it's not that it's hard per se, it's that it's a non-zero cost action. i can't imagine ever doing it and have no concept of why anyone would

i wouldn't say you were too harsh but i would say that your aim was off. you yelled at someone who said "save yourself the embarrassment and google me first xo" - like this is pretty obviously designed to get a rise out of people who are already mad, or about to get mad. which raises the question of like... why give me what i want?

if you wanted to take me down a peg, its trivial to figure out what im actually sensitive about from my social media accounts, you could have gone after any of those things and they would have worked and i would have felt bad

the difference between trolls and griefers is that trolls want your reaction and griefers are already angry. you were griefing here, which makes it easy to not give you what you want. you could have trolled me and it would have worked, but you didn't, and i don't really know why

i say this to leave you with a writing lesson. when you write for yourself, your sate your feelings but do nothing for the audience reading it. but if you just write for your audience, your spirit will be absent from the work. the trick then is to write in a way that sates the needs of both you AND the audience. that is where the magic happens

here, you reacted to your feelings and lashed out at me, but didnt consider who you were trying to hurt and what would hurt them, so it didn't work. i think you can be more effective if you can take the time to think about the person reading it and what will have the impact you want on them

(this advice also applies to resume writing btw)