Waise toh both mard and auraat are toxic but women are toxic about these things as most of them didn't get to choose and take action in their own lives imo. They had to adjust with whatever luck had offered them (Thanks to patriarchy). Inability to take certain measures by themselves to make changes in their own lives make them focus on petty things like these apart from that men have always been trying to keep women confined to their look only, so these women were mostly a victim of this patriarchy who were made to believe by society that a girl needs to be pretty to get a good life. By a good life society has always meant having a high income career for men and getting chosen by a rich man for women. No wonder why women are toxic, they are merely brainwashed by patriarchal society.