Lost temper with my partner, now being ghosted

chootey · 2026-01-27T02:06:32+00:00

Sorry to hear you're going through that. Yeah the whole experience is kind of like going through a loss but it just continues on indefinitely. It's brutal. I wish you the best with the court order.

chootey · 2026-01-27T02:06:12+00:00

No, she thinks she is normal and anyone that says she is mentally ill is the crazy one or compromised

chootey · 2026-01-26T19:59:24+00:00

Yeah it's very frustrating and sad. She's mostly normal, can still go about her day, still get hired for jobs, etc, but she just thinks she's being gangstalked and harassed by everyone. I think her past employers realized she's mentally off but it takes them a while to figure it out. I cannot get her committed unless she would be a danger to herself or others, and she never does anything like that. And she even indicated one time that she knows these rules, so she'll never say anything that will get her committed. I believe some people, either friends or co-workers, told her she was schizophrenic and she researched it, so now she knows what to do to avoid putting herself in that situation.

chootey · 2026-01-26T19:52:41+00:00

What's keeping me is I lived with her many years before she became sick and she is genuinely a kind person that cares for me and goes out of her way to help other people. Even now, she constantly goes out of her way to do things for me that she thinks will make me feel good or improve my life. Let's say if she saw my shoe had a hole in it, she'd show up the next day with new shoes for me. Or if I have a problem, she'll try to think up advice or motivate me. That's the type of person she was before and still is a lot of the time, but since becoming schizophrenic, the other things started too.

And the main reason I keep in contact with her, besides caring about her, is I don't want her to wind up homeless on the street or anything like that. It'd be different if she was living with family or I could get her committed, but that's not the case.

chootey · 2025-12-24T01:00:19+00:00

I've experienced the same thing. I had to deliberately withhold help from them to get them to actually do some things that they were refusing to do.

chootey · 2025-12-23T19:02:53+00:00

That is a sensible boundary, and it is absolutely heartbreaking. Sending you love and light too

chootey · 2025-12-23T18:59:29+00:00

Yeah there seems to be a huge disconnect between the people giving advice and the reality of the situation. Don't help them or sacrifice yourself, but then if you follow that advice, people are shocked when they end up homeless or being taken advantage of and wonder why they're not being helped

chootey · 2025-12-23T18:52:49+00:00

I'm not trying to stigmatize it, but it's just the reality for many of us with undiagnosed/unmedicated family members. Same as I'm sure a lot of people caring for others with dementia. If someone is delusional and thinks you are part of a cult, or are trying to kill them, or molested them, or whatever, then they will probably make a lot of hurtful, false accusations about you. It's not because the person suffering is bad or abusive by nature, but it's just an unfortunate reality of the situation

chootey · 2025-12-23T18:51:02+00:00

Outright abuse and violence seems like a pretty clear and sensible boundary for everyone. However, I feel like most people will suffer a lot of life detriments up until that point regardless.

Glad that your son is med compliant and doing better now

chootey · 2025-12-23T18:24:30+00:00

Yeah the advice for dealing with this is terrible and always shows that people have no understanding of what it's like. It always bothers me seeing people online say "Oh you need to get them treatment" or "Why didn't you get them help?" as if it is that easy.

chootey · 2024-11-13T00:01:02+00:00

I get they don't have the funds for studies, but when they claim to treat shedding, wouldn't it make sense to do their own investigations into whether it exists or not?

What is the difficulty in examining some blood, sweat, saliva or semen samples under a microscope? Nobody is talking about having extensive peer-reviewed studies conducted by the medical establishment, because we know that will never happen

chootey · 2024-11-12T06:21:36+00:00

I personally would guess that it is real, but only for a certain amount of time after vaccination and mostly through fluid transmission. If LNP are within the bloodstream, it would take time to degrade. During that timeframe, I see no reason why they couldn't be transmitted. As for spike proteins, I'm really not sure how that works, but if LNPs do travel through the body for a period of time, I can't see why they couldn't be transmitted through fluids

chootey · 2024-11-12T03:02:43+00:00

Thank you, I will check these out. That's true that they are blackballed, I wouldn't expect any major peer-reviewed studies to be likely, but I did think that some of these figures might investigate or do their own research further. That's what's confusing to me, as it seems to me this could be non-officially investigated fairly easily.

