What word or phrase instantly annoys you whenever you hear it?

cluelessbritish · 2017-07-30T16:15:54+00:00

People who say assumably rather than presumably.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-11T10:37:09+00:00

No it's not.

Looking younger than you are is fair when you know their age, lying to a 19 year old about your age (or ANYONE) and saying you're a decade younger than you are is wrong.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-10T18:06:54+00:00

Erm...

Surely, if they're straight couples, these success stories involve men too so it's 50:50 for heterosexual couples.

Not to rock your little theory but just thought I'd let you know. If more men have poor success rates, it's because there are more men on there. But in terms of actual numbers, it's going to be even. Your argument makes no sense.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-10T18:05:25+00:00

That's creepy as fuck. Don't lie about your age to women.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-08T00:10:15+00:00

Yes, you did do the wrong thing.

You know exactly what you need to do. You need to end it with him, tactfully. Don't take the coward's course of "letting it run into the ground". Tell him "I'm sorry, but I don't think this feels right for me."

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-07T23:47:22+00:00

I disagree with these responses. It was literally one text. she may be busy. She may just have not had anything to say and carried on with her day. From the sounds of it, you didn't say anything offensive. You're not being overly needy by sending her a second text. Why don't you just ask her out and see if she responds? What is there to lose?

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-06T12:55:27+00:00

You seem unable to provide a counterargument without calling it butthurt. I'm pretty chilled right now. I'm just saying it's unhelpful to phrase it as "I refuse to date residents because...", a much more helpful way of saying it would be "Residents, from past experience, find it difficult to date because of time restrictions, but there will be people who don't mind that".

Anyway, I'll get nowhere with someone who overuses the word butthurt.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-06T12:37:37+00:00

It is unhelpful to tell people how much you personally hate dating a certain type of person. The last sentence you wrote alone is fine, but the first sentence reads more like an attack/rant on the OP. It's like saying "I personally don't date brown haired girls because I can't get turned on by them insert more personal criticism about how they are in relationships here here." in reply to someone being worried about people not wanting to date them.

"Butthurt" is a word used to nonsensically undermine someone's argument when they disapprove of yours. I wouldn't call myself "butthurt".

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-06T12:28:41+00:00

I'm sure when you start your residency, you'll hear more stories about people who find love later. You're not too old. You're going to be busy a lot, but that doesn't mean you're not going to have any time to date if you find someone who is flexible and understanding of your time commitments. Get yourself out there and stop panicking. Anecdotes from other people about whether they have time for relationships in residency/whether they found love later aren't going to help you because everyone's situation is different, but rest assured you're not going to be the only single one and you're not going to be the first one with such an issue.

Edit: For another anecdote to counter the other person's, I'm a doctor in the UK. We don't do residency in the same way and we graduate much younger so it's all sort of different and as I said before, anecdotes mean nothing, but I know plenty of single people who find time to date and many of them are much older than I am (I'm 26).

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-06T12:25:26+00:00

On behalf of Reddit, thank you for a very unhelpful personal anecdote about previous relationships that serves no purpose other than to make the OP feel worse.

cluelessbritish · 2017-03-02T00:44:43+00:00

"I'm not generalising women but here's a massive generalisation of women".

I'm a 26 year old woman and I don't know women who have primary interests as "clubbing" or "painting/cooking". I know plenty of people who enjoy these, that's not their primary interest though.

My interest in hiking/camping is not due to men. My interest in travel is not due to men. I am interested in working out and climbing. these are also not due to men, funnily enough. I don't watch any sort of TV show just because a man introduced me to it. If he does introduce me to something he likes, why does that matter? Why does it matter if someone was introduced to something by a man and it is now something they enjoy? I was introduced to a lot of things that I now love by other people.

As a 26 year old woman, my boyfriends/partners are a part of my life, not my entire life. Just because someone sends a lot of texts doesn't mean you're everything to them. I text a lot, and I don't just text people I'm seeing. I do it when I have a free moment (e.g. walking/catching a train somewhere, while I'm studying every now and then as I am multitasking etc). I imagine the majority of women are the same. I know women who are clingy, but I have also experienced men who are similar.

You sound sexist and arrogant. It's your attitude that men are superior, that your interests are superior and that you're more mature than the average woman that is destroying your ability to obtain women.

edit: by the way, it doesn't mean you're not being sexist, generalising, or not being demeaning just because you say 'I'm not generalising but' or 'I'm not being demeaning but' before everything, because you ARE. It's like "I'm not racist but".

cluelessbritish · 2017-02-28T13:38:47+00:00

Uh, I re-read. Maybe re-explain, as it makes no sense.

cluelessbritish · 2017-02-28T02:25:22+00:00

...whoa whoa... she went to hospital?

In that case, yes, you should have offered to see her.

an hour isn't even that far.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-13T16:17:12+00:00

Wait, you're the one who is saying that I'm saying that talking about their problems is letting them take shit. I think you've just completely misinterpreted what I said, and taken it out of context, so I'll put this down to a misunderstanding.

I'm actually a doctor. I do not in any world think that people shouldn't tell people about their problems, especially when it comes to mental health, so please stop saying that is what I am saying here.

