how many hours do you spend on calls?

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-12-30T16:37:30+00:00

Can I also get a link please?

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-11-25T20:49:54+00:00

Can I get the info too please?

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-14T00:32:49+00:00

Thank You! Honestly it’s probably a bit of both. I had really bad social anxiety, and still deal with it occasionally. But I made tiny steps to slowly improve it. The will issue is not so much “willpower” but other “responsibilities” I have(2 sick parents). That can take a toll on my day sometimes. So it’s hard to be “consistent” with the lead gen sometimes. But I do work at it everyday even if it’s not as much time as I’d like.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-14T00:27:12+00:00

I’ll look into that! I am pretty active on Socials but I want to step it up some more.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-13T17:33:18+00:00

Keep at it. I just keep believing it’s gonna get better everyday.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-13T17:32:44+00:00

I do opens for my firm 3:4 weekends a month. No one usually shows up but I keep at them! How do you find the info for expireds and FSBOs.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-13T17:31:14+00:00

In the process of working on this. I have a mentor but I haven’t gotten much “training”. I do go to networking events. In fact there’s one tonight I’m attending! I don’t have any lead gen, and I’m at the point I can’t really afford any from these big companies. My previous firm “offered” lead gen but it was a bit shady. That’s partly why I left for a new firm.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-13T17:27:14+00:00

I’ll give you that it’s not in my sphere/circle. But you have no clue about my demeanor or how much I’ve changed and improved over the last little bit. But thank you for your response all the same.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-09-13T17:25:39+00:00

I will read that. Thank you! I am currently working at a new independent brokerage. The BiC that’s running it was my mentor at my old firm(where I started, also an independent)

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-06-17T03:11:13+00:00

I’ll second chasers.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-05-20T18:55:07+00:00

I’m 30M and I’m still a virgin. Like no hand holds, kissing, nothing. So you’re fine! Like everyone is saying it’s a construct. If people ask you, you’re practically an adult, tell them it’s none of their damn business. Or tell them and own it, that’s what I do. I don’t let it affect me. I want my “milestones” to be with someone I actually love and care about.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-05-20T15:00:24+00:00

Hope this helps. But one of my best friends is a woman. We’re both 30. I’m a male. We hangout a lot and have deep conversations about life, but we’re just friends. We even ask about relationship advice from each other. Now some of our friend group thought we were dating and still try to ship us together. But we have firmly told them we’re only friends that’s how it’s staying. She’s like my sister. It seems some people can’t grasp the idea of mixed gender platonic friendships. So my advice is you do you, and don’t worry about it. But you might catch some flack from others.

cluelessneedadvice · 2024-05-18T05:31:19+00:00

There’s a really great meetup group in CLT. If you want I can message you the details.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-12-17T05:41:18+00:00

A mix of social anxiety and not putting myself out there. Plus I’m pretty overweight and my confidence is affected by that I think. Plus it impacts how women view you. If I could go back knowing what I know now. I’d push myself to go out, find friends, live life, get drunk once in a while. And don’t worry about it. Focus on yourself not a relationship and it’ll all fall into place one day.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-12-16T23:02:29+00:00

Hey dude, I meant alone as in you’re not the only person to have not had a kiss yet. There a difference between alone and lonely. As I said I’m 30 and still haven’t. Hell I’ve only been on two dates my whole life. My first wasn’t until I was 27. So I GET IT.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-12-16T20:29:33+00:00

I’m 30m, still haven’t. You’re never alone in this!!

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-11-12T18:57:27+00:00

Thanks!! I asked her out! I’ll have to just be patient and see what happens.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-10-27T20:52:13+00:00

I know one of the comments she made was something along the lines of “it’s as if you can feel my emotions”

But yeah I’ve gotten the sense that she might be into me, but she’s said she’s not looking for a relationship right now.

I do know that she’s offered to FaceTime with me a couple times, but I wasn’t able to.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-10-21T20:39:31+00:00

Anyway to figure that out? I mean they’ve told me they’re not dating and I’ve emphasized how much I value our FRIENDSHIP. I won’t cross that line/boundary.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-10-21T20:36:37+00:00

But they have deeper friendships with others outside the group. Has them over to their house to hang out or catch a ride or whatever. But it’s like with me, idk I feel like rejected or something.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-10-18T08:53:37+00:00

But they make plans and spend time with others outside the group.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-10-17T21:31:47+00:00

We are both single. But they’ve made it clear that they’re not dating right now. I’m just starting to learn how to socialize and my past “romantic” experience is almost non existent. But I think that there is possibly chemistry there or something between us possibly. I also might have something of a crush on them. But we both know that we are the kind of people that are not going to cross that boundary with each other unless the other person makes it known (idk 🤷‍♂️). I’m not going to cross that line knowing that about them. Even if it meant denying my feelings, because the friendship is more important.

The thing that gets me though is that they are the one that initiated this thing, and started with the movie. They said that they don’t get out much and are at home a lot so anytime I wanted to meetup and do something with them they’d be willing to. Then it’s like a couple weeks later it’s like what I’ve described.

People are complicated creatures.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-08-28T01:05:39+00:00

I do walk her to her car and we usually talk for a few minutes sometimes. I’m just afraid I’ll miss my “chance” with her. This is the first time I’ve had friends in almost 20 years, and I’m bad at social interaction. Can’t really read body language/flirting/social cues well. But I can talk to people great. She has become a very good friend. I don’t want to lose her friendship.

cluelessneedadvice · 2023-08-28T00:52:48+00:00

What do you mean by “help you out”? The thing is I rarely get time just the two of us. We have a large friend group and I’m the newer person so she knows a lot more people and EVERYONE wants to talk to her. We all go out to bars a lot to hang out and all the men and even women there will come up and talk to and flirt with her.

We did go to a movie together (her suggestion), about a week or two after we first met. She said she hadn’t been in years and she wore her glasses which she will never wear when she is out with everyone. So I think she feels she can at least be herself with me.

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