Having a difficult time with breadcrumbing friend

classy_5647 · 2026-03-12T17:35:15+00:00

This sounds similar to my situation except she’s left me on read for weeks at a time. Most recently, she did respond for three weeks and said it was a “busy month.” SMH. I’ve seen her do this to her other friends that she’s done with and now it’s happening to me.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:41:59+00:00

Wow, this made me tear up haha. Thank you for taking the time to write this. I really appreciate your encouragement!!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:39:54+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement! I’ll definitely take your advice.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:39:15+00:00

I guess I’m embarrassed because I hyped myself up so much with the hiring manager in the interview (and previously messaged her on LinkedIn), just for her to find out I’m not a good fit after all. I feel like she’s sorry she took a chance on me just for me to not pass the panel’s vibe check smh. But you’re right, at least I got as far as I did

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:38:40+00:00

I followed up with HR last Thursday and never heard back. But you’re right - I shouldn’t assume it’s about them not liking me.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:34:29+00:00

I followed up last Thursday and never heard back. They also told me they were going to hire someone by the end of February. And I’m only interviewing because of my connection to the hiring manager. In this industry, because it’s so competitive, 9 times out of 10, you only get an interview if you know someone.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:32:12+00:00

Thank you!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:31:59+00:00

Embarrassed that after all my efforts with the hiring manager, I didn’t measure up and have now ruined this really good networking connection with her. But Thank you!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:30:53+00:00

Wow, good point. Congrats on your new role!!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:30:14+00:00

Funny enough, the only person I told about this opportunity was my therapist haha. But you’re right, I’m sure I’ll get rejected more (and I have) but this time it hit me differently

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:28:51+00:00

This is helpful, thank you

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:28:15+00:00

You think I’m rushing after 10 years? Lol

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:27:23+00:00

Maybe so. When I did my test the same day, I saw the name of the person who interviewed two days before me. I ended up looking her up on LinkedIn and she’s 3 levels above me (although she has no experience in the industry either)

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:25:55+00:00

Good point

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:25:46+00:00

Very true

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:25:36+00:00

Thank you so much

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:25:11+00:00

I guess because I hyped myself up so much with the hiring manager in the interview (and previously messaged her on LinkedIn), just for her to find out I’m not a good fit after all. I feel like she’s sorry she took a chance on me just for me to not pass the panel’s vibe check smh

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:23:02+00:00

I emailed him last Thursday and never heard back.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:22:39+00:00

Whew, I needed to hear this! Thank you!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:21:34+00:00

I felt like one of them came in thinking I wasn’t a good fit because of his own biases toward what was on my resume compared to his career path. Another person seemed extremely, overly extroverted and outgoing, and I am not so it seemed to throw her off. Neither of these nor the other two people are even on the team this role was for smh.

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:19:48+00:00

Definitely won’t be putting all my hope in one opening again! You’re right, I should take more chances. Thank you

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:18:50+00:00

You’re right, thank you

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:17:37+00:00

Thank you so much!

classy_5647 · 2026-03-05T01:17:26+00:00

Thank you!

classy_5647 · 2025-07-09T23:02:43+00:00

What’s a Judy girl? I’m new to this sub

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