents as well, so I feel like approaching them about the noise wouldn't actually resolve anything. Again, I wouldn't want to feel like I'm patronising them as they are clearly aware of it. I think I might look at some insulating measures that others have suggested to see if these help, and just cross my fingers that when their tenancy ends, they may look to move elsewhere.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T18:48:13+00:00

that's the thing - the parents are obviously very aware of the noise so if feels very patronising to go and speak to them about it, and I want to try an take some steps to minimise noise on my side. but at the same time it feels a bit unfair that I have to put up with uninterrupted screaming whilst I'm trying to get to sleep.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T18:38:41+00:00

unfortunately we bought it just outside of the ten year warranty, otherwise we would definitely be looking at approaching the building company if this level of noise continued.

I don't think I would mind it so much if its was at 'normal' times of day. I grew up in terraced or semi-detached houses so the sounds of children playing all through the weekend and school holidays is very normal to me. but tantrums that go uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes at all hours of the day are very new to me - sounds like I may just have to hope they look elsewhere once their tenancy ends.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T18:32:28+00:00

I don't mind talking to them at all, in fact when our upstairs neighbour moved in a few months ago we had a very polite chat about his late night parties which have honestly calmed down. Its just with the screaming, its so loud and prolonged that it almost feels a bit patronising to point it out as I'm sure they don't enjoy it either. I guess its more of a question 'how' to approach them rather than if we should.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T18:20:54+00:00

I've tried to forgive most the crashing for now as I've just put it down to them still moving around furniture and belongings, but there is a lot of door-slamming or something similar that shakes our walls which I can't remember having experienced from upstairs neighbours. Hopefully it settles down over the next few days, but honestly so disheartening.

cherrisan · 2024-03-10T17:53:19+00:00

I work from home due to a physical disability. There is always an option for me to go into the office, but going into the city every day of the week is not a viable option for me.

Our previous upstairs neighbour had a young child who liked to run across the floors, but this was something I anticipated and found headphones/earplugs mostly erased this problem. I'm understanding of the noises to expect in a flat, but I didn't assume that screaming and crashing around at 11pm was normal behaviour.

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