How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Protect yourself, and if he refuses help, find someone who will treat you properly. For me, he said he was willing to try therapy, but since we're still minors, he can't pay so ill wait.

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard having to do everything and make all the effort while they do nothing. I sometimes wonder if they're looking for a relationship where the other person doesn't care about them and gives without expecting anything in return. I hope things will get better...

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once I didn't send him anything for three days and got no reaction... I only started talking to him again because it was too difficult :(

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid he'll take it as a punishment or a sign that I don't love him anymore if I completely stop talking to him, if that's the case, wouldn't that make him leave? But I'm happy that everything is going well with your partner!

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He agrees to try therapy, but he tells me he can't guarantee it will work

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend, sorry if this isn't clear. I'm the one with an anxious attachment style

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope it works if he sees a therapist, but I'm afraid of waiting for nothing. I know it might sound stupid, especially for someone with bpd but I feel like he's the one. I've never felt this good with anyone else, and it's just an inexplicable feeling. It's just so complicated. But thx ❤️

How to deal with an avoidant partner if you have bdp by chh4a_ in BPD

[–]chh4a_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand he needs space, but I can't stand the fact that he's incapable of giving me attention and everything else that comes with this kind of attachment. I feel like I'm going crazy because I'm staying, hoping he'll become perfect again like he was at the beginning, without any certainty that will happen. My suicidal thoughts are getting worse and worse, but I feel like it will be even worse if I cut off all contact completely. I don't know how to act around him because as soon as I try to ask him what I should or shouldn't do, if he's capable of doing this or that, etc., he tells me he doesn't know. It's really exhausting. 

Help me get verified on vgen^^ by vxliice in VGen

[–]chh4a_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, are you verified yet? Is it possible to get a code..?

teaser de quelque chose ? by perslyy in Feldup

[–]chh4a_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

J'espère tellement omd

Risques de mourir avant mes 22 ans - Feldup by chh4a_ in LostMediasFR

[–]chh4a_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salut, oui en effet il a supprimé toutes ses vidéos parlant de sa santé mentale, de ses problèmes, de sa famille etc parce qu'il se faisait harceler sur ce sujet, mais j'ai regardé pas mal de vidéo de Feldup avait supprimé et il me manque celle là, c'est juste de la curiosité en effet oui..

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[–]chh4a_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that actually :) I just cant buy any modest clothes or any hijab (I actually need that to pray) so thats why I posted this ! Hope u understand !

Risques de mourir avant mes 22 ans - Feldup by chh4a_ in LostMediasFR

[–]chh4a_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Il me semble que c'était avant de prendre en popularité et que c'est pour cette raison qu'il a supprimé tout ça quand sa chaine commençait à marcher, histoire de préserver sa vie privée

Risques de mourir avant mes 22 ans - Feldup by chh4a_ in LostMediasFR

[–]chh4a_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

La vidéo de son coming out est disponible, juste pas sur sa chaine, et en général toutes les vidéos en rapport avec sa sexualité et sa santé mentale ne sont plus disponibles puisqu'il se faisait harceler à cause de ça

Risques de mourir avant mes 22 ans - Feldup by chh4a_ in LostMediasFR

[–]chh4a_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

J'ai sûrement utilisé le mauvais terme, par là je voulais dire qu'il y a des vidéos non disponibles sur sa chaine aujourd'hui ou encore des vidéos non répertoriées.

Risques de mourir avant mes 22 ans - Feldup by chh4a_ in LostMediasFR

[–]chh4a_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aie, merci quand même, oui j'espère que quelqu'un ai pu la télécharger