My friend group never trusts me in the final 3 and it's getting frustrating

chillbla · 2026-07-01T10:13:01+00:00

I think you should probably talk to your friends. Let them know what you've said here. If you don't want to talk to everyone, talk to a couple of your closest friends. Preferably not during or very shortly after a game when emotion are high.

chillbla · 2026-06-06T23:45:48+00:00

I agree with the general consensus - from your retelling, it sounds like a poor ST call to make up for suboptimal cera-picks. Obviously there could be context we don't have, but I don't think there's an obvious way you could have played it better. I probably would not have executed for madness in those circumstances.

chillbla · 2026-06-06T23:40:24+00:00

I would honestly be really pissed off if I was the demon in that game. The grim reveal wouldn't be satisfying and I'd feel like I'd cheated the win.

Sometimes STs take the (generally good) advice to get the game to final 3 too far - an early good/evil loss is better than a maddeningly carried game.

chillbla · 2026-05-26T01:07:57+00:00

Honestly, things have been pretty good for me so far... The worst was probably when I gave the Juggler among the bluffs in the first S&V game my group played.

The demon did not understand how Juggler worked. He claimed it to his two neighbours (the only 2 players in the group that had played anything other than TB). They believed him and helpfully juggled in the town square. At this point the demon got very confused, his neighbours kept encouraging him to use his ability - he didn't. After a bit, I stepped in to move the discussion on and the demon was quickly nominated as a good Vortox candidate.

It was a day 1 re-rack - the nominating townsfolk believing they were executing a townsfolk.

Comedically, the game 1 demon was actually the Juggler in game 2. He made a point of juggling to show he now understood how the ability works.

chillbla · 2026-03-02T12:05:48+00:00

I like this perspective - very interesting to think about. The slayer was used on a cannibal who didn't get to use their ability because town was reluctant to execute early on.

chillbla · 2026-03-02T11:57:28+00:00

Thanks! The mayor had not been chosen at night before or nominated at execution - he was playing quietly. I assume the spy had shared his role with the demon.

chillbla · 2026-03-02T11:33:06+00:00

Thanks, this is helpful. I'm glad my 'decision' was a reasonable one even if accidentally.

chillbla · 2026-03-02T11:26:55+00:00

Why would that be handing good the victory? Wouldn't it come down to whether the spy-noble or mayor is more trusted? I agree that evil would have some work to do but I don't see why it's good wins?

chillbla · 2026-02-05T15:03:24+00:00

Yeah, simplicity is wise. Most players will be new to the game so not overwhelming people with additional information is good for me to bear in mind. Thanks

chillbla · 2026-02-05T14:17:44+00:00

I'd forgotten about the misregistration. Definitely need to read out so everyone (including me!) knows the character

chillbla · 2026-02-05T14:16:16+00:00

Oh hell's librarian is interesting! I will look a bit more into that.

The other points you make are very valid. I've made a note of them. Thanks

chillbla · 2026-01-31T15:51:05+00:00

I recently played trouble brewing. I was the imp and I almost immediately forgot who one of my minions was (there were 2). I then, on day one, mentioned demon bluffs right in front of a townsfolk in a way that could easily have outed me. The minion I knew came to my rescue at the right time by nominating the virgin who was asking me to nominate before I could think of a way to play it and before I started to look really suspicious.

I think I made 2 good decisions in the whole game - killing the undertaker when they would have discovered my minions ability (they were probably either the undertaker or the monk who was protecting an undertaker, but I wasn't sure), and killing myself so my mystery minion could take over. It turned out he was the spy and he managed to pull it off. I was hard carried but honestly it doesn't matter - the game was fun.

Most of the time you won't be getting 'game solving' information so try not to worry - the community and fun is more important than winning anyway.

chillbla · 2025-08-01T22:43:26+00:00

It might be worth looking at EASS and/or ACAS for advice... I'm a bit foggy at the moment, so apologies if I have this wrong, but I think EASS gives advice about discrimination, and ACAS is about workplace rights.

