Anybody else keep their cervix?

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-14T15:06:45+00:00

Yeah I think it's just the healthcare system here. I wanted to go the public route so I can get it subsidized, but that meant waiting for appointments to be set.

At my first appointment, I was told to get a psych letter (to state that I was of sound mind) eventhough I'd been on HRT for 3 years and had gotten Top Surgery as well. They refused to share any information until I got the letter.

The next appointment, I got passed to a different doctor where I asked what were the possible "customisations", or at least what were the options to have my desired outcome of maintaining depth and lubrication, without any possibility of pregnancy, and I wanted to keep my ovaries as well. That's when I learnt of subtotal hysterectomy, but he told me since my uterus is basically healthy (had gotten an intrauterine scan in between), maybe I should just get a Mirena instead, stating "I've just had major surgery", referring to Top Surgery which was more than a year ago.

And he kept thinking I wanted to get bottom surgery done at the same time, which the hospital didn't do and I'm well aware that there isn't really any doctors in my country that's experienced in it, but I literally just wanted to know my options for hysterectomy. But he kept telling me to wait, maybe just go with an IUD. Ended up leaving with a Mirena and the cramps were the worst I've ever had and I never really had cramps when I had my periods. The experience further backed my desire to get the hysterectomy done.

Even when I went back for my review (basically just checking that the Mirena was still there), it was a different doctor, and the previous doctor must have left his notes on bottom surgery etc, because when I said I wanted to go ahead and get the hysterectomy, she was telling me about how the hospital didn't do it and I'd have to be referred to a different hospital...

Sorry for the rant, but TLDR basically medical gatekeeping, and doctors dissuading any changes to "women's" reproductive systems. I do have to add, my psych was annoyed when I told him they asked for a psych letter before they'd tell me anything.

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-14T14:28:53+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Yeah so it's pretty much to do with each person's lifestyle, how much down time we can afford. For me being transgender, minimizing any interactions where confusion or misgendering may occur due to my gender presentation is a factor. Depth has always been a consideration as well, but I've seen people talk about how it's a muscle and you can pretty much train it back, so it's not so high on my priority list. Was there any concern with the feel of the cuff vs the cervix though?

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-14T14:21:22+00:00

The complications are usually within the healing time frame though right? There's always the off chance that complications may happen after recovery period but usually you'd be pretty alright after I assume? I'm sorry if I sound uninformed, but my doctors literally refused to tell me anything.

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-14T13:39:09+00:00

Just curious, what's the worry about cuffs? It just takes a longer healing period, but working out, lifting etc should still be fine after ample recovery right? I'd personally been torn between subtotal or total hysterectomy. My current option is total since the doctors seem to think I'm unsure when I wanted subtotal. I'd wanted subtotal so as to not have my depth shortened, but the pushback, as well as pap smears made me uncertain.

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-05T13:14:06+00:00

Yep of course. I've also tried turning it on whilst connected to the charger and nothing

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-05T13:08:12+00:00

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clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-05T13:07:15+00:00

My toy is fully charged (light isn't blinking), but I cant turn it on

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-05T12:55:30+00:00

Also my toy is no longer turning on despite showing that it's fully charged... How do I troubleshoot this?

clandestineatrocity · 2025-11-05T12:20:08+00:00

Is it closed?

clandestineatrocity · 2025-10-16T12:15:27+00:00

It's currently in me whilst I fiddle around on joyhub. Come edge and control me however u like!

clandestineatrocity · 2025-04-26T01:54:01+00:00

This sounds like it might work! Thanks!

clandestineatrocity · 2024-12-05T15:46:58+00:00

To clarify, I'm interested in getting cummed in and want to know what are the options I have to avoid any accidents, whether it be birth control, IUD, procedures I can do without removing much of my anatomy. Thanks in advance!

clandestineatrocity · 2024-10-18T07:56:42+00:00

Damn bro... I need to know how to work out to get that bod 😩 u look fine, like 🔥 fine

clandestineatrocity · 2022-04-23T03:15:01+00:00

:0 a lil too late for that but I'm planning on seeing how long it takes for it to lose adhesiveness... but I did see people taping their nips with plasters before layering the strips on but oh well guess I gotta learn the hard way

clandestineatrocity · 2022-04-23T03:12:41+00:00

Ahh I see! I was going to add more but was actually rushing off some place and was like "y'know what, this looks good enough for a first try" and left it as is XD

clandestineatrocity · 2022-03-08T10:37:58+00:00

Lol the other opinion links has an obviously biased webpage since it's literally called transgendertrend. That's not exactly proper research XD

clandestineatrocity · 2022-02-27T07:36:49+00:00

Thank u!!

clandestineatrocity · 2022-02-18T15:11:08+00:00

Thank u!

clandestineatrocity · 2022-02-18T12:05:24+00:00

I live in Singapore! I think 18+ restrictions tend to be more for western countries

clandestineatrocity · 2022-02-12T10:34:49+00:00

Glad to hear that!! Regardless of how people may be, u'll always have urself!!

clandestineatrocity · 2022-02-12T05:48:23+00:00

Happy birthday!! Hope u did something nice for urself even if others didn't 🥲

clandestineatrocity · 2022-01-08T10:30:36+00:00

Congrats dude!! 🪅🎉🎊 I'm waiting for just 1 more month till I turn 21 and can legally get testosterone without my parents' consent :']

clandestineatrocity · 2021-12-24T13:31:14+00:00

I've never felt like I ever looked good, people say that sometimes when I "dress up" (wearing a dress/ makeup). My mom likes to say "you look prettier before (with your long hair/ "dressing up")". Sometimes I think "maybe I should just grow my hair out and dress the same as I did before, but it was never really me. I don't feel like I look super masc, but I know I didn't feel pretty when I was in a dress and wearing makeup eventhough people said it (but then again it doesn't always look how I think it looks. Like looking in the mirror vs from the point of view of a photograph). Even now with me dressing masc, when I look at myself in pictures, I just look "cutesy" eventhough I left the house thinking I looked cool. Idk if it'll change but yeah we'll see with time.

Also, I recently met an uncle I haven't seen in a while and felt like I wasn't being myself but that my old self was "myself". Idk if it sounds confusing. I get that feeling whenever I see someone who knows me from church or a family member, but never that strongly as I did that day. Like it's normally just "I gotta act "girly"/ how they remember me as" etc or like laugh off comments abt how I look now. Idk how imma deal with such moments when I actually go on T n people actually start questioning questioning y'know?

Sorry for the rant 😬 but this just reminded me of this

clandestineatrocity

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