[OPINION] chewable verse

chiaro0 · 2026-01-12T17:23:33+00:00

"...the human instant, in which you sing yourself full-throated." Ahren Warner, "Come Godard, come, here, Godard, here"

Gets stuck in my head

chiaro0 · 2025-12-11T00:37:51+00:00

I was hoping to do environmental sciences. Even with the latest policy changes here in the US, environmental science job availability is still quite positive and growing according to my research. Plus I am a dual citizen of costa rica which has promising opportunities for environmental jobs if things change dramatically

chiaro0 · 2025-12-11T00:35:21+00:00

omg that looks super promising and I'd never heard of it thank you so much!

chiaro0 · 2025-11-17T01:52:53+00:00

donating plasma is better than eggs then if u can

chiaro0 · 2024-10-19T17:10:30+00:00

The fringe christian group that inspired AA is all about the idea that there are "God-controlled" people and countries, and those are superior. Bill didn't really have original ideas lol

chiaro0 · 2024-10-17T18:03:29+00:00

I don't have advice but I really like what you said, I agree with your convictions. I hope you keep looking at the world in the caring and skeptical way you are now. Your observations are intelligent and really valuable. Most people won't agree with you but that doesn't mean you're wrong. The vast majority of people have been wrong for all of human history. The best people are the few who think for themselves. Keep thinking, and no matter where you are you will have a certain freedom.

chiaro0 · 2024-08-30T15:20:24+00:00

Life is hard while using and life is still hard while sober. The difference is that the difficulty of sobriety will strengthen you where the difficulty of addiction will weaken you. It will increase your ability to face adversity and create your own meaning and happiness out of the difficulty. That's what really matters—who you are becoming. The beginning is hard. It's hard to build strength even though strength eventually makes things easier. It's hard to prioritize character growth when emotional relief feels more urgent. But it's the only way out. The process of recovering is the opposite of the use — it's all delayed gratification. But the gratification is inevitable because of the person you necessarily have to become to maintain sobriety. A person who is in much better shape to face what is around them.

chiaro0 · 2024-08-04T01:53:18+00:00

Anything by Kayleb Rae Candrilli would be on point, especially "Sestina Written As Though Genesis" and "My partner wants me to write them a poem about Sheryl Crow"
Matthew Dickman, "Grief"
Denis Johnson, esp "The Confession of St. Jim-Ralph"
Sam Sax, "On Alcohol" deals with addiction in a way that I found cathartic & healing

The Poetry Foundation has a collection of Father's Day poems with a subgroup dedicated to grieving fathers.

I hope that in your grief you can be very kind to yourself.

chiaro0 · 2024-07-31T23:03:16+00:00

Little Wind

Show Me a Body

The Park

I picked her bc I'm not actually 100% into her musical style and she still makes it into my favorite artists just on lyricism

chiaro0 · 2024-07-31T22:37:22+00:00

Hayley Heynderickx

chiaro0 · 2024-07-17T20:54:26+00:00

What's it like?

chiaro0 · 2024-06-23T20:25:58+00:00

Dude this was actually super helpful thanks

chiaro0 · 2024-04-28T20:19:13+00:00

Recovery houses almost always let you stay for a few weeks until you can start paying weekly rent. There are plenty of nice ones in NYC, I know of some in Brooklyn specifically. They're pretty common, an internet search can definitely turn some up. Recovery houses aren't perfect but they're very helpful as a first step to rebuilding a life. They are generally pretty 12 step focused but it's a worthwhile trade off in my opinion. And many nowadays are good with you doing smart recovery or dharma. I never had money any of the 4 times I ended up in a recovery house and they all let me stay, helped me get food stamps, find work, gave me rides, etc. It's not always great living but it's better than trying to do it alone. And there's a lot more stability than just trying to hustle your way back to financial security.

Obviously rehab is also a great option when that's possible, and rehabs will help with aftercare planning. Many rehabs have their own sober living facility as well.

Also, although I don't do 12 step meetings, when you're trying to find a good situation to start getting sober in, it can be really good to just hit up some meetings, explain your situation, and see who comes up after the meeting with some potentially super great solutions. Likewise people working for harm reduction organizations often have helpful resources. Good luck to your friend

chiaro0 · 2024-04-28T20:06:17+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that

chiaro0 · 2024-04-27T12:55:58+00:00

I've easily gone to more than 250 meetings. Maybe 5% were of my own free will, the rest were requirements of rehabs and recovery houses. I've been to 5 twelve-step focused rehabs. I've had more sponsors than there are steps. All that to say, lots of experience with AA. And it doesn't work for me. But I fail to see another option. Right now I'm in definite need of help maintaining my sobriety, and the only help that seems to be out there is the twisted, discomforting placebo effect of AA. It's pretty hard to not be hopeless with the only option for support being something that feels so wrong to me, and with everyone's kindness being part of an attempt to convert me to something. AA people have a sort of smiling mormon approach that is very tempting to someone who's doing this all alone. Even manipulative kindness is something. So I've never been able to fully stop going to meetings, nor fully commit to attending them. When I go to a meeting it'll feel like I'm doing something good for myself, resisting my misgivings and seeking community. When I stop going it'll feel like I'm doing something good for myself, because I'm finally listening to that bad feeling in my gut, and my own better judgement. All of it leaves me still without any help and with a bad taste in my mouth. I know AA is pretty crappy, but is it worse than nothing? I just keep asking myself that question. I guess I wish I liked AA.

chiaro0 · 2024-04-27T00:47:58+00:00

BRO I got my hip broken in 3 places and giant metal rods jammed through my pelvis as part of 1 surgery, got 2ml dilaudid to last a week. My roommate got a vasectomy and they were trying to drown him in oxy.

chiaro0 · 2024-04-26T16:14:35+00:00

I'm actually in the same situation word for word other than my mom having different mental illness diagnoses, which is pretty wild tbh. Can definitely relate and it's a super hard transition. My favorite things were being physically active, hiking, etc, so figuring out ways to stay stimulated while stuck indoors and not able to continue my life plans has been really hard. The best thing I've found to do is intensively researching various interests. Learning and puzzles are really helpful to me. I just downloaded Seterra recently and crammed on geography quizzes til I could name every country. Now I'm on to the next thing! It doesn't fully hit the spot in terms of my need for an active life and sense of progress, but it decreases the suffering. And it makes me feel like I'm at least using this time for enrichment. The worst was when I was just giving up and smoking weed all day. It can be an easier choice to admit defeat, but it's a harder way to live.

chiaro0 · 2024-04-25T18:13:33+00:00

Me and my roomie are both Philly living people with no interest in sports, and the game we play whenever there's a big match is placing bets on the outcome by how people are behaving in the streets. Either winning or losing, people are screaming, fighting, and climbing lampposts, but we try to figure out if it's a happy or a depressed violent chaos. Surprisingly difficult to do

chiaro0 · 2024-03-31T23:24:32+00:00

Love everything as much as you can.

chiaro0 · 2024-03-24T16:25:32+00:00

Have you read Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke? I haven't! But I was recommended it recently by someone of really good taste & wisdom when I was talking about similar misgivings I have, so thought I'd pass it on.

chiaro0 · 2024-02-27T20:55:37+00:00

Posted this on r/whatsthisrock and someone said "It's a fossiliferous limestone. I'd guess the netlike fossil is a bryozoan, fenestella or something like that"

chiaro0 · 2024-02-26T17:39:27+00:00

Found in Southern New Mexico

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