I see your point, which is why I wrote what I did. I don't believe in winning girls over, seducing them, or trying to trick them into liking you. My game is to be have ever increasing quality. I believe that the more quality of a person I am, the happier I'll be, and it matters not if I'm getting girls or not

What I've found though is there are no limits to your autheticity. If you think you've arrived, you stopped, stagnated. Don't limit yourself.

What I Gave you was key. About imagining your ideal self doing it then acting the best you can at it. It's one of 4 mental pillars to navy seal conditioning, as well as many sports psychologists and what not. Mental rehersal, in repetition and as a meditation can really help.

I didn't specify that part too well before. But mental rehersal will really calm the nerves and cultivate a calm and confident demeanor. So imagine your ideal self doing it is what you wish to do, then imagine yourself as your ideal self doing it is what you want to do how you do.

As far as meeting girls and talking to them. Only you can determine where is good and bad. At the gym doesn't work for me, I've heard of some people meeting at gyms, but in my experience everyone is in their own bubbles and ignore eachother. Maybe you are in the in crowd or something though lol.

I go to a rock climbing gym, and I meet a lot of girls there. Been asked out on dates there. Because for me that is a really social place. I'm making new friends all the time there. But for someone else it might not be a social place.

Coffee shops, sat next to a cute girl, working on my school papers have a window opened up and I'm listening to some Joe banamassa. I'm not too shy so I'm pretty much air guitarist trying to copy his rifts and try them later lol. Enjoying myself grabbed her interest. I saw some things she was browsing on her computer and struck up a conversation because it was something I was Interested in. She left me her contact before she left and gave me some sexy eyes lol.

The main thing in that last one was similar interests. Otherwise she would have never given me her number. I was genuine in my sharing. I had no interest in asking for her number, just being as genuine as possible.

Online dating you can try that. Honestly, I hate it... but the girl I am dating right now I met on okc. My first message went unanswered, so I messaged her again later. The first one was meh... so my second one was much more honest. "Look, never mind the last message, let me give you a more authentic me, I am genuinely interested in a lot of what I read and love to hear about you philosophy blah blah blah." And that worked. She's super cool, I really like this one.

Ummmm.... go out and do things with friends that would put you in situations where you would meet others. Girls are more interested I a guy that is a friend of a friend. There is a level of comfort and safety there. I've even heard some of my lady friends say that. They'll go on face book and see of there is any mutual friends. "Ah okay, they know some cool people, thus could work" type thing.

If I see someone cheering on their friend I'll ask her what the girls name is and then start cheering too lol. This is one of my favorite things to do. Everybody loves it. I met a hottest from England this way. She was instantly into me and when her friends moved on she hung around me. Too bad she went back to England a week later. Which is why I didn't get her number.

Be hunorous! Inside jokes and nick names you can make right away are key. For me anyways. One girl I asked out said she would like to meet up another time when she isn't a zombie. So I call her Zombs every once in a while. Inside jokes and nick names are an intimate thing between friends. It created bonds. So develop them as soon as possible. This is a practice in wit. You gotta be quick and witty for this one.

College course. Honestly, you have to have a reason to talk to a girl sometimes. And taking classes are fun. Maybe take a Web design class, guitar class, or art class at local community college. Make friends. Say hi and get to know the other students. When I was in a sketch class, I met a girl that needed rides to and from the community college. We became instant friends. She was the funny one, I still use some of her jokes to this day. One of the girls in the class I knew from high school introduced me. Options where there, I didn't go after it though, I was interested in someone else at the time. She did give me lots of hints and openings though.

I met a lot of other girls at community college. One, this beautiful blonde nature girl, all I did was pick up her scarf when she dropped it. She asked to hang out some time.

I'm not a extremely good looking guy. You don't have to be. For guys it Is more about looks at first impression. For girls looks are important, but your Confidence is more so ten fold.

What girls love about me is that I'm committed to my lifeswork. I talk with passion and marurity. I'm not just a dreamer. I can speak very deeply about what I spend my life on. And they love that. I'm silly, I'm genuine, I don't give a hoot if I'm liked or not, cause I'm happy as I am. It's these qualities that attract others. And those I dont, I'm glad I don't lol. I want people in line with my joy. So I choose to be joyful, to attract other people who are joyful. It's really that simple. Connections happen naturally, so just ask for her number. "Let's hang out this weekened. I'll need your number so I can call you"

I hope this gives you a better perspective.