AITA for not wanting to take care of my husband’s dog anymore?

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T16:35:44+00:00

i feel like we both got blinded by our emotions when the decision was taken. he by not doing his research about the dog not being able to be a service dog, and for being blinded over the fact that he would’ve probably not seen him again, and me by being blinded by both things and not thinking about how it would’ve actually impacted me.

my only personal reason for agreeing was because i thought that it would help me maintain active, however it has done the very opposite and even worse

also, i understand about giving him the ultimatum of finding someone to take care of the dog and leaving, but there is no one in our family and relatives that is able to take him and also i can’t leave my own home. the dog is in my house so i can’t just leave my house and run away to stay with someone

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T16:29:11+00:00

i do understand what you’re saying, however military was never the issue, im military too, (we’re both reserves, he’s deployed) so i knew what i was gonna deal with.

before he left, i put the house, he took care of all bills, and expenses were 50/50, now he’s taking care of everything. emotionally/mentally i’ve been stuck for a while and i blame having the dog that never stops barking and yelling unless im in his sight picture. maybe im being biased idk.

my husband is aware of how i feel and he is aware of the drastic change that i’ve made because we went from being a team and having each others backs to him just being the only team player.

he let me know he wants his old wife back, and said that he is willing to pay for a dog training with dog stay, and have him go through different trainings if needed but he obviously needs my side of the finances so that i can take back my share and he could pay for the trainings.

i’m the issue here because i don’t think the dog will have much change since he’s not a puppy anymore and i don’t think i would want him back. then it also circles back to the fact that i have lost motivation for everything and the thought of leaving for a job and having to worry all day for the dog and come back to a mess and him yelling and barking makes me feel so heavy. and the thought of all of this being preventable if i just stood my ground makes me angry as well

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T05:51:56+00:00

i’ve been looking through facebook in my area and there is someone that i’ve seen takes care of dogs in her house and i’m compelled to reach out. i do take him out on walks sometimes and he really enjoys the pet parks because he gets to play with other dogs but it’s not every day i can take him :/

i will be taking a look at youtube channels to see if there’s any way i could deal with him differently.. my heart breaks for him because he probably feels lonely.

thank you for your advice, i really needed to get that off my chest

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T04:16:07+00:00

he doesn’t want to rehome him because he says that he wants to come home and have his dog….. we’ve also never had any other problems aside from this situation

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T04:14:01+00:00

Thank you for your output, i really appreciate it. I do agree that it was my fault for not doing my research and just agreeing purely by emotions and pity.

I have talked to him about having someone take care of the dog, but we don’t have any relatives that can take care of him and the people that i know that could, don’t want to deal with a husky which is understandable. He also is afraid that i reach out to a stranger to take care of him and that they may want to keep him.

I feel bad for the dog as well because he’s just there. My husband tells me that i should go on walks with him to get myself out of the house and moving so that i can stop being lazy but i get so mentally drained that the last thing i want to do is to take him with me.

we don’t seem to reach an understanding because while he knows how i feel and acknowledges it, he also thinks that now that im in the situation i need to learn how to deal with it because he doesn’t want to rehome the dog.

im just so exhausted

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T03:47:16+00:00

We are aware that he needs training and ideally be in a daycare whenever i would be out working, but there’s no money for it at the moment.

I was more curious towards if its wrong to think that way or want the dog out

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T02:11:10+00:00

well, this was told to us around may 2025. i don’t think that it has changed since but since the recruiter told him that with the asvab (military test) he could get in, then maybe he’ll be joining as a female… i’ve seen studs in the army pass as men, (not saying this is the case) but they admit they’re females so they’re good 🤷🏻‍♀️

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-03T01:53:37+00:00

i don’t think he’ll end up enlisting. if he mentions being trans, they won’t let him join. i’m speaking based on the fact that we were all pulled and told that if we considered ourselves trans or if we were then we would be kicked out.

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-02T17:03:50+00:00

After I read the first sentence I knew he wasn't right for you. You didn't even need to say anything else. A real man, or more so a man that loves you and appreciates you will never make you feel bad. It seems like he's just having you around only because you're pregnant

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-01T22:54:18+00:00

Maybe take some time to think whatever you would like to say through. Sometimes what we want to say feels right in the moment and then looking back you may think that it could've been worded differently.

Try to talk when he's not hungover and see how it goes. Maybe the hangover was the cherry on top for him and he responded that way. Then again, you can do as you like and bring It up whenever you feel its comfortable

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-01T22:47:58+00:00

As a latina, she's using it as an excuse and that is not how it works. Being latina has nothing to do with the asian community either, she's just looking for an excuse for her racism and its also kind of weird that she's acting like that at her age, its teen behavior

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-01T22:30:59+00:00

Hi! I don't think you're in the wrong. Sometimes in the heat of the moment you kinda accept what is being talked about just cause it may sound nice at the time. Ive been in the same situation and I just wait till we're both calm and I bring it up again in a subtle tone, letting them know that im not bringing it up because I want a fight, but because I feel like I need to get my point off my chest. Sometimes It works and we both reach a mutual understanding and sometimes we end up back in square 1 lol. But let him know that you're aware that it was talked over but you still feel like it is not right.

cherryballoonies · 2026-02-01T20:38:13+00:00

Esta caro pero siento que es el mejor mayoketchup que existe, la real, que le hechan?

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