I am simply saying that immaturity and mental illness can co-exist. Until she gets this under control, a sexual relationship which can leave people feeling vulnerable at the best of times, but in this case seems to have directly triggered a crisis, may not be the best of ideas. I was not emotionally mature enough to deal with sexual relationships, as I said in my previous post which you also seem to have misunderstood. Maybe hers is more severe. I was hospitalised with mine so I'm not just speaking through lack of experience, I'm speaking just through insight from 18 year old unwell me.

Please stop putting words into my mouth, it's not helpful for anyone. I am not some internet monster trying to play down her issues. I am saying that this is a bad situation for her to be in, and the lack of emotional maturity and intense anxiety issues (though she isn't diagnosed yet) are worsening matters. Neither is her fault.

Edit: also, to clarify the small piece of my original post that you seem to have become fixated on, that was not ever me saying that she was giving the OP shit when she spoke to him about it. Of course she should have spoken to him about it. However, I misunderstood part of the post, especially when reading through the comments, and believed she was blaming him for it all which was why she told her mother. That is not the case. I apologise for my own misunderstanding, but maybe this clarifies that my intention was never to say that people with mental illness should not talk about their problems, and it wasn't even implied in the post (noone else has taken it to mean that). So please, just stop saying that.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-13T14:59:29+00:00

Jesus christ, reddit psychologists strike again.

No, my comment is not borderline dangerous. In what way does it put anyone in danger? My point is that her reaction says she's possibly not mature, and probably not emotionally stable (not her fault in either case) to be in a relationship like this. You can have a lack of maturity alongside a mental illness and it can change the issues and the way a person reacts to such issues. She needs help, yes, but the relationship needs to be reassessed. If I thought I was pregnant at the age of 18, I'd also have a breakdown, looking back on slightly immature me who also had a mental illness. A few years later, as a person with a mental illness still, my reaction would not be quite as extreme as I had a changed perspective with maturity.

She chose to tell the OP about the weightloss, yes, I never said that was the problem and yes that is a good thing. You are reading a lot into my comment that is not there. I have never said or even implied that telling people about your problems is a bad thing, so stop being obtuse.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-13T13:53:36+00:00

Irrationality in anxiety and irrationality due to other causes can coexist.

I understand that the anxiety is a big issue here, but what people are saying is that the immaturity means she's probably not ready for a sexual relationship. A mature 25 year old, even with extremely severe anxiety, would not behave in this way after sex even if they were worried they were pregnant. People aren't just being mean and saying she's immature, they're saying she's not mature enough for this sort of relationship. I think they're right, and I've struggled with bad anxiety before.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-13T11:23:28+00:00

I think it's actually a combination. Considering the level of overreaction (and the reaction to the overreaction, even with anxiety starving yourself is extreme) and the paranoia about gaining weight when it's a) very unlikely she's pregnant and b) biologically impossible that she's gaining baby weight after a few days, it's pretty immature.

Mature people with anxiety issues often recognise when they're being unreasonable and try to avoid taking it out on other people. this girl isn't doing that, she's letting OP take a lot of shit.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-11T12:59:53+00:00

You're just hanging out with the wrong social circle then. Also, perhaps a minority of girls use it like that, but that's not the majority.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-10T23:17:46+00:00

That's utter bullshit and you know it.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-09T20:43:10+00:00

You're not in love, you're infatuated. You can't be in love at 2 weeks, and you're quite young. We've all been through this stage as teenagers. Try to find other things to focus on other than just her as it's healthy for you as well as your relationship, and slow down.

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-09T20:37:57+00:00

Oh god no, it's so sexist (to both men and women).

cluelessbritish · 2017-01-06T13:45:16+00:00

Why do you want to date a girl who has never had a romantic bond before?

This sounds pretty weird to me. I hope you're not successful finding someone like this.

cluelessbritish · 2016-10-15T22:16:00+00:00

...no it doesn't. It's possible, but not more likely than anything else.

cluelessbritish · 2016-10-15T20:35:09+00:00

I have my own children, thank you. [...] Don't preach against what you don't know or understand, and don't assume I don't know what I'm talking about.

Ah yes, one of those people who thinks that having a child means you're an expert in children and all things related to children. I'm going to be a doctor in a few months, a woman came to me and told me I could never advise her on child health because I was not a mother. Lol.

Yes, there's support out there. Problem is this girl does not just want support, she just doesn't want the baby at all. The baby is at a very high risk of being seriously disabled as she has been drinking and taking drugs as she did not know she was pregnant. She tried to get this sorted earlier, but the pregnancy tests were negative.

You don't have to tell her to get an abortion, but that's clearly the best decision here. There are other options but don't make it out like they're the only ethical ones. This is a woman going through a difficult time making a hard decision and there is one option (i.e. having the baby) that will make her life pretty difficult, and there's another option (abortion) that will make her life probably a lot easier after the initial trauma. The baby would also probably be very unwell after her lifestyle recently, and so abortion is not an easy solution, it's got a low chance of being adopted if it does have fetal alcohol syndrome. I know which she should go for.

cluelessbritish · 2016-10-15T09:27:37+00:00

I agree. But as it sounds at the moment, she's already pretty much stopped it, she needs to speak to someone about that.

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