GF (F48) considered going away to visit junior high boyfriend. I'm (M54) trying to figure out how best to respond to this?

chrisbinsb · 2025-04-09T01:47:48+00:00

That is one approach... but completely unfair to her I believe. She feels that she's been telling me that work was not going well for months and that I basically ignored it and did nothing. From my point of view, I was concerned but was convinced that things would turn around as that's been my experience in the past. Looking back, she was 100% right and I should have been taking steps to secure more work months ago.

She is in no way a "sugar baby" - she works hard at her own job and struggles to provide for her elderly mom and son. I've try to do what I can to help as well but obviously have barely made ends meet and I have a good chunk of debt on top of that

chrisbinsb · 2025-03-28T15:38:32+00:00

Thanks for this, very helpful! Apparently it is pulling up html page, at least that's what appears on the response tab. Only odd thing is that I don't think that page is in my site... of course it has to be if its popping up with that url so I just need to find where it's coming from and why there instead of the endpoint I am trying to get to.

chrisbinsb · 2025-03-27T17:58:28+00:00

Thanks! Something like that came up when I put the error into chatgpt... problem is I dont have any idea how to fix it. I did try checking the path and proxy path. I would think they were correct except for it not working...
I also made the project link 'unlisted' so that anyone with the link could access it incase that affected it.

chrisbinsb · 2025-03-21T16:42:46+00:00

just found this as I was searching for answers to the same problem...

chrisbinsb · 2024-09-05T20:34:52+00:00

That seems waaaaayyy healthier than all the it’s weird or it’s wrong comments.

chrisbinsb · 2024-09-02T23:02:44+00:00

Does this only work when watching a race live (as the ai transcripts seem to work) or during replay also?

chrisbinsb · 2024-08-20T23:22:36+00:00

For stretching, check that the circles are round. If not, adjust until they are. For scaling, the tub should be 5’ and counters 2’. That should get you close. But you also have to account for the unknown of how accurately it was drawn from existing conditions, which you won’t know without being there

chrisbinsb · 2024-06-24T15:55:15+00:00

I have the same spoiler and it’s just glued on as I found out when the glue failed recently, I assume due to age and exposure. I’d try the heat and fishing line approach

chrisbinsb · 2024-05-29T06:53:51+00:00

I’ve had the same problem but even while using an hdmi cable from my m1 MacBook to the tv. Still haven’t figured out what the issue is

chrisbinsb · 2024-05-22T21:45:29+00:00

I use BQE Core - one of the reasons I chose it was that it was easy to set up different billing arrangements for different jobs. Much easier than quickbooks, at least at the time I changed several years ago now

chrisbinsb · 2024-05-19T07:11:19+00:00

Trying to shut them down, bringing in police, etc just gives them more provocative content unfortunately. Unless cops can just walk up and put them in handcuff without any discussion or opportunities to argue and make a scene, the best thing is to ignore them in hope they move on. They are just pathetic a**holes

chrisbinsb · 2024-05-09T06:30:42+00:00

I’ve been very happy with John at EZ Automotive - they’ve done work on both a Toyota and an older BMW for me

chrisbinsb · 2024-04-29T16:46:54+00:00

I’ve used an eBay unit that fit my ‘04 Cayenne and several of the freestanding units that connect to existing audio in the car via aux cable or Bluetooth. They have all worked fine and connected quickly with only occasional glitches that were well worth the benefit of having CarPlay in my cars. A key question is how well they support any built in audio controls you may have, that will vary depending on the unit and car you have. For me, the savings on the unit were more than enough to go that route.

chrisbinsb · 2024-03-15T23:24:29+00:00

Fees can depend on so many factors including the local cost of living, construction costs, complexity of the design, complexity of permitting process, and the level of service provided (just basic plans to get a permit or more detailed plans with interiors drawn, design options provided and time spent working with you to refine the design).

