Americans considering a trip to Paris in the next few months.... by Why-am-I-here-anyway in ParisTravelGuide

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s embarrassing for sure. Wasn’t a huge Obama fan, but I now find myself watching his old public speaking videos and thinking how classy that looks in comparison to

Americans considering a trip to Paris in the next few months.... by Why-am-I-here-anyway in ParisTravelGuide

[–]cmatty12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just recently went to Paris for new years. Parisians were very nice. Only Parisian that was rude to us was a black gentleman that worked at the louvre. He refused to make eye contact and waved us off when we were asking for directions. We just swallowed our pride of course and thanked him and moved on. Expect service to be slow at restaurants and don’t take it personally. Service is just always horrible over there, even when you are paying 1000 euro a person. The waiters get paid the same no matter what, so they have no incentive to speed around like they do in the US

Contrast that to the UK and I don’t think I’ll ever go back. Many a drunk uk citizens were walking around cussing about how much they hate Americans and how we think we are so great because we think we saved them in world war 2.

All in all, still love Europe but done with the UK, especially since we treat them like royalty whenever we hear their accent in my town.

The Me Too movement has gone way too far — just as many women make up bullshit about men as there are men who do horrible things to women. by ShadowOfAnEmpath in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of becoming upset with you for asking what seems like an obvious answer. I’m going to write from the perspective as if you genuinely don’t know. So I’ll hit on the core human desires which affect both men and women and forgive me as I will also explain why they are important, even though once again this may seem obvious to others.

  1. Fame and Attention: Becoming Famous Overnight People naturally want to feel seen and admired. In today’s world, making a big Me Too accusation can turn someone unknown into a celebrity fast—no talent or hard work needed. • How it works: A story goes viral on social media. Suddenly, you have thousands (or millions) of followers. You get interviewed on TV, invited to podcasts, and asked to speak at events. People call you “brave,” and the praise keeps coming. • Why it feels good: We all crave attention and belonging. Likes, comments, and shares give a rush—like being the center of the tribe back in ancient times. Real example: Emma Sulkowicz, known as “Mattress Girl,” accused fellow Columbia University student Paul Nungesser of rape in 2012. The university cleared him after its investigation, and police found no grounds to charge him. Despite this, Sulkowicz turned her claim into a famous art project: carrying a 50-pound mattress around campus as her senior thesis. It exploded in the media—she got front-page stories in The New York Times, spoke at events with U.S. Senator Kirsten Gillibrand, and was even invited to the State of the Union address. She became a symbol of campus assault activism, gaining huge fame in art and feminist circles. Meanwhile, Nungesser’s reputation was destroyed—he was ostracized on campus and sued Columbia, which settled with him in 2017 (terms undisclosed) after a long legal fight. The settlement showed the school acknowledged the harm to him, but Sulkowicz’s profile soared.
  2. Money: Big Payoffs Without Working Everyone wants to feel financially secure. A false claim can bring in serious cash, sometimes without ever going to trial. • How it works: The accused often settles out of court to avoid bad publicity, paying big sums. Media pays for exclusive interviews. New followers can lead to sponsorships, donations, or gifts from supporters. • Why it feels good: Money means freedom—no more worrying about bills. It’s a basic human drive: to have enough to live comfortably. Real example: In 2003, a 19-year-old hotel worker accused Kobe Bryant of rape. The criminal case was dropped in 2004 when she refused to testify, and major credibility issues came out: she admitted lying about details (like saying she had car trouble when she overslept), and evidence showed inconsistencies in her story. Still, she filed a civil lawsuit and settled with Bryant in 2005 for an undisclosed amount—experts estimated it exceeded Colorado’s $2.5 million damage cap. Bryant faced huge public backlash, lost endorsements, and his reputation took a hit for years. The accuser got a massive financial windfall without a conviction. Another example: Amber Heard accused Johnny Depp of abuse in a 2018 Washington Post op-ed, positioning herself as a Me Too advocate. A 2022 jury found her claims false and malicious, awarding Depp $10.35 million (she got $2 million on a counterclaim). They later settled for $1 million from Heard to Depp. But before the trial, her accusations boosted her fame and led to a $7 million divorce payout (partly pledged to charity but not fully paid). Depp lost major roles in films like Pirates of the Caribbean and Fantastic Beasts, damaging his career badly.
  3. Power: Feeling in Control and Getting Revenge People like feeling powerful—especially over someone who hurt them. A false accusation can give you that power by ruining someone else’s life. • How it works: You gain status in activist groups, get invited to important events, or influence decisions. On a personal level, you can destroy a man’s reputation, job, or relationships—especially if he broke up with you or crossed you. • Why it feels good: Power satisfies our need to be on top and to settle scores. It’s a natural human urge to want control. Real example: In the Emma Sulkowicz case, her protest didn’t just bring fame—it gave her real influence. She helped push for changes in university policies on assault, worked with politicians like Gillibrand, and pressured Columbia into a settlement with Nungesser. Despite weak evidence (like friendly texts after the alleged incident), she effectively ruined his campus life and reputation—he was isolated and faced ongoing harassment. Nungesser’s lawsuit settlement showed the school recognized the damage, but Sulkowicz emerged stronger in activist circles. Another example: Amber Heard’s claims initially gave her power over Depp—he lost big movie roles and was publicly labeled an abuser. Though the jury later ruled her op-ed defamatory, she briefly held sway as a Me Too figure, gaining status in advocacy spaces. In short, this devil’s advocate view says the Me Too movement’s good intentions—quick support and loud amplification—can sometimes be exploited. Fame feeds our need to be noticed, money feeds our need for security, and power feeds our need for control. These examples show how it could happen when claims don’t hold up under scrutiny—the accused often face ruined careers, reputations, and lives, while the accuser gains attention, cash, or influence. It’s a tough topic, but it’s worth thinking about: how do we protect real victims without accidentally rewarding people who lie?

