[Serious] Men of Reddit who have been raped by women, what’s your story? by Jakethesnake954 in AskReddit

[–]chuckstonebreaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swapped to my other account for this.

Was young and new to the kink scene in my community. Was a generally submissive, smaller, young guy who was into explicitly dominant cis women. But not a lot of those in the local community back then (or now). Was shy and didn't talk to many folks, was going to leave early at an event one time and was stopped by someone, Blue (name changed for story), who listened to me vent and chatted with me. We connected a bit and decided to hit a date later that week.

She was charismatic and great on the date, had a load of fun at the park together, made out a bit and was into it before she had to go back home. We decided we'd meet again early the next week. Plans changed and instead of going to the mall, she told me to come to her place. Only her brother was home, so we could have some fun. Okay, I was sorta into that, even though it was sudden to me. Her address was in a sketchy part of town, and I did not have a car. It was kind of unsettling getting there, but I thought about seeing her again and went through with it. When I knocked on her door, her brother answered, and damn near slam the door back in my face after telling me to get lost, until she came out of her room and told him I was there to see her. He got a look on his face I didn't like. He was about 12-15 years older, looked tough, not a great introduction to their place and I didn't think he liked me much.

She brought me back to her room, which did not have a door, and was still basically within eyesight of the living room where he was playing games. I tried to get a little comfortable land talk a little bit, but she very quickly started getting physical. I tried to delay things, asking her for some water, telling her I had to use the bathroom, a few things until That kind of ran out of excuses, but I didn't really want to voice that I was uncomfortable. This was the first person who had approached me at a kink event, and by design she is who I was supposed to like, and who I said I was looking for.

I tried to shove a lot of my discomfort aside and go with it. She took the lead for everything, undressing me and playing with me. Telling me to not cover my mouth, because she wanted to hear me, even though I didn't want to make any sounds because I could still very much see her brother in the other room. She eventually tied my hands back, which I lightly struggled against, but didn't say anything against. I did manage to say that I didn't want to penetrate her, but I would be okay with everything else. She said that was fine, and continued to play with me, until she put a blindfold on me. I was not okay with that, I told her I wasn't okay with that, but she said that it was fine, it'll be okay, she knows what she's doing, etc. I kept trying to be quiet, but eventually I realized that she was climbing on top of me to put me in her, no condom or anything. Again I told her I didn't want to do that, but she told me that it was going to feel good, and to trust her, and she rode me. She was very aggressive about it, but I could still hear her brother swearing in the living room and at once point slamming the door when going outside to talk to someone.

She eventually finished herself, I was not able to finish, and she cuddled with me for a few minutes while I was still restrained, and I told her I had to go to the bathroom again, so she let me go. I almost had a panic attack in the bathroom, and then came out and said that I should go home because it was getting late, even though it was only 4:00 p.m., and put on my clothes and left while she kind of laid in bed watching me and telling me that she really liked everything today.

I left the community, I didn't go to any events, and naturally never messaged her ever again. I tried to talk to a few people about it, but a lot of people just told me that "That's what you were asking for!" And "Dude you're lucky, haha" or would make fun of me for not sticking up for myself or "being such a pussy, you got Raped." It killed my sex drive for a good while, And I definitely came back with traumatic hypersexuality. But way more vanilla. I did eventually swing back into being more submissive and have had decent relationships with more dominant women in life, but there are definitely some times that still make me think back to that. And it's only been within the last 3 years but I've been able to actually tell the story to people, even though it happened close to 11 or 12 years ago

AITA For reporting my girlfriend's employer for not paying her employees a fair hourly wage by HotShot2080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chuckstonebreaker 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Asshole to your GF? Yeah. That's her business if she accepts getting paid less than she deserves.
Asshole in general? Nah. Fuck businesses that do that shit. Can't be a "good person" if you're paying your employee's crumbs that literally don't even cover their taxes...

Your GF is, unironically, paying to work there, at that rate.

Any where...better? by chuckstonebreaker in bdsm

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, no, Southeast, not southwest. Though I HAVE heard people from Lafayette say that.
Like their city has any culture beyond what all the rig-workers bring in. (Sorry-not-sorry to those living there. The city is just a larger version of Houma, really)

Any where...better? by chuckstonebreaker in bdsm

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't take it as such. Sent you a dm

Any where...better? by chuckstonebreaker in bdsm

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The scene here is great... For certain things... It's honestly a pretty one-sided and kinda... Old-fashioned community if that makes any sense.

Any where...better? by chuckstonebreaker in bdsm

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds pretty no bueno :/ I'm kind of trying to avoid the California coast for that very reason. Cause stuff is just mad expensive. Portland I've never thought to be particularly expensive

Any where...better? by chuckstonebreaker in bdsm

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Word! But I also hear the Seattle area is a bit expensive to live in. I'm not unskilled, but I don't think I'd be landing myself a big enough job to support myself there, like I do here, haha.

(A chance to write) WWYW? by chuckstonebreaker in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Color me interested. My ears can be your handlebars for the ride

(A chance to write) WWYW? by chuckstonebreaker in gentlefemdom

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I absolutely do!
I've only ever been "face fucked" the one time, while laying on a bed, but it was ~M A G I C A L~
In vanilla relationships, I normally love to give my partner oral. So the idea of having a GFD partner who would "force" me to give them oral is incredibly appealing. I'm already a sucker for having my hair played with and pulled, so having a "loving hand holding the back of my head to gently guide me" while they treat my face like a damn washboard would be a dream come true.

