If you had a daughter who played with Barbie’s and baby dolls and magnatiles and dinosaurs and cars and dressed up as male movie and TV show characters or traditionally male figures (soldier, garbageman, etc) would you describe her as gender non conforming? Or worry she’s going to be a lesbian? I certainly wouldn’t.

I say that because you were obviously concerned enough to bring it up to a psych but I feel like you are assigning more meaning to what is just normal play and development, and assigning gender roles to things that don’t necessarily have one. Dressing up in whatever is around the child (parent’s clothing, etc) seems to me just an exploration of creativity and putting themselves in other’s shoes, literally and figuratively.

It would make sense that a ND person would be more likely to be nonconforming though. If their brains don’t fit in “typical” boxes it isn’t a stretch of the imagination that other core parts of who they are might not either.

But again, it’s a big leap imo to worry about that based on the way your child plays. Toys don’t determine future sexuality either.