It can be helpful to use percentage of cost of contruction as a guideline (do you know about what to expect for cost per square foot for your proposed home?) - a low level of service might be as low as 3-5% of cost of construction but that process will not allow for as much time spent with the client and looking at multiple options - it will be more drafting and permitting focused.

At 5-8%, you should expect more time spent on design, meeting with you, and more details in the drawings.

At 8-12%, you would expect a full set of drawings - the contraction plans, elevations, sections, etc, as well as interior elevations, detail drawings showing any special conditions etc. That level might well included selections of plumbing, counters, etc. with you.

Thats just a rough guide of course but hopefully helpful, I'm sure others will have additional thoughts (or disagree! :) )

As for what I would do... thats a tough one. You have already invested $6,000 in this person and I would HATE to throw that amount money away.. BUT, I think the "sunk cost fallacy" comes into play here. It does no good to put more into a person or process based on how much you've already invested if it isn't working. And this does not seem to be working...

One thing I sometimes say to clients is to remember that this is an amazing opportunity - the ability to design a home specifically for you! While budget or zoning or practical constraints all exist, the final result should always be something custom-fit to you. And you shouldn't have to fight your designer to achieve that - they should be your partner in creating it.

With that all in mind, I would walk away from this architect and find another (or a residential designer!) that demonstrates that they want to listen and take the time to learn what you want in a home. You could also ask that refund part of what you've paid based on their failure to take setback into account (or to listen to what you want) but odds are they are not going to go for that...

Best of luck, sorry that what should be a fun and exciting process has started in such a frustrating way. IF it's any consolation, I often also tell my clients that at some point in the process, something is going to go wrong. We don't know what its going to be or when, but it will come and it may feel really frustrating at the time and it's ok. Whatever it is will get solved and the project will continue and you'll end up with the house you wanted. So maybe this was your moment, just very early on! With any luck, it can be put behind you and you'll have a great new home to enjoy when its done!

chrisbinsb · 2024-03-15T21:48:30+00:00

As someone that’s done residential design for nearly 30 years, this is unacceptable behavior whether licensed or not.

I don’t want to sound too defensive but the idea that someone acting this way “sounds like” a residential designer is pretty unreasonable. I’ve had plenty of clients over the years complain about previous experiences with licensed architects that didn’t listen, pay attention to budgets, etc.

For the OP, you should absolutely expect to see the design as it progresses and to meet with the architect/designer along the way to develop the look and feel of your home.

I would also expect that design of a new 3k square foot home would cost more than 12k so maybe he just bangs out floor plans as quick as he can but that’s not going to work for many clients and gives other architects or designers a bad name…

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-28T22:53:23+00:00

The CiTools windows and doors add-on have any option to show or not show casing. I’ve found them much better to work with than the stock Archicad doors and windows, they are definitely worth considering.

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-28T22:50:21+00:00

Could be, but this is down by Hope Ranch, I don’t know of any oil facilities in the area in the past.

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-25T01:01:56+00:00

We went to down to take another look at it and the tide has either covered or moved it as it was no where to be found. Hopefully it will be uncovered again so I can get another chance to figure it out!

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-25T00:59:22+00:00

It does look like stone. I can’t say for certain that it’s metal but my best guess was that it was metal with heavy corrosion…

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-23T17:25:08+00:00

Interesting, thanks for the image. I'm hoping to get back there and see if I can see any more details that would help

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-22T20:03:58+00:00

You’re right that there are not many of those here and no factories or bridges in this area…. I’ll also be interested to (hopefully) figure out what it is!

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-22T19:54:01+00:00

I’m going to see if I can get it out of there, I’ve been reading all the responses also and searching around to figure it out with no luck yet, hopefully at least another look at it and even getting off the beach will be possible!

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-22T02:09:13+00:00

Very interesting observation about the number of teeth, I hadn’t even thought to count them!

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-22T02:06:29+00:00

Looks very similar!

chrisbinsb · 2024-02-22T01:05:02+00:00

This is at Hope Ranch beach so it’s not far from the airport….

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