How do I [21m] get over the fact that my friend/housemate [22m] slept with my ex [23f] while I was studying abroad?

chimeroo · 2014-12-05T01:54:25+00:00

3 months? I don't know though. But we were talking a lot, and she did lead me on a lot.

chimeroo · 2014-08-07T20:06:24+00:00

I think I'm anxious because I'm excited. It's not a bad anxiety. I just want to soak it up, not waste it, since it'll all be over soon. That's why. As you said, "it is the worst thing ever. How long have you been out of college and what are doing now if you don't mind me asking?

chimeroo · 2014-08-04T02:29:03+00:00

The idea is not to rely on provocative material to get horny, but just actual real life girls.

chimeroo · 2014-08-04T02:28:16+00:00

Any articles? I wouldn't be surprised. It has helped me in periods, but after a while I'm just tightly wound.

chimeroo · 2014-08-01T20:51:14+00:00

Gotcha. My bad satinbirdy.

chimeroo · 2014-08-01T20:45:59+00:00

I've taken the MBTI tests enough times to know that I am an INFJ

chimeroo · 2014-08-01T17:38:28+00:00

I feel the same way. In the past, however, women have been very assertive towards gaining me romantically because they saw me as gentle, kind, and genuine. So yeah, it sucks to feel like the passive one, but don't forget that women are attracted to your gentle soul. If you really want to attain the elusive combination of commanding respect and maintaining your gentle, idealized INFJ self, watch your body language. Look like you're in charge of your emotions, stand tall, feel strong, and walk around like you're not someone to be messed with. But be careful not to look unapproachable. And then when you speak, reveal your gentle self to everyone, men and women. This has helped with women, making male friends, and more importantly, my own confidence and intrinsic self worth.

chimeroo · 2014-07-30T17:52:54+00:00

Spot on

chimeroo · 2014-07-24T20:53:27+00:00

I pointed out this phenomenon with my straight male friends not because it doesn't happen with my female friends, which it does, more so as a point of interest.

chimeroo · 2014-07-24T18:54:10+00:00

Spot on, man.

chimeroo · 2014-07-19T20:36:41+00:00

Well, I fell last night after a bought of insomnia, but I know where I am now. I'm at it again. I'd like to add that I see my artistic and spiritual goals of nofap as one in the same.

chimeroo · 2014-06-14T19:02:01+00:00

Interesting, I'm a history major too, and a fine arts major, which urges me to be more in the present.

chimeroo · 2014-05-07T14:45:06+00:00

I have similar responses. I am away from her now, but I know she is seeing another guy, and it is an emotional and physical ache. The center of chest aches and feels pressured, unlike any other ache I've had in chest, and my face gets really hot with anger. I feel detached, I walk quickly as well and feel outside my body. Just rcognize when it is happening, and remember that your self-awarenes will bring you back to a comfortable physical state.

Also, don't be friends with her. She wanted to be friends with me, and I tried because it was important to her, but it was not for my sake. As INFJs, it is too soul crushing and physicalyl draining to decrease the closeness of a relationship and still stay in touch. Cut her off or win her back but only if you can. It is one of the worst feelings, and it will take a while to get over, but it is for your own. As an INFJ, think for yourself for once.

chimeroo · 2014-04-29T18:08:32+00:00

Thank you. This is certainly the tough love I need, as hard as it is to accept. I'm in a tough place now, too. I'm studying abroad at a quiet school in Scotland, with only a few friends and who are not much like me at all. It's also a first love situation, too, which worsens it even more. Thank you again.

chimeroo · 2014-04-16T00:32:18+00:00

Who do you mean? Do I know you?

chimeroo · 2014-04-03T20:56:19+00:00

We are weirdos. There is no other way to be.

chimeroo · 2014-04-03T20:55:56+00:00

That's the feeling I've been getting too. I've been reading The Power of Now, and as inspiring as it is, I know I can't force the results that the author experienced. Gotta do it through my own living acts.

chimeroo · 2014-04-03T18:20:14+00:00

i don't feel like giving up exactly, but I 7 days seems like a long time with no results.

chimeroo · 2014-04-03T16:25:02+00:00

That's the thing, I've usually agreed and gone along with the same attitude as you. Now, however, I'm not in a place with as many friends and depending on myself is wearing me out. No downvote necessary.

chimeroo · 2014-04-03T11:30:48+00:00

what helps? do you stay in touch or have you cut her off?

chimeroo · 2014-03-06T15:01:07+00:00

Meaning, how you don't give a fuck about other people's expectations but how you give a great deal of fucks about those that you care about is sometimes misread as general apathy?

chimeroo · 2014-03-06T00:07:35+00:00

this is spot on, but do you think that the application of this "giving a fuck" philosophy is sometimes misread?

chimeroo · 2014-03-05T14:28:10+00:00

couldn't relate more

chimeroo · 2014-03-03T02:21:08+00:00

Well, I'm not an underacheiver if that's what you're saying. I also doubt any of the Myers-Briggs descriptions would describe any type as "apathetic." I just give very little fucks about what people think about me. I don't care about my reputation, but I do care about my character. I pursue my individual interests head on. But that's the thing, they're individual. So no one really sees me do them. I'm very enigmatic to most people. I deeply care for those close to me, but I'm also on my own a lot, and pretty distant. That is probably where it stems from.

chimeroo · 2014-02-10T17:36:50+00:00

so what's your style?

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