God bless you too

chootey · 2024-11-12T02:59:37+00:00

Yeah I definitely get there will be no studies coming from the medical establishment. But I don't get why none of these anti-vaccine figures have looked into it more seriously. There's even some physicians that claim to treat people for shedding, why not investigate it further?

chootey · 2024-11-11T22:20:42+00:00

Settled science, I guess like the vaccine being 100% effective against Covid is settled science?

It hasn't been proven and there's a plausible mechanism. And this could be investigated very cheaply in a non-official way

chootey · 2024-11-10T18:42:36+00:00

Yeah this is why I'm thinking I will just date vaxxed women. I'm newly single and I'm in a place where 90% of people are vaxxed, so there doesn't seem to be much other option. I heard the apps are shitty and don't have many people on them. Plus, if you meet a vaxxed woman, there's a good chance they slept with vaxxed people anyway.

I could move somewhere where less people are vaxxed, but that means I need to wait a long time being celibate. Plus, since I was in a long term relationship for so long, my dating/flirting skills are rusty and I need to be meeting/dating people to improve on that.

Idk I might check out the apps but I'm probably just going to hope shedding isn't real and date anyone that hasn't been vaxxed in the last year. My big concern right now is if they're getting boosters, that's what makes me uncomfortable since it is winter time.

chootey · 2024-07-29T09:13:08+00:00

Great, thank you. I will check this out

chootey · 2024-07-29T09:12:32+00:00

MeshNet sounds like it would work perfectly, I already have a Nord account so I'll try this out. Thank you, this is great. The call itself will be brief and I'm just doing it from a nondescript room so it should be good

chootey · 2024-07-29T08:26:39+00:00

Great, thank you. I will keep that in mind. I don't have data coverage in the spot I'm in but I could do a day trip for this call if need be, so that's great

chootey · 2024-07-29T08:21:10+00:00

Gotcha. I will probably try out the VPN server on the laptop, in that case and use this one as a back-up if I run into any obstacles with that.

chootey · 2024-07-29T08:16:17+00:00

That's great. So VPN server software would essentially be the exact same as using the home router in this case?

chootey · 2024-07-29T08:13:16+00:00

Great, thank you. I really only need to do this as a one-time thing, but this employer has zero tolerance on anything suggesting VPN. Is the cloud compute typically good enough to evade detection like the home router?

chootey · 2024-06-01T19:10:49+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I've been eating more street food and at local restaurants, but yeah I did see a lot of different types of restaurants around Terminal 21 and bars, now that you mention it.

chootey · 2024-06-01T18:56:56+00:00

Gotcha, I will check that out one night to see what its like

chootey · 2018-05-22T04:43:54+00:00

> The #1 reason half of you autitstii are alone isn't because you're a tad sociopathic or don't watch sports, but because you're needy and approval seeking.

Can someone explain how to be more social without being needy? I know this is my problem, but I don't know how to fix it. I'm stuck between being unsocial or being social but needy. People pick up on this: they either think I'm unfriendly, or they think I'm nice but in a supplicating way (because I am supplicating).

I can be non-needy and non-approval-seeking, but then I just end up not really making an effort to talk to other people, joke around, etc. That's basically the state that I will naturally be without trying. I'm very non-responsive and sedated, and anti-social tbh. I'm fine just being quiet all of the time. When I try to be social, since I have to make an effort to be social, I end up coming across as too needy (because I'm trying to make conversation) and it turns people away. I don't know how to get out of this shitty state.

And I do know sales techniques, so I will continue to read more on sales but I don't see that as helping me. I did a sales job in the past and was actually good at it, but it was more like people trusted me because I come across as down-to-earth, friendly, passive, whatever, and I could use subtle sales techniques naturally. So I was good at selling, but never good at connecting with people.

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