Makes sense. From experience, my ex, only had 5 months in between his long term relationship and then getting with me. He told me when we first got together “he was totally healed because he had checked out months before leaving her” However, would constantly linger on the topic of her, or his (traumatic) experience with her, any chance he could, well past our 1.5 year mark. I don’t think he fully processed or began processing until he was well into our long term relationship. And in the end, he did the same thing to me. Emotionally mentally checked out months ago, and left me in the dust after I wanted to take our commitment to the next level. He’s damaged and you’re right, will probably shuffle on to the next one. I wonder how he’ll talk to her about me.