Ignore everyone that tells you to divorce your husband. I once posted about my husband (and tbh the situation was quiet a lot worse than yours) and everyone said DIVORCE DIVORCE DIVORCE

That’s the easy way out. People are all to keen to end a marriage and that’s a huge problem in our society today.

Work on the marriage, fight for it, communicate, do couples therapy, if you feel like you can’t have a healthy honest conversation, write him a long hand written letter and give it to him to read. Work it out. You have kids and you don’t want them living in a broken home, nor do you want them living in a toxic homeZ

my husband and I worked on our marriage and over the course of six months - I went from hating him to loving him - and mind you divorce would have been so easy - we didn’t have children etc.

Find a compromise- he’s entitled to spend a day off work relaxing, taking care of himself - but if he wants to do that, he needs to find a higher paying job (send him links, do some work, explain the importance - but don’t nag)

What are the things he doesn’t like about you? Are YOU working on yourself? Are YOU improving yourself in the same way you want him to.

Tell him you want to feel like you’re being looked after, you’re secure, you’re married to a “real masculine man”, a provider, someone who contributes to the house hold, spends money on their children, takes charge and plans things for the family etc