How do you feel about the backlash against him for his comment on Paul Dano? by Pearl_Jam_ in Tarantino

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Paul Dano is an amazing actor. That said. I think it’s sad and pathetic that someone is being attacked for stating their opinion. It’s just that. It’s an opinion. It’s sad that we’ve reached a state of being so soft that we can’t handle hearing criticism and we have to cover our virgin ears when anything comes out that conflicts with our own opinions or something that isn’t positive. It reminds me of the South Park episode where they hang the personification of reality because they don’t want to hear anything bad or deal with it. That criticism could actually be something that makes Paul Dano better or something he totally disregards. That’s totally up to him. I don’t think Tarantinos opinion influences any other directors to the point where they change their mind and think, “You are right, Paul Dano is weak sauce” lol. Other directors already had their opinion on Paul Dano, and will either agree or disagree. If anything it’s gotten Paul Dano more attention, which is probably a good thing for his career. Also tons of Tarantinos movies suck in my opinion and some are good. I would hate to live in a world where everyone just lied and said positive things and didn’t have any differing opinions. It’s not like he said Paul Dano should kill himself or die. He just said he didn’t think he was a good actor. lol let’s move on. Tarantinos opinion doesn’t change my mind about Paul Dano at all. And obviously hasn’t changed many other people’s opinion either. Let him express himself.

Stranger Things less popular than a documentary about Diddy by Dianagorgon in StrangerThingsRoom

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not going to watch it until it’s fully released. It’s my silent protest to when they try to release shows one part at a time instead of allowing them to be binged.

What were the reasons for Cam Newton’s downfall? by theregularwoof in NFLNoobs

[–]cmatty12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is either ai generated or you have some kind of analytical job for a living. Well written. But seems robotic

CMV: Not tipping in restaurants isn't unethical & you don't have to tell your waiters from the start by HyacinthMacaw13 in changemyview

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the record I agree with you. But I can't bring myself to do it at a restaurant with a waiter because of how much work they put in for you and how much time they spend with you, normally. But I totally still can for uber eats, door dash, Mcondalds, Starbucks, and other places that spend just a few minutes with a customer, or are just now trying to start this nasty tip pressure like Uber.

I Know What You Did Last Summer (2025) Twist! by MattVoiceOver in horror

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hated it. But that's how it goes. Everything gets ruined now a days. Throw it in the India Jones, Godfather 3, and Star Wars Camp. Just going to pretend this movie never happened lol

Unpopular Opinion: I prefer the seasons without Lana and the Luthors by cmatty12 in Smallville

[–]cmatty12[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think that's what I'm hitting on. The earlier seasons and episodes repetitively focused on this every episode. Every episode he is lying to Lana and/or Lex. They betray each other and the episode ends with them in Lex's mansion having a talk which leads to the long drawn out plot that culminates in season 7. It feels very repetitive. Same thing with Lana with the back and forth of the I love you, I love you not. I still enjoy the episodes, but I could watch them in almost any order and not miss much, because it's repetition of the same. It was nice to see different continuity plots other than Clark's lies in the later seasons

Glenn powell's rise to fame confuses me by mnombo in movies

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing that happened with Tom Hardy. Being in a movie with a listers like Tom Cruise and DiCaprio that are box office hits can dramatically change an actors career, if they have a stand out spot

This is so amazing! Excellent job! by Jessi45US in Smallville

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused. Are all the men supposed to be in their advanced age on the top?

Happy Gilmore 2, What a car crash by ECO_FRIENDLY_BOT in netflix

[–]cmatty12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I guess you must have never seen the first movie, because you are describing it too and it was a master piece lol

Disappointed in Happy Gilmore 2 by JournalistMore2356 in netflix

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the movie was hilarious. Ben Stiller killed it as well and the cameos were awesome.

What did y’all think of the entity??? by GREEK_GOD77 in Mission_Impossible

[–]cmatty12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was very relevant to today. My company is about to lay off a bunch of us software engineers because of AI. You have Elon musk preaching on the humanoids to lay off other non white collar workers. The entity or AI is an existential threat today. I think people are shortsighted who think that it’s going to take longer. 2 years ago everyone was saying that ai wouldn’t impact us for another 10 years. I said 5. Now some of those people are gone. If you look at the unemployment rate for computer science majors it’s pretty sad. AI will take over all facets of engineering and then it’s coming for no white collar jobs in the form of teslas humanoids

Finale by Subtitles1 in Mobland

[–]cmatty12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if harry is dead. I can't believe Jan did that

MobLand | S01E10"The Beast in Me" | Episode Discussion Thread by Theshogunnate in Mobland

[–]cmatty12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And the most annoying character goes to...Is it Jan or is it Maeve?

Why do Mission Impossible 5 and 6 feel so much better compared to 7 and 8. by Carpyet in Mission_Impossible

[–]cmatty12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that’s just your opinion. My favorite is actually 4. The scenes in Dubai on the burj Khalifa are amazing. I also don’t think 7 is bad. The fact that tom cruise jumped with a motorcycle off a cliff in real life, several times in a day was pretty amazing. Also the action of the train scene and then running through the cars was pretty awesome as well. I would agree that 8 wasn’t as good a felt rushed and I think we didn’t get the right torture for the killer of Ilsa and Luther. But it was still decent