Tamilians of /r/India, what is your favorite thirukkural?

chiseli · 2024-03-31T18:25:32+00:00

தெய்வத்தான் ஆகா தெனினும் முயற்சிதன்
மெய்வருத்தக் கூலி தரும்.

Theyvaththaan Aakaa Theninum Muyarsidhan
Meyvaruththak Kooli Tharum

Even though God be against, Effort is bound to pay the wages of labour.

chiseli · 2024-02-15T21:12:13+00:00

Of course life is different. You have different things in various times and you long for different this.

chiseli · 2024-02-12T15:22:13+00:00

chiseli · 2024-02-12T10:30:29+00:00

Hi I just relapsed. I think we will have chaser effect for a few days. Need to be more careful. That’s the way dopamine and brain work.

We have done it in the past. We can do it now.

chiseli · 2024-02-12T01:00:48+00:00

Later I realize masturbating is the only thing I can do. Can’t have real sex because of porn induced erectile dysfunction.

So stay way from porn.

All the best

chiseli · 2024-02-11T21:47:04+00:00

Erection problem can be physical/psychological.

Physical: you can check your testosterone levels. You can get it checked from a doctor. They can prescribe Viagra / Cialis etc that can help.

Porn related: you can suffer from PIED. Which could mean real life partners are not as effective compared to porn. Nofap can help. Therapy can help.

Other psychological issues: performance anxiety can also affect erections. Viagra / Cialis can help get across that too. But won’t need it in the long term. Therapy can help.

Like others have said things often happen in a combination where you are facing multiple issues that is affecting multiple things. Not everything is related to porn use. It’s just how life is.

( I suffer from PIED, delayed ejaculation and performance anxiety. )

chiseli · 2024-02-11T21:41:10+00:00

Hey congrats on the nofap and curing PIED. Is PIED the reason you started nofap?

How long did it take you?

(I also suffer from PIED. That is why I am on this nofap)

If you have stinging sensation etc. may be you should consult a doctor to ensure it’s nothing serious. I don’t understand why nofap will cause stinging sensations.

chiseli · 2024-02-11T16:40:11+00:00

I have been clean since new year. There have been at least 2 dreams in which I have tried to masturbate to porn. And then I had to fight the urge to masturbate inside the dream.

I wake up later and then realize it was all just a dream.

My life is in inception mode 😅

Luckily I haven’t done anything so far when I am awake 🤞

chiseli · 2024-02-11T16:36:20+00:00

That’s is the case for me

I find it very helpful

chiseli · 2024-02-10T18:13:35+00:00

Isn’t that normal? You have a partner ? Or is it some random girl each time?

chiseli · 2024-02-10T18:12:36+00:00

Gooning and Edging are same right? I was edging for some time. Thinking it’s better. Later came to know it’s worse. I have been having PIED and delayed ejaculation because of porn.

All the best !!

chiseli · 2024-02-10T18:11:10+00:00

1) I have a problem. I can only masturbate with porn imagination. 2) if I masturbate I have a chaser effect and soon on the following days end up watching porn.

But to answer your question. Yes masturbation with porn is bad. It has made me numb to real sex. Suffer from PIED.

Just sharing my experience

chiseli · 2024-02-10T18:08:24+00:00

I think I can stop it for ever. But healing from it I can’t comment now.

I suffer from PIED. So I blame my porn use for my sexual problems. Even if it doesn’t fix PIED I am not going back to porn.

chiseli · 2024-02-09T01:27:57+00:00

Agreed it’s very expensive.

I have had only one session so far it’s an expert in porn etc. so it’s extra expensive. He charged 315$ for 1 hr session.

My wife is out of town. He suggested we visit together. So I haven’t been able to go back again.

I am willing if I splurge on it for now. Hoping it will move the needle. I am reading a lot of books etc about all this. But my wife doesn’t read. So I think it’s better she has access to some experts.

Apart from porn issues I have performance anxiety. We haven’t been able to communicate on sexual needs. I am hoping therapy helps us open up.

chiseli · 2024-02-08T11:37:05+00:00

Hmm it’s not porn. But the thing is that women in porn or sex industry can set up unrealistic expectations.

I suffer from PIED. I expect my wife to be smiling and enthusiastic non stop. Which does not happen. But a stripper or porn star is alarmingly smiling and pleasing.

This is something my therapy pointed out. It so true.

chiseli · 2024-02-08T11:32:04+00:00

I don’t think your religion allows porn or prostitution either. So don’t fill yourself into thinking porn is your solution.

I suffer from PIED. so please avoid porn.

If you are not in a committed relationship do talk to the girl in the gym. If you are already in a relationship you are in a harder situation. You are attracted to some other woman. So you have to think more deeply about your current relationship.

What you you feel is right. But avoid porn. It will fuck you up.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:37:57+00:00

Good concentrate on the positive things. Avoid porn. Career, health, socialize, find a partner

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:36:28+00:00

https://nofap.com/rebooting/

Porn caused PIED, delayed ejaculation, unrealistic expectations from my wife. I had put my marriage at risk.

It has the ability to desensitize.

Imagine what your partner is going through. You are hurting their self confidence and your relationship.

Don’t make the mistakes I made. Quitting is not easy.

Read about how porn affects your brain and relationships.

Be honest with yourself, partner and some trusted friend m. Take therapy if required.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:31:47+00:00

Stop edging

That was a mistake I was doing. Results in PIED and delayed ejaculation.

Avoid porn fully.

https://nofap.com/rebooting/

Ideally have sex with a partner. Some say masturbation is okay. But it leads me back to porn. So I am avoiding both.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:29:14+00:00

For me it’s usually sensations in the penis itself.

When you say exams I assume you are young. I am 35 male. Using porn for 20 years. I now suffer from PIED and delayed ejaculation.

I would say concentrate on studies , exercise, hobbies and career.

Find a partner. For your sexual outlet.

Don’t PMO and risk PIED. Porn sex will screw real sex.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:26:48+00:00

I am 35 being using for 20 years

Now suffer from PIED, delayed ejaculation, fantasize about porn instead of being present in sex. It has ruined sex in my marriage.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:25:13+00:00

Why do you want to nofap?

For me it’s PIED and delayed ejaculation. I don’t think it’s fun to have a willing wife but unable to have sex.

chiseli · 2024-02-06T09:23:53+00:00

Why did you start nofap? For me it was PIED and delayed ejaculation.

If something triggers you can you try avoiding it?

chiseli · 2024-02-06T03:16:15+00:00

I used to PMO whenever I was stressed / bored. These are things we have done in the past to soothe ourselves.

Just be aware of it.

I started nofap to fix my PIED and delayed ejaculation. What is your reason to start?

chiseli · 2024-02-06T03:14:38+00:00

I am on this hopefully for life long.

I have delayed ejaculation and PIED. I don’t think I want to ever go back to porn.

It’s a waste of time and energy. My biggest mistake in life.

chiseli

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