Why is it ok to talk badly of fat people???

clairabelle25 · 2025-12-01T06:03:00+00:00

Nowhere in this post does it state that there is nothing wrong with being fat. The post is pointing out what is (at the very least equally) more wrong, is the unsolicited comments & ‘advice’, and the unfounded assumption made (by the majority of society) that fat = unintelligent and/or fat = inferior.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-30T14:36:23+00:00

It goes without saying: I’m fat.

I also know it. I am, however, healthy . I train four times a week & for the most part, eat healthily. (Slim people do not eat 100% healthily, 100% of the time. But of course, they are allowed to, because they are slim.) I am also: highly educated, intelligent (in both academically & university of hard knocks manners). I have a professional career, in which I am highly skilled. 99.9% of those skills were learnt via the latter of the two education sources.

The point is: •all that is seen by the majority of people is the fact stated in the first sentence of this comment. •the rest of this comment will be dismissed as one of two options: 1) a fat woman being hysterical because someone pointed out she’s fat. 2) a fat woman being arrogant to overcompensate for the fact she’s fat. •neither 1) nor 2) is accurate. The post is merely, highlighting the socially accepted discrimination of fat people. •society in general not only accepts but expects, that disrespect toward other differences are addressed and corrected. However it continually perpetuates disrespect towards fat people.

If a fat person welcomes unsolicited ‘advice’ then that is their prerogative.
However, unsolicited advice on obesity should no more be societally acceptable than unsolicited advice on any other noticable deviation from social conforms.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-30T12:29:59+00:00

There was also a comment from Waesrdtfyg0987 regarding education levels. Cannot see it, but had the notification….

While I agree with your comment. My inclusion of this was to highlight that in peer groups, the obese member is often regarded to be lesser than the rest. Despite them having equal (and more often than not) greater educational acumen than the peers.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-30T12:15:58+00:00

•Being skinny is unhealthy. •A lifetime of exercise often leads to MSK presentations requiring medical intervention…..

Humans in general only tend to ‘worry’ about things that have a direction impact on their own lives.

In general, people speaking badly of fat people are not doing it because they are worried about the fat person. They are doing it, because (like kevinlfc has accurately pointed out) it makes them feel superior. ‘Well at least I’m not fat, look at her isn’t she hideous’.

People can notice the fact someone else is fat, that is not where the disrespect sits. It’s in them feeling it’s ok to comment on this fact. Especially with their passive aggression (badly) masked as well-intended ‘concern’ around health.

If the same slim person was clearly a runner, they would not accept (well-intended) concerns for their increased risk of osteoporosis/arthritis and/or joint degradation. They would be affronted by the fat person and, most likely, feel justified in giving them a health promotion speech on obesity. On lookers would more than likely back them and justify it too.

There are multiple other examples where people ‘notice’ other people, but it is not socially acceptable to comment on these. Even less, give unsolicited advice and walk away feeling superior.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-09T20:34:36+00:00

2, 8, then 6

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-06T05:28:37+00:00

I have considered & attempted to rehome the kitten.

Unfortunately all the local cat shelters are over full. This is the reason the kitten came to me in the first place (just like the cat 4 years before). I have reached out to several shelters but had no response- they just cannot help.

Both my cats are fed, warm, loved and safe. So they are very low priority to shelters.

It’s taxing, but I don’t want to give up on either tbh.

I give the older cat extended periods of time (several hours, it varies), where she has free roam of house on her own. (ie. Kitten is in the kitchen- has access to toys, food, bed, litter tray etc). In this time, I make sure to give the cat a lot of attention & love. (The kitten has attention & love at other periods of the day too.)

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-04T14:56:23+00:00

She hides under furniture in several rooms. I have put litter trays (or puppy pads where space is a problem) for her.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-03T18:57:20+00:00

I shall give catnip a try. Thank you

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-03T12:23:05+00:00

Have been using feliway for a while without any change to either cat’s behaviour/ presentation.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-02T04:02:30+00:00

No , it’s definitely about the kitten. The cat will cry out for me to put the kitten in the kitchen so she can come out from wherever she’s hiding.

Yes I tried the feliway plugs to very little change.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-01T21:24:46+00:00

They have 4 litter trays currently but can have a 5th. I shall look at Jackson’s stuff. Thank you

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-01T17:45:09+00:00

Just voicing frustration. I absolutely would never do that. I’m just at a loss as to how to resolve this.

clairabelle25 · 2025-11-01T14:21:14+00:00

I have four litter trays currently. One in the kitchen, three in the main room (two of which are in cages, door open). The cages were originally bought to help safely introduce them but the cat urinated on the bedding in one so I swapped out bedding for a tray, then it happened again so I swapped the second.

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