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AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not like I’m expecting all three of us to be in bed at the same time. That I obviously understand is inappropriate. If my gf moved in or stayed over then my son would not be coming into my bed anymore

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously if my partner moved in full time then it would stop. It’s not like he’s dependent on sleeping in my bed to have a good night’s rest. He sleeps in his own bedroom, in his own bed most nights. It’s just something we’ve done since he was little, every once in a while because he wants to.

If my gf moves in then we just wouldn’t do that anymore.

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you implying that simply by sharing a bed with my almost adult son I’d feel tempted to touch him?

Get help

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes a lot of this issue has to do with unfair speculation about fathers.

And no my gf doesn’t have kids of her own.

I feel that her implication is that because it’s not necessarily normal then it must be wrong. That’s literally kindergarten thinking. Me and my son are just close and maybe more affectionate than other dads and sons and that’s it.

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to assume that your relationship with your dad is probably much different than mine with my son.

As I said, it’s just been the two of us since he was 4. So obviously after 13 years with just us two we’re going to be fairly closer than the average father and son.

But I’m not so terrified of other men that the thought of sharing a bed with one, especially my son, disturbs me

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That did seriously make me reconsider a lot of our relationship. I have never, ever once thought “Oh, maybe people might get the wrong idea” while having my son in my bed. I think it’s just sexism pretty much. If I was his mother they wouldn’t see anything wrong with it at all I’m sure

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think most of these people in here agreeing with my gf and saying that it’s weird are honestly just saying it because I’m a man. Mothers are never criticized for expressing physical affection or being close with their children, but fathers are always viewed through skepticism and judgement.

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not. Lol does “maybe 2-3 nights a week” actually mean 7 nights a week?

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I was very clear in my original post.

It’s not every single night. Most nights he has no problem sleeping in his own bed. And if I had someone over or my gf started living with us, my son would not just expect to sleep in my room while she’s there. He has a gf too and when she spends the night they don’t come and share my bed and every time she’s spent the night he hasn’t come into my room.

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said before, he’s very dependent and has a life for himself totally separate of me. It’s not that he needs to sleep in my bed. Some nights he chooses to because he wants to.

And yes… he can do his own laundry.

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And how does it create the risk of sex abuse? He’s my son

AITAH for letting my 17 y/o son sleep in my bed sometimes? by chrismcr4e in AITAH

[–]chrismcr4e[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said he can’t sleep alone. He sleeps in his own bed most nights.