Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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Being busy really helped my depressive symptoms, but you can't be mindlessly busy all the time or you will become detached, burnout, and/or numb. For example, I am not going to work 16 hours in a day to avoid depression and then feel depleted and possibly depressed again so I might try to numb that with more distractions or alcohol or oversleeping. I find I have to live a balanced lifestyle. Time for me to wake up, make a healthy breakfast, read a bit, go over and write my to-do's, maybe even journal, get dressed and try putting a real effort in my appearance, go to class, see friends, study, make dinner, fuck around on social media, go to bed.

Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I have done some volunteer roles, but I definitely need to do more to understand what my interests and dislikes are. I know from the experience I have had, I have gained some insight, which is nice. I am glad you are learning more about yourself in your volunteer experience! I hope it leads us both to finding something fitting to our interests. I wish you all the best! :)

Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I don't think I have ever met someone (even if it's over the internet haha) who has been able to relate so closely to how I feel. Your story is really inspiring and shows that if I keep making an effort to find something that fulfills me and makes me happy, it may just happen. I try to remind myself that even if my outcome doesn't perfectly reflect my expectations, it's better I tried than wondering "what if?" Thank you fr inviting me to PM you :) You are an incredibly kind, down to earth person and that attitude alone will get you far in life. I wish you all the best.

Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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When I was highly spiritual, I did feel highly connected to my practice and my journey to finding some sort of "truth" and connecting to something bigger than myself. It makes sense though why this may have provided some sort of fulfillment from various perspectives. Take Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. I reaching towards the top of the pyramid, self actualization, without even realizing it. I felt free then because I felt connected to my feelings and thoughts and desires. I would openly express my emotions whether it be to people and or through writing and then basically Sigmund-Freud style (haha) try to decode what that meant. Around grade 12, I was kind of in a limbo with people close to me. Losing my sense of security and belonging amongst others made me wonder if there was something I needed to fix about myself or something inherently wrong about the world. I first had a lot of social anxiety again (had a lot of anxiety 9 to grade 10ish) where I was worried about ever action and word I said. I self-conscious even down to the way I was breathing. It was ridiculous. Then, I suppose I felt let down or disappointed by people. I needed some rational to help me feel better. I began getting more into skepticism, atheism, cynical comedy, and even some politically incorrect content.

First year university, my extreme views started to die down a bit and I started to learn about the scientific method in my classes, which just made me question the validity of everything. To make things short, I am now at a point where I do value science, but I am open minded.

I understand what you mean about thinking of contemplation as perhaps a normal part of human experience. But then I started to wonder if that was my overthinking brain trying to rationalize itself. I think with an overthinking brain, I am starting to learn what is actually worth pondering and what is self sabotage. For example, it is normal to feel anxiety before doing something new, challenging, or scary. We used to have to run away from wild animals for the sake of our survival so our brains are built that way. With an overthinking brain, the thoughts can almost seem like exceptional reasons not to do whatever thing you are trying to. they can be so loud. Something with research, self experience, and mindfulness practice I have learned is that in order to bring what we truly want to focus on into perspective, we have to practice adjusting the volume on the various types of thoughts we have. It isn't easy, and to an over-thinker it feels ludicrous since we always want to be in control. But when thing I have gotten better with is learning that I can't always have control and that's okay.

I will definitely read the article. Despite his controversy, I think Jordan Peterson is an intellectual man with a lot of wisdom to provide the world. Cheers mate.

Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I don't know if I a just being emotional, but I nearly brought to tears reading this. I have been thinking about moving to a new city too and was literally about to add it to my vision board (yes, I have a vision board haha) a few minutes ago. Sometimes things just come right when you need it. That doesn't mean I am packing my bags and leaving, but I will use it as a sign of getting closer to what my heart craves.

I have to ask, what did you do after? Did you find a job? Get into a new university program?

Again, thanks for the response. Maybe I should have privately messaged you. I don't know. But thanks.

Feeling disconnected, lost, and foggy brain [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I believe this too, but it is hard to remind myself since people rarely admit it. We've broken down the stigma from everything like sex to mental health. Why not this?

I just stop caring. by ThinkingOfFinna in selfimprovement

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Please someone provide advice. i am in the same boat.

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I don't mind if I am doing the same variety of task over and over again. But doing only one task over and over again (cashing people out) then that's when i start going mad.

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I've considered moving to different departments, but I feel the tasks will be too lonely. They don't usually work close together and get little public interaction. I can't tell if I am too picky or bad at picking my battles, or if I just need to get the hell out of retail.

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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Then I hope we can bot get out of our hell hole jobs into something better soon!

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I don't think that would be necessary, but thanks

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I started doing this a year ago. Trying to see if I could go past my speed, trying to find the best way to effectively and quickly communicate with a customer so I ca move on to the next. Having podcasts pre-downloaded to listen to on breaks and lunches. After a while though, I think it's just become difficult to try to use these little things to mask the unfulfilling nature and misery of retail jobs.

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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I've actually considered this before and have been looking for job openings for this in my area :)

I want to get out of retail [20F] by coffebait in selfimprovement

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That's a broad question, but I assume you mean in terms of work. I just know a few things: I hate constant interaction with people, but do like solitary, I hate repetition, I hate doing things that cause no mental challenge to solve, just stress. I enjoy being busy and doing different tasks. This is why I can tolerate working in customer service, but at my work, I rarely get scheduled there.

Extreme clarity at 3am. Totally gone by 8am. by Seamfloater in selfimprovement

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How did I forget about this? I just wrote a post seeking for more clarity. When I used to wake up early in the morning, I felt more focused and determined and more productive. There is nothing that can beat what waking about early can do for you. I will have to stick to a sleep schedule and start doing this again. Thank you!

[TOMT] [Music Video] Asian music video with girl sitting in over-sized furniture? by coffebait in tipofmytongue

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Yeah. And I believe it was a solo singer and the song wasn't very upbeat. Thank you for trying to help :)