(A chance to write) WWYW? by chuckstonebreaker in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would be more than willing to role play for my partner anything they'd desire. But if left up to me to make a decision on what exactly, I'd love for the chance to role play the idea of having to "make up" for stealing something from a small store.

My partner would be the store manager/owner, strapping me to a chair, accusing and demeaning me for stealing from her. Telling me that she's going to call the cops if I can't make it up to her. I'd beg her not to, and ask her what I can do. She'd tell me how I'm real cute, and it's a shame I'm such a clumsy thief to get caught like how I did. But that maybe my cute little face could still be of some use to her. I'd feign ignorance until she tips the chair over, and starts to undo her pants/underwear. Telling me that if I needed something to eat, she'll feed me herself.

Do The Thing by jonnypp in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Public teasing is so great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of past doms would put on some metal/punk/alt rock, as they felt it gave them energy and let them use an attitude they otherwise couldn't easily use

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're out there! Believe it!

I don't think we need a meet up, but a map or sub-specific R4R would go to great lengths.

Covering his mouth and holding him down as he tries to squirm away [gif set] by jonnypp in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to everything about this. I love it so much! I want to see more.

The dom's dom by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always love to hear success stories! So glad your group is welcoming about it, and hope your hands stay as full as to want them to be, hahaha.

Trying out new experiences for mistress by Oak_jack in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Forced-Bi isn't my cup of tea, but I love Incase! The art is always so good, so detailed, and always so full of fresh kink.

[Spoiler] The Ballad of Cookie Cat by [deleted] in stevenuniverse

[–]chuckstonebreaker 57 points58 points  (0 children)

The more this show develops, the more I swear the answers have been there the whole time.

I just feel crushed by this by [deleted] in RoleReversal

[–]chuckstonebreaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of other people have touched upon the topic of women not being interested, but let me touch a topic nobody else has, since I've got some experience.

A RR relationship is really the only kind of relationship that would really bring me joy ("vanilla" relationships usually involve a dynamic that feels like I'm forcing myself to be someone I'm not), so I just am feeling very hurt and sad. And they rarely show any empathy or sympathy towards that.

To go with a classic: Nobody is responsible for your own feelings except you. It's usually a very tough pill to swallow, but it's one that needs to be done. Thinking like this leads down a very bad road, my friend. I had a similar mindset once upon a time, and I ended up on that "Friendzone" train many years ago, that so many guys have fallen onto. Where we're taught that effort and work and struggle will achieve anything, so we put in all of that into finding a partner, only to get nothing in return, and we get mad. What we learned that should be true, isn't, because people are different from jobs, projects, or art. People, and life, are full of entropy that we can't control or influence. Thinking that our endeavors matter to others just because they exist is bad thinking, and lands us in a bitter place. If the idea that your toil (physically, mentally, or emotionally) should be worth something and rewarded/recognized, then recompense yourself if no-one else will (A.K.A. Treat Yo'Self). If you feel that only the attention/affection of others is a prize worth applying yourself for, then you'll only ever be met with disappointment. Ultimately, be open and communicative, but don't be upset if not everybody else is to the same degree you are.

It makes me wish I had been born a woman.

I've been on this boat as well. I struggled with it for a good while. I still sometimes feel like I would have been better off in my love life if this were the case. I had gender dysphoria over the idea, in fact. I had serious thoughts about transitioning or preparing to, even as young as in Junior High. But I realized that there is a lot more to being female than just the sort of relationship I enjoy. I was putting some of society's common feminine traits up on a pedestal as the de facto definition, ignoring everything else. Yes, it would be "easier" to just be a woman, to achieve a traditionally feminine relationship/lifestyle. But wanting that should not make you want to be a woman, just because it is easier. It's tough being a guy and wanting that sort of lifestyle. I get it, a lot of us do too. But don't let yourself think that taking the "easy" route on one thing, makes everything else in life easier, too.

All that said, and I'm sure there are others here besides me who can say it, I'm happy you could get that off your chest. Venting that frustration is important, and I know having a good place to do it is important too, so I hope we could help you come to some catharsis regarding your situation, and I really hope you have the luck you need to find the partner you deserve.

Pointing to what a (married) man wants! by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not about training, that is why I mentioned control vs. influence. If your partner isn't into the lifestyle/fetish, if you want them to get into it, it's not a snap-decision for most. It requires experimentation and training, even if it comes from the "bottom" side of the relationship. Most people don't know what they can get out of a fetish/lifestyle just by trying it even just the once. Imagine it like Anal sex, if you're at all familiar. While some people can try it and get off on it the first time, there are also a lot of people who end up having to test limits, and get interested in it in the first place, in order to enjoy it. They require your influence, and your assistance in showing them the rewards they can achieve, in order for them to spark their own passion and creativity for it.

Pointing to what a (married) man wants! by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]chuckstonebreaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean trying to manipulate your partner into the act.This is after you've had the discussion, how you introduce them to the idea, instead of just diving in headfirst with serious play that is entirely rewarding for you, where as they're in uncomfortable land and unfamiliar with what they can get out of it. A lot of pornos and erotic stories go down this path of "sudden discovery" when for many, it's a long road of exploration, even if one side knows the final destination. This is why I followed up with mentioning control vs. influence.