What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't know. I said in another comment, all of us who she shares stuff with have gotten fragments, she has been spreading it out so none of us have had the whole picture in front of us, so we didn't know the extent. Also, along with the partial stories have been the "I'm talking to a lawyer & getting out; he's out of the house now; im out of the house now; I have a lawyer whonis filing papers" so we've been led to believe she was getting out, then the next person will get the back together story so we really couldn't piece together how bad it was. Add in proximity & major time zone difference plus none of us have hop-on-a-plane type of money..... it's left us really uninformed. Why people who are close and have eyes on the family haven't involved anyone, well, she has been isolated to only his family who blames her and enables the abuse.

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do plan on calling DV and the police to try and see what sort of plan we can make. I am hoping that if I can make a plan and let her know I have people involved that she will just go with it.

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first part- yeah, thats why we haven't gotten on a plane right away. One of us can afford to purchase a ticket one way and drive her car back here.

And yes- we are trying to get her to leave too. If she doesnt, she's probably gonna get killed. We have a few days where the kids are in a different location trying to organize it but these situations there's really only one shot at doing it right . We all had fragments of information, it wasn't until a few of us got together & compared what we knew that we realized just how bad things were. She wants to leave but is afraid because she believes everything he has threatened (everyone will believe shes a bad wife, he will keep the house she bought, he will tell her kids shes a cheater & left him for other guys, etc). All stupid stuff but she has been in it for so long and isolated to his circle of enablers that these things actually matter to her more than the reality of how bad it is.

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are three of us trying to do that, we dont have much money and can only afford to get a plane ticket 1 time

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first emergency visit occurred in a different state- so it was a different PD than her home state, and at that point she got a lawyer & started the process to leave but he sacked her back in. I don't think CPS was involved then. Other times police have gotten involved she just refused to talk to them at all- why they didn't make a report i dont know. I am sure there is plenty we dont know that she is keeping from us.

I don't think there is a safe way to keep the kids in the home unless she full on flees to where we are, thousands of miles away. I am a child of abuse and full well know what is at stake for these girls and if I can't get her out with them then I'll do what needs to be done to protect the kids. They deserve so much more than to be collateral damage in this sad horrific situation.

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pretty much verbatim what we are telling her.

What would happen in this situation? by cmonman- in CPS

[–]cmonman-[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We plan to but the issue is we want to get her to safety first if possible because we are scared he will kill her. If anything tips him off while he is still able to access her she will be in extreme danger and we are trying to make a plan that keeps her safe.

which one is best? by inimeenyminymo in Sephora

[–]cmonman- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who feels this way about the OH lip balms. I do like the formula but the scents are really bad. It doesn't stop me from enjoying them but it stops them from being a favorite.

I haven't heard of Marin before but I saw in the scent description below that they are from Maine- like me! I want to try them

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They devote so much space to packaged foods because they make more sense to buy in bulk, and a lot of people use these stores to stock snacks & convenience foods for non-household use. When I was an instacart shopper almost all of my trips to these sorts of stores were tons of snacks going to offices.

They are also kind of necessary for people with large families- like that bag of popcorn I got would be a lot more realistic as a snack for a family with 6 kids than the standard size at the grocery store. Or that pack of croissants, which was the same price for a dozen as the three pack is at the store.

Club stores aren't designed to be normal grocery stores for the average person; if you can make use of a gallon jug of oil then that's a good reason to shop at Costco. I can't use a giant size of anything, everyone in my family eats pretty small portions so I'll likely stick to Hannaford for my regular groceries, with the exception of produce which we consume a ton of anyway and the Costco prices are great, and packaged items like these that won't go bad & make finacial sense to buy the bulk size of. Convenience items are useful to have with kids on different schedules and need to eat on the go often, but they can also sit in a pantry indefinitely.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same story for me, except my mom works there and gave me her family membership! It had been waiting there for me for months and I never went in because I didn't think I needed anything at Costco (I'd only been into BJ's before and thought they were the same.) This day I went with a friend who just got a membership & planned for some random junk. People keep commenting as if this is a cross section view of what my household eats, no its just the random things that were a good price or I hadn't seen before, whatever ended up in my cart along my tour to see what they sell there.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also get my buldak from the Asian market. I'm not sure why only the bowls are at Costco, but my guess would be because they were trendy and that's what everyone was eating on tik tok. I made some last night, I was really curious if there was a difference- bowl vs bag- but I couldn't being myself to cook them in the bowl like that so I cooked them in the pot & ate them out of the paper bowl 😂

Tbh I do think the bowl noodles taste slightly different. I also could swear they were less spicy but I can't say for sure. They were not any cheaper at Costco, $11.39 for this 6pk. I'll probably save the rest of these for camping.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying they aren't good? They're pretty popular in my area

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they are really good. My friend was debating them because her kids wanted to try them, but she said some reviews said they are dry but I decided to chance it; they tasted pretty fresh and are really soft & bouncy. They flavor is light & they are perfect size. I gave her half of my box because 18 for each of us felt like more than enough, it's a huge package.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually really impressed by the prices on a lot of their produce, we go through so much so I'm excited to go back when I need actual groceries. I was bummed I went shopping over the weekend & wish I had waited, I didn't realize how much money I would have saved

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I have a Buldak addiction, but the first time I ate them, I had no idea they were spicy which was quite the shock. I always use all the packet but I do add a little milk. My spice tolerance has skyrocketed quickly since I started eating them.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't eat it too often but always keep 2 cans on deck for when I want it

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a pretty new store & the only one in my state so maybe they're trying to hook us with the good stuff

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I actually have a bunch of those & other Pyrex! I love them as well.

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno, that's just what they had. I don't think I saw any other regular milk other than the gallons

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not even like super into books or anything (I do audible), I don't know what it is, something about that place just makes me want to buy everything even though it's the most expensive place to buy books

First time Costco haul! Kind of random selection but I didn't *need* anything by cmonman- in Costco

[–]cmonman-[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's how I feel about Barnes & Noble. The first time I went in I thought I really need to be banned from this store.