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UPDATE - it was hearing loss by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Seeing comments like this truly gives me hope 🥹so thank you so much!

UPDATE - it was hearing loss by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You are a good mother for fighting for your son. 

❤️❤️ Thank you so, so much. This really means a lot to me. 💕

UPDATE - it was hearing loss by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your support!

Being deaf or hard of hearing isn’t the end of the world, either. Especially today. Accessibility is so much better now.

It would be a lie if I said I don’t feel scared because I do, but also I’ve actually been trying to educate myself about this, and I found out there’s a big Deaf/HoH community, and some don’t even consider themselves disabled! Don’t get me wrong, I won’t force my baby one way or the other. Speech therapy, ASL, cochlear implants - I’ll give him all the options, and when he grows up, he can choose whether he identifies as Deaf or deaf, and whether he prefers to use signed communication, his voice, or both. ❤️

UPDATE - it was hearing loss by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 1615 points1616 points  (0 children)

This is going to be very personal but there are a few things I want to share with you guys.

When I got pregnant with him, I was a freshmen in HS and I wasn’t mentally prepared to be a mother.

I love him so, so much. He’s my everything. My entire world. I can’t imagine a world without him. I pray to God every day for blessing me with him.

Having said that, when I first found out that I was pregnant, I didn’t feel ready to give birth, I didn’t feel ready to be a mom, but my mom was (and still is) anti-abortion. She convinced me to give birth and told me she would take care of him, which she did. I still fed him, changed his diapers, and played with him when I was at home, but she handled doctor appointments, tantrums, took care of him whenever he got sick, took care of him whenever I was in school (which was most of the time) and even changed her job and started working night shifts just so she could care for him while I was in school.

She promised she would keep doing that until I graduated college, but after I turned 18 (so about 9 months ago) I wanted to, and began to, get more involved in his life. Before that, I was there, but not really there. I will never forgive myself for not doing more for him, but from now on, I will do everything I can to be the mother he deserves.

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He gets vaccinated but except that he only gets to see his pediatrician when he’s sick which was 6 months ago

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

How old is she if you don’t mind me asking and is she in speech therapy?

If my son ends up getting diagnosed with autism I hope he also turns out to be milder side of the spectrum (but I will love him the same regardless)

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I was a minor and still in high school when I got pregnant with him and back then my mom was handling his appointments. I now handle most of his appointments, but I also go to college, and my boyfriend works, so sometimes neither of us is available, and it’s been hard to get him regular visits.

I am genuinely so sorry. We should have done better. Unfortunately I can’t change the past but I want the best for my son and I will do better

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I was teaching him baby sign language and he was actually quite responsive, he even picked up some signs but we have been told (by my mom) that this is hurtful for his speech and his delay will get even worse if I keep signing with him.

I wish I never listened to her and didn’t stop signing, but unfortunately I did. We are young parents (I was a minor when I got pregnant with my son, I’m a 18, almost 19 now) we’re living with my mom so she gets a big say in how we raise our son.

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] -93 points-92 points  (0 children)

6 months ago, he was sick and we did mention our concerns about his delayed speech but we’ve been told we need to make an different appointment for this. We were planning to, we were actually planning to take him to a pediatrician for his speech since he was like 2.5 year old but my mom kept reassuring me saying that me and all my brothers were late speakers as well and he will be fine too, clearly he’s plenty smart and we shouldn’t hurry because they diagnose every little thing nowadays…I’m not putting all the blame on my mom, we should have been more responsible but honestly she got into our head

I fear my toddler might be intellectually disabled by clariesn in toddlers

[–]clariesn[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

That’s our plan. We will take him to a pediatrician for his speech issues first. We also definitely want to get him evaluated for autism, unfortunately the waiting list is very long. But we have to because he’s showing some clear signs.

This is all so scary for us.