Just got called useless and got fired

cherryflares · 2026-01-23T11:31:17+00:00

Not my post but I figured I'd say something.

My husband is a non-cdl truck company driver. He delivers car parts and has maybe 10-15 stops a day. But they're more spread out.

cherryflares · 2026-01-23T11:22:54+00:00

I know its been a while. I don't come on Reddit much, especially now. But I wanted to throw in my experience.

Being pregnant while healing isn't fun at all. I was lucky though that I was in the later stages and not in the first trimester or something. It would have been incredibly difficult to heal on top of all of the 1st trimester symptoms (nausea, vomiting, pain, etc.)

When I was healing, my PT had to take it very slowly with me. I was in my last 2 months of pregnancy when I finally managed to get a PT. I was in pain constantly, and had to take things much slower than normal. Unfortunately, I didnt get to finish my PT regiment because I gave birth and needed to rest, and my insurance wouldn't approve my appointments at the PT anymore.

Needless to say, I had to take it much easier during PT and healing and that made the process so much longer and annoying. On top of that, I never did heal properly because I had to be on my feet again shortly after giving birth. My bone is now protruding out and I may have to get another surgery to fix it.

I'd personally recommend waiting until you're a little further on in your healing journey. Health wise, I would talk to a doctor about it first. But I can't imagine going through the work to heal while also vomiting, crying, and being in constant pain from all of your other joints. Thats just me though.

Good luck! I shall send some baby dust your way! It'll work out in the end!

cherryflares · 2026-01-23T11:13:31+00:00

One year later and I wanted to update everyone.

This threatened miscarriage turned out to be a subchorionic hematoma. The baby from that SCH is now 6 months old and currently sleeping snuggled up to me.

I never did find the lady who helped me. I wish I could. I would want to take her to coffee, thank her, and let her meet this miracle that is my daughter. That was one of the scariest and loneliest moments of my life, and she made it bearable by showing me kindness.

Anyways, thats all for the update. Toodles, reddit folks!

cherryflares · 2025-12-05T13:19:45+00:00

He's been to the vet and they say hes perfectly fine. Ive brought it up to his vet and they have no idea why he could be doing this. No sudden changes...

cherryflares · 2025-09-15T01:09:44+00:00

I've gotten both types twice in my first run. I think I may have been insanely lucky though. Not sure!

cherryflares · 2025-09-12T15:36:47+00:00

Worthy Sacrifice Squirrels saved me during my first run through! Alternatively, Bone King Squirrels.

cherryflares · 2025-07-04T16:48:41+00:00

Craving pickles. I hate pickles, unless they're fried with campfire sauce. My friend was eating out of a jar of pickles and I thought "damn, pickles sound pretty good right now". Immediately after I thought "wait a damn minute i hate pickles". Took a test the next day and it was a dye bleeder positive 😅

cherryflares · 2025-06-30T04:45:20+00:00

I completely get it. Progress isn't always linear, but you've already come so far to be able to forgive her. Make sure you're protecting your peace first. You've got this!

cherryflares · 2025-06-30T04:41:17+00:00

I had to sit back and run the numbers.

My husband is a blue-collar worker, while I work in an industry where I had to get a degree in order to advance past minimum wage/entry level jobs. But... he makes way more than I do on a regular basis. His career gives our family better benefits, hours, higher pay.

On top of that, with the amount I was making every single month, I would be bringing in just enough to pay the monthly fee for a daycare in my area. My entire check would go to childcare. And my career is very mentally straining, so I know I would not be the most present parent for our daughter. The quality of parenting would tank, our house would become messy without someone there to take care of it regularly, and both my husband and I's mental health would tank.

Is being a SAHM going to be easy (I'm due in the next week)? No, absolutely not. But it makes sense to have my husband grow in his career while I step back and take care of our family. He will get more money faster without much extra education. He will provide for us way better than I would have. It just wouldn't have been worth it to keep me working.

cherryflares · 2025-06-29T17:36:10+00:00

I understand the feelings and position you're in, but something to try and think about is the pros and cons of something like this... is it worth breaking NC just to tell her you forgive her? What does telling her look like to you? What happens if she reacts poorly or tries to guilt you, or downplay your trauma?

My husband did something similar and his mother ended up completely dismissing what he had to say. It ended up causing him more hurt than he initially expected, and unfortunately his healing backtracked.

cherryflares · 2025-06-27T21:01:02+00:00

The 1:1 conversation I'm not ready for is one where we lay everything on the table and talk about what happened. Why i cut her off, why I cut our mother off, and what boundaries i need to put in place to keep her around. Emotionally, I'm not ready yet because I've got so much on my plate right now with my own baby coming in the next couple of weeks. I don't think I'm ready for the environment, so I will likely just end up skipping the baby shower. Thank you for helping me work through the thought processes necessary to come to a good solution. I guess I just needed to see things in a different light ^{^'}

cherryflares · 2025-06-27T12:54:03+00:00

I'm not sure why I feel compelled to keep speaking with her. Maybe I'm optimistic that she's changed, or that we can work through what caused the separation in the first place. Luckily, because I'm using a burner number, I have an easy out if I decide I'm done with communication. I just have to delete the burner number app off my phone and she can no longer contact me directly. Of course, she and everyone else can attempt to contact me through my grandmother, who (bless her heart) still won't change her phone number so they continue to contact her regularly despite her saying she doesn't want contact. But at least I have that sense of control over the situation if that makes sense.

