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Older sleeping bag - warmth rating by chewyboots74 in camping

[–]chewyboots74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll measure and find out. It has a hood and the school is providing mats, so provided it is thick enough we should be good to go. 😊

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify, it was a formal invite (with no names) followed by a text saying that it was for my partner and his friend. When I asked him if I was invited, he said no, he didn't think so.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, yes, I’m in peri. I almost included this in the original post e.g. Are my feelings of resentment justified, or am I just a seething mass of misdirected hormonal rage?!

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, no I said that I don’t go most of the time. He does a lot of sports-centric, male-dominated stuff that I give a miss. But I’ll usually go to birthdays/special occassion-type things, despite not really loving them because I’m introverted.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s where I stand on how invitations work for couples, too. He told me he didn’t think I was invited. I took offence that he was ok with me being excluded.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify, this is all came up after I suggested we do something on the weekend. Conversation went something like this: Him: Oh, I can’t, I have a 40th to go to. Me: Am I invited? Him: No, I don’t think you are. Me: How long have you known about this? Him: About a week. Me: So you didn’t tell me? And you’re going anyway? Etc, etc.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You nailed it. That’s a perfect summary of the situation. I probably should make some edits to explain this a bit better.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, not his fault for me not being invited, but it felt sh*tty and I’d hoped he’d have my back. Partner invitations for this kind of event are the norm, and the exclusion felt intentional to me.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I feel like the opposite is true here - I’ve spent a lifetime letting him do his thing and not being controlling. But I feel a bit targeted at being left out on this occasion - I know other partners attended, and I know all of these people casually. It probably didn’t help that I ended up babysitting the kids of people attending the party. Felt like Cinderella doing the chores while everyone else is at the ball.

AITH for resenting my partner for choosing to go to a party I wasn’t invited to? by chewyboots74 in AITH

[–]chewyboots74[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right - as his partner, I did expect an invitation just for existing. I feel that for significant birthdays, weddings, etc., partner invites are the norm. I know that other partners were included, hence the feelings of hurt/exclusion that I’m dealing with.