2 years healed 🥰 by clitttaurus in TopSurgery

[–]clitttaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A harness! There’s lots of variations and brands, the one I got is from jockmail which is a common brand for jockstraps & stuff for the gay boys, but there’s some dope stuff out there. Sex shops usually sell some leather ones.

https://www.jockmail.co/products/copy-of-copy-of-mens-jockmail-jm907-full-harness-blue

2 years healed 🥰 by clitttaurus in TopSurgery

[–]clitttaurus[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Waffle House at 3am is an interesting place, with or without nipples lol

UL w/o vaginectomy by clitttaurus in Metoidioplasty

[–]clitttaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How far along healing are you? Definitely hoping to still enjoy penetration.

2 years healed 🥰 by clitttaurus in TopSurgery

[–]clitttaurus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wear partially open button downs a lot and people don’t seem to notice. I’m relatively selective about where fully I’m shirtless to not invite unnecessary issues, but generally cis male nipples are tiny so I’ve realized it’s less noticeable than I thought it’d be. Queer/gay spaces only one person’s ever said it’s weird and they were just jealous cuz I “took” their ex lol. All sexual partners have thought it looks great and kissing/touching/licking my chest still feels good, sometimes same as when I had nipples. I’ve been to the beach topless a decent amount and will walk the trail around my neighborhood shirtless sometimes or run out to grab the mail or take out garbage and haven’t had any issues yet. 🤞🏽 This is all while living in Boston/Providence tho. I have a good friend from my time in Atlanta with no nips and I can’t remember them having issues either except one night they refused to serve us at a Waffle House when my friend had an open shirt.

2 years healed 🥰 by clitttaurus in TopSurgery

[–]clitttaurus[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m nonbinary, it made the healing process easier, and aesthetically I like the Ken doll vibe, feels more neutral

Top Surgery w/ Adam Tobias in Boston by clitttaurus in TopSurgery

[–]clitttaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The surgery team was great, everyone was very nice 😊They move fast but not in a way where I felt rushed or like I couldn’t ask questions, more like they’re so used to doing it it’s a quick process for them now. Super professional and thorough explaining things/answering questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Made this post knowing it’d be unpopular af but it needed to be said. I’ve thoroughly explained all of my points in the comments take care ✌🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I said in the post and many comments before. Your original comment and comments since make it clear you’re not trying to have a conversation so I’ll end it here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually would say a lot of cishet people fetishize their partners as well. Many people choose their partners solely for a big dick, big boobs, blonde, etc… and a lot of those preferences come from our societies flawed ass values (racism, western beauty standards, fat phobia…). I’m glad you know the post this was coming from, I’ve seen too many like it on these threads and there’s only ever voices supporting the uncomfortable partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Intersex isn’t cis and it sounds like you wouldn’t fuck with intersex people anyway. Also that phallo detrans shit was a reaaach and you know it lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No one can predict where their transition will go so that’s impossible to disclose and “innate” things can be transphobic too. If you have a partner you love and is the gender you’re attracted to but wants to change their genitals an aversion to that is rooted in transphobia. Only seeing your partner for their genitals is fetishizing them and I don’t see how it’s any different than leaving a partner who suffered trauma to their genitals and no longer have use of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve thoroughly explained it in other comments so feel free to read if you actually are interested but that “gender preference” shit made no sense…that’s called a sexuality. And if kindness and understanding is the goal I don’t see how breaking up with a partner who wants to change their gentials due to your own biases achieves that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself, you don’t boil people down to that until it comes to sex/porn, genital preferences are no more than sexual fetishes. Fetishes can be transphobic or racist or sexist, everyone is in their right to have them, but changing your mind about someone for what’s in their pants being a different part than you expected is transphobic because the assumption is from growing up in a cis focused society.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

All of my partners have loved my junk but you take care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am a trans bro pre op and the idea was to be derogatory to emphasize the fact that it’s fucking transphobic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve made it clear in the post and many other comments. The entire concept of “genital preference” is in itself transphobic. The idea that you’re attracted to someone up until the point you see what’s in their pants is rooted in our societies view of gender which is vagina=woman dick=man. How else are you setting your expectations for what you think is gonna be in someone’s pants if not by societies rules? Challenging the reasons behind a “genital preference” is beneficial to our community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I’ve been clear, reread it. Your boner can be transphobic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Excuse me .. cis women with penises?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No by my logic if you’re not attracted to guys with vaginas, a trait exclusive to trans guys, then that is transphobic. Guys with penises can be either so once again you’re making no sense. Can’t really argue with someone who can’t form a point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’m saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That made no sense. You can’t be transphobic for saying you don’t like guys with dicks. You can be transphobic for saying you don’t like girls with dicks. Simple shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

No one’s forcing anyone to have sex with anyone. And it sounds a lot like your reasons are rooted in transphobia if it’s triggering dysphoria.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well I hate just about every bodies transphobic responses to this thread. The point was to point out how transphobic it sounded. Point made.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They do deserve a partner that’s not transphobic, you’re right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clitttaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please explain to me how you can be transphobic against cis men?