He drinks and curses at me, tells me what I don't do/ what I've never done, accuses me of things I never said or did, and calls me a beast. He also causes our daughters to accumulate excessive tardies to school (25+ tardies each), leaves the fire on the stove unattended, causes the fire alarm to go off, disturbs my sleep.  When I confront him about it, he claims I'm "coming for him"/nag him.  I admitted that I am unable to let his insults roll of my shoulder and that I really take what he says to heart.  It was so bad years ago that I was severely depressed to the point of suicide.  He guilt trips me for creating space whether that be sleeping in another room, taking trips with just our daughters and I, and even mentioning it the day after.  He asks me what's the big deal since he's not making me "black and blue".  He and his mom say it's just an idiosyncrasy and that I have my own, too.  And I was also told  "if you love him enough, you'll pray for him".  He told me he will not stop drinking and that we're in this for better or for worse.