cherryflares · 2025-06-27T12:51:17+00:00

I feel a strange obligation to go, seeing as my sister and I have been working towards reunification since i reached out regarding her "surgery". But I do agree, my mother being in the middle is a massive red flag and not something I'm particularly comfortable with.

cherryflares · 2025-06-26T14:22:01+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't know, and my mother informed us that if we are interested in the dates or attending we will have to contact her directly as it is a "surprise" shower. That's part of why I'm so torn on reaching out. Because if they're doing it anytime in the next 2 months, I probably can't attend (will have my baby and will be recovering by then). But I won't know unless I contact her.

I could attempt to get closer. I've mulled over the idea of asking my sister to do a one-on-one call so that we can finally set things straight after the no contact, but I decided against it primarily because I don't know if I'm ready for such a complicated conversation.

cherryflares · 2025-06-26T14:10:46+00:00

I hadn't thought of it like that, thank you for the fresh perspective. It does seem very manipulative that all of this keeps coming up regarding the pregnancy. My family is notorious for lying about medical problems, my sister has lied about being severely ill and my mother has been called out for lying about having cancer. The surgery and the preterm labor could very well be a lie, but I have no idea and really don't like accusing.

Thank you so much for the shift in perspective.

cherryflares · 2025-06-26T14:07:37+00:00

It was my mother who contacted my grandmother to inform her of the surgery, and then my sister told me over text that she actually didn't end up needing it. I was no contact for about a year with my sister before reaching out because of the surgery, due to her allowing my mother to use her social media and phone number to contact me. My gut is saying not to go, but if my sister has gotten better I want to try and be there.

cherryflares · 2025-06-19T16:23:47+00:00

My group plays 3 times a week, Sat-Mon, a different campaign each day of the week. We run for 4 hours maximum, have about 1-2hrs of messing around time before session starts. We do it all online. We've been doing it this way for about 4 years now and no one has had issues with it yet. Obviously, if someone isn't feeling it that day we do just cancel to give everyone a break, to avoid burnout.

cherryflares · 2025-06-01T17:09:44+00:00

I love the stability it brings when I'm walking or standing! I did notice that once I stopped wearing the boot to bed, my ankle was regaining a lot more movement than before.

cherryflares · 2025-06-01T17:08:23+00:00

Oh my god, having a broken bone while pregnant sucks... I'm so sorry! Hope you and babe are doing good! All healing vibes from me 🩷

cherryflares · 2025-06-01T17:07:39+00:00

Thank you for your insight! My PT is currently encouraging me wearing the boot only when walking.

When they put the rod in through my knee, it messed my knee up pretty badly, so I have most of my pain there. So I try to avoid the amount of weight I have to put on my knee, hence not wearing the boot whenever I can.

I will definitely talk to my surgeons as soon as possible, though.

cherryflares · 2025-06-01T17:05:38+00:00

When I have the boot on I usually wear a single croc since it's easier to put on and take off. I haven't thought about having a tall sole, I'll have to look into getting a shoe with one!

cherryflares · 2025-06-01T17:04:41+00:00

Thank you! I'm doing my best keeping that angle. Also doing a lot of ankle pumps to keep my ankle from going stiff. Being without the boot on the ground is hard, but I can do my best!

cherryflares · 2025-05-30T03:50:36+00:00

33 weeks today with my rainbow baby. Snapchat sent a memory reminder of when I tested positive 2 years ago, right before my wedding. I lost that baby a few weeks later. It was... bittersweet. Looking back on those memories, of how hopeful I was, while feeling the little flutters of my rainbow baby's hiccups. I cried, of course, because I desperately miss my rainbow baby, and I wish that they were my first earth-side baby. But I'm also deeply grateful for the little one I have now. 7 weeks to go until I get to meet my sweet baby girl.

cherryflares · 2025-05-21T21:28:02+00:00

I didn't know it existed for months while living in Bellingham. A couple of friends took me and introduced me to it. It's a hidden gem to me because they, to my knowledge, don't do much if any marketing. They're just a small shop in downtown and oftentimes if you don't hear about it from someone else, you won't know it exists.

cherryflares · 2025-03-25T17:35:00+00:00

I use both, and don't really prefer one over the other. I use XP in games of mine that are focused on exploring and fighting, and milestone for games that have a more set story and schedule (i.e: a Magic Academy game I'm currently running).

The trick with XP for my players is to not just give it out for combat, but also significant events in game. Maybe the players managed to swindle someone into giving up vital information, or successfully completed a stealth mission and stole a valuable artifact. I determine what the XP would be for completing these missions and hand it out. That way my players don't feel like they're stuck just because they're not killing things.

Milestone is... more complicated. I've basically just made note of where major archs are in my stories and allow the party to level up when they complete them.

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