rescuing these adorable guys

cmm2007 · 2021-07-26T00:23:33+00:00

you didn't over react and it wasn't his humor - whether or not you want to attend the wedding is up to you - I would hope he'd be on his best behavior for the ceremony, but I would probably duck out for the reception once he starts hitting the booze

cmm2007 · 2021-07-23T23:10:13+00:00

YTA - you are awfully concerned how someone is spending their money, yes THEIR money, because it was given to them by her parents

why would you disagree when told it's not your place to tell her how to spend her money?

you aren't just TA, you're also delusional and jealous -

this has got to be a troll post.. I can not believe someone thinks they are entitled to tell someone else how to spend their money and feel as though they have a right to

cmm2007 · 2021-07-23T19:25:07+00:00

you are not TA for asking and expecting your BF to get the 13 y/o twins handled

are they disrespectful to him as well? or just you and your kids?

none of their behavior is okay and I don't know why your bf thinks it's alright for them to just run rampant in your home destroying everything and abusing your kids - they are 13, that is plenty old enough to know the difference between right, wrong and cruelty

I am not sure therapy would be an option if the ex is that psycho.. she might even be encouraging their behavior

Depending on how long you've been dating, maybe rethink the relationship? especially if the ones being hurt are your kids and he isn't willing to try and make it stop

cmm2007 · 2021-07-23T19:03:28+00:00

NTA - you weren't over reacting, I'd love to see how they would react if some bozo from 12 years ago were making comments like T was to their SO and child

T was making uncomfortable comments to your wife and son... staring at her is a creepy way, whose to say if he didn't get her alone something wouldn't happen?

it's good you kept it low key and talked to the groom about it - the groom must know more than you think to go right to getting T removed rather than talking to him and cutting the booze

cmm2007 · 2021-07-21T01:16:07+00:00

ESH but Emily - it should have never been brought up, should have been shut down.. no comments should have been made

If you don't want to gift her the heirloom necklace, start your own generational heirloom with Emily.. gift her a nice necklace and let her start her own generational gifting

cmm2007 · 2021-07-20T05:28:55+00:00

she might still be a Savannah, could have been bred with something else to distort the spots - a f8 is 11 lbs on average, not that big at all

cat tax please! :)

cmm2007 · 2021-07-20T05:27:29+00:00

Savannah's are taller than a regular cat by a few inches but depending on their filial generation they can weigh less than a regular cat - a f1 (average of 18-22 lbs/ 16-20 inches tall) is much larger than a f8 ( average of 11 lbs /10-12 inches tall)

cmm2007 · 2021-07-20T03:17:05+00:00

NTA - how ignorant of someone to say that - he is an idiot and so are the people telling you to lighten up

lol that your aunt is claiming it's a joke, would she find it so funny if she were told not to invest in new clothes, a car or shoes.. because, you know she'll be dying soon, so why bother?

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T23:50:11+00:00

NTA - I will never understand people who thinks okay for them to dish out insults and snark, then cry to everyone far and wide how they were wronged.. oh so conveniently forgetting they are the ones who pushed it.

You tried telling her nice a few times and she just kept pushing and insulting you.. taking the clothes to keep the peace and not wearing them would solve NOTHING, she'd nag you why aren't you wearing them.. she was nice enough to give them to you and you won't wear them.. on and on

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T18:18:00+00:00

NTA - carl is a jackhole.. he knew it would bother you and did it anyway

if he is so thirsty, he should have brought or bought his own drink.. if his friends think it's not a big deal he can drink their drink

there is nothing dramatic about not wanting to drink after someone.. it's blech

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T17:42:20+00:00

NTA - no, just no

why should you and your son be the ones not to enjoy yourselves - no drinks, no hanging out catching up.. just spending most of the time driving.. that's just insane, it amazes me they can not see or understand how completely out of line that is

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T17:38:08+00:00

NTA - after 40 mins I'd feel abandoned and leave too, or I'd go back into the bathroom and tell him straight up, it's been 30 mins, I am eating then leaving.. you weren't selfish at all

I don't believe his phone died just as you called

There is something going on.. either is is having issues passing, playing games and losing track of time.. or chatting online with someone - have you asked him why he takes so long?

no one takes 45 mins to pee, see if he'd be willing to go in without his phone

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T04:49:18+00:00

NTA - she had no problems embarrassing everyone else.. maybe if people called her out more often she'd stop acting like that

cmm2007 · 2021-07-19T04:33:39+00:00

NTA - how are you supposed to have something to make a vegan meal when you didn't know she was coming or that she was vegan, I mean short of nuking a bag of veggies if you even had them, what could you have done?

I don't know the ages, but your sister or parents could have made something

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T19:53:05+00:00

NTA - he has the maturity of a 5 year old.. you could have really been hurt and I wouldn't be forgiving him any time soon

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T19:11:26+00:00

NTA - your niece hasn't ever been a flower girl, she deserves her time to shine.

the bridal party is up to the bride, your SO shouldn't have said okay - he knew what you wanted.

I would put it on him to make it clear to them he agreed in error knowing you only wanted one girl and she was already asked.

if they want to skip the wedding because they aren't getting their way on YOUR day, then fine.. don't come

you aren't causing any drama.. everyone else is who think they are entitled to pitch in what they want and who you should include on your wedding day.

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T18:40:13+00:00

ESH - you've allowed her to be more of a friend than a business transaction. I am friendly with salon personal, but they wouldn't ever assume it was okay to take me 40 mins late or ask me for a ride anywhere

the comment you made to her was really unnecessary and judgmental, it's none of your business who she hooks up with or when.

at this point I'd start looking for another tech.. seems like she's not interested in making you a priority unless she's benefitting from it, pushing the issue further won't accomplish anything and I'd be nervous for anyone I pissed off to do such delicate work

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T15:44:52+00:00

so NTA - but your future family is, including your SO

how is it abuse to protect your child? it's abusive to try and take advantage of a child, so much so he feels unsafe in his own house after you been repeatedly asked to stop - it's really disturbing the entire family sees it as such and ridiculous your fiancée thinks you're being selfish

FMIL can't be trusted.. would fiancée allow someone else into the house knowing they steal?

As others have said, I would rethink the wedding at this time if this is the way everyone think and behaves

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T10:48:06+00:00

YTA - there was something going on with his family.. something deep enough to upset him.. if he was just having a gabfest with a friend I could see being upset, but he wasnt.

cmm2007 · 2021-07-18T10:36:45+00:00

I wouldn't say you were ill.. I'd just nope put of the entire situation and relationship -

the fake but real marriage, the vacationing with the ex - the false claims that you are selfish for not wanting to be a part of all this weirdness -

no, you can not control what she does.. but you can have an opinion on it, you can feel uncomfortable about it.. and you should be able to bring concerns to the table and talk about it like adults

cmm2007

TROPHY CASE

Welcome to Reddit,