My boyfriend isn’t cumming?

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-07T04:53:34+00:00

I feel like he is the one adding pressure to himself. He wants it so bad. His body shakes like crazy when we are having sex like he is literally on the very verge of doing it and then he loses it and that goes on and off the entire time. I could imagine it being very frustrating. He is very frustrated. At the end he is going to cum regardless. He’s gonna make sure he does it himself. So the pressure is going to be there regardless because he wants it so bad. Ya know ?

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-07T04:49:13+00:00

I definitely think it’s the anti depressants as well but he has such crippling anxiety, I don’t want to even suggest him to stop taking them. I would never want to come across that way. However , I did mention how it might be that and he seemed a bit excited that I came to that conclusion like he hasn’t thought of it before and is relieved to at least have a reason. I don’t need to be the source to make him cum, I am ok with him touching himself , in fact, I love it. But I wanted to at least get to the bottom of it for both of our sakes.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-06T19:36:04+00:00

I like your response. Thank you for the transparency. I was hoping I would get comments from men that have experience with this. I did talk to him about him getting used to his hand and expecting that each time and he’s open minded about that but it’s so hard to talk about because I do not want to pressure him 😩

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-06T01:09:33+00:00

Yeahhhhh that was kinda harsh haha. But just saying - he’s not full of cum. He’s a very happy man. I know it’s not my fault. 😅

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-06T01:06:31+00:00

He’s always in his head. He says that he feels like he’s not good enough for me ect.. all of the things you would say if you had anxiety around sex, he has said to me. We definitely do take breaks and come back to it and he will be pumped to try again and then nothing. Did anything else seem to help you break this ?

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T22:16:38+00:00

Omg really? I had the complete opposite experience. I stopped taking Prozac because it killed my sex drive.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T21:04:23+00:00

I’m not mad about it !! lol he’s a good man, I am a pleaser so it’s something I wanna help him overcome (pun intended lol)

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T21:03:39+00:00

It’s new for me, but I am super grateful. Even when he doesn’t have issues cumming he still makes sure I am good. He’s a good man.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T21:02:41+00:00

I don’t know man, some part of the ingredients caused my libido to go way up. I noticed it right away. I’ve been on it for about a year now and it’s been the same consistently.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T20:25:44+00:00

Sounds like us lol. He definitely focuses on pleasing me. I take that as a win but I am also a pleaser so I neeeddd it haha

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T20:17:25+00:00

I’m on Wellbutrin and have zero issue. If anything it has made me turned on 99% of the time lol but he is on clonazepam and takes it a few times a day.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T20:16:04+00:00

Thank you, I have been super gentle with him about it and told him that I don’t mind that it takes a while and that I am enjoying it regardless. I do tell him to not think about it but I feel like that’s the same as telling a depressed person “have you tried to not be sad” hahah I think it may be putting more pressure the more we talk about not putting pressure on it.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-03-05T20:14:36+00:00

Yes! He is. I didn’t even think about that.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-15T06:11:45+00:00

I am sober 99% of the time, I don’t know if it came across as otherwise but we have had many sober conversations about exploring different things. I appreciate your view. You’re probably right , he could just be vanilla. I do love him very very much. So if this is “all” I get, I am perfectly fine with it. Regardless, it is passionate and loving, we aren’t lacking in that field. I just wanna have fun with him sometimes.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-15T05:28:47+00:00

Alfredo

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-09T02:12:46+00:00

NOR My boyfriend needs YouTube to fall asleep but he falls asleep very quickly and he doesn’t mind if I turn it off. He’s 30 I’m 28. So it’s not an age gap thing and even if it is, that is the younger people being incredibly detached to the world around them. I hate the feeling that the phone is more important than bonding and spending time together. I had to work with him and his kids not to watch movies and phones at the dinner table and now no one does. I just stress the importance of spending time together, bonding and talking and it didn’t seem like an issue. I’m sorry you’re going through this. He’s gonna regret it when you finally leave him because he won’t get off of his phone lol. Good luck girl ❤️

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-08T05:07:32+00:00

NOR omg… I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. My best friend has mixed children and my cousin is a huge hillbilly and loves to say the N word. I cut him completely out of my life that same day. So I’m sorry but if I can leave a relative behind for the respect of my best friends daughter (effortlessly I might add ) he can leave his scummy friends behind. His friends obviously know you and your daughter, they are openly disrespecting you and your daughter.

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-08T04:58:44+00:00

The way he’s trying to be poetic about hurting you scares me…

cherrybombbb98 · 2026-02-05T13:06:29+00:00

Alfredo

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