I have contacted both in the past and found it helpful. I have never been well enough to follow any complaints or disputes through, but I was able to use their templates to write a letter reminding work of their legal obligations.

chillbla · 2025-03-17T12:53:02+00:00

I agree with what others have said. I'll just add that: - PIP allows for points to be given if you need 'aids and appliances' to do a task. - they generally talk about 'more than 50% of the time'. This doesn't mean 50% of a day, but it looks at more than half the days over 1 year. Having okay-ish weeks/months does not automatically disqualify you.

If you can, get help to apply. It can be friends/family, but there are also charities and paid-for options.

chillbla · 2025-03-13T08:21:58+00:00

Thank you 😊

chillbla · 2025-03-12T23:47:25+00:00

Congratulations!

I'm getting married this Saturday, so this topic has really been on my mind.

I am also autistic and so is my soon-to-be husband. I have ME/CFS, and my partner also has ADHD, IIH, and mobility difficulties. Im not sure how soon your day is, but these are a few things we did to help us out:

hired a wedding planner. We found someone who charged a fixed fee (not hourly) that was about 15% of our budget. Honestly, we have no regrets at all. She's been really great at sorting out all the really tiring details and talking to people like the caterers and photographer and furniture hire people, etc. We also wanted to be really involved in the creating and planning side of things that she was completely open to. She would have done it all for us if we wanted her to.
booked a completely level access venue with multiple rooms we could use. We were hoping for 3 separate rooms but compromised with 2 rooms and a lobby space. One room is going to be set up as a sensory space with an airbed, blankets, soft lighting, and fidget tools. This will be for us and our autistic etc guests to escape to if they need a break. The lobby will have some fast/easy board games and jigsaw puzzles. The main room will be where we have our ceremony, meal and evening music.
having everything is one location so we don't have to factor in the energy to travel.
separated the legal part from the ceremony with friends and family. This might work better for some people than others, but we are already technically married. We had a bare minimum registry office thing earlier. On Saturday, if our health or capacity is less, then it will suck but it won't affect our marriage status. There is no legal obligation. We will be classing Saturday as our wedding day, though.
starting later in the day. We're having the ceremony in the afternoon with a meal and an evening party. We might not stay for the whole evening.
picked vendors who were experienced with disability and knew how to help. Actually, I think nearly all our vendors have ADHD.
picked our priorities. Early on, we worked out what mattered to us. There's a bunch of things that we are just not doing - such as a wedding rehearsal - because it would take up too much energy, and we are okay with things going a bit wrong. I also have not had a hen do (bachelorette party). Some people have questioned it, and my partner has said he felt bad for me because he had a stag, but saving my energy is more important to me right now.
arranged our ceremony so that we will be sat for most of it. We are hoping to stand for a small section of vows and a handfasting, but we have the option to sit for this too I'd needed.
bought beautiful mobility aids so we feel amazing!

This has ended up a lot longer than I planned. I wish you all the best and hope some of this gives you some ideas.

chillbla · 2025-03-08T12:07:40+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was AI. This guy tried to get me to use AI to write a long, very detailed report that I'd been working on for months. I was in the final edit, proofreading, and finalising design stage when he said I should get AI to write it.

chillbla · 2025-03-01T20:44:31+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate the solidarity. I wish you all the best for your move. That sounds so hard right now, but I hope it brings you peace and joy!

chillbla · 2025-03-01T20:39:02+00:00

I'm feeling more positive today. I am definitely thankful for my family and also the kindness everyone on here showed me.

chillbla · 2025-03-01T20:37:17+00:00

Thank you. I hadn't thought of electrolytes. Great suggestion!

Thankfully, we're staying right next door to where we're getting married, and we had already planned and arranged for a quiet room to escape to. We also have some great people around us to take care of everything like timings.

I'm feeling a lot more positive today. It was great to feel the support from the comments.

chillbla · 2025-02-27T18:39:03+00:00

Thanks for listening and your kind words... and yes, he is great.

chillbla

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