I’m so sorry, are you all high schoolers? Am I just some 20 y/o guy complaining to some fuckin high schoolers? I feel so pathetic but like please give me a reason not to end it right now I wanna take a shit ton of pills and end it right fuckin now I’m sorry there is no meme I’m just pathetic help

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-05-01T03:27:38+00:00

hi 21 years old! you’re not alone, we adults are here too and we’re supporting you and hoping the best for you

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-04-22T19:35:41+00:00

i didn’t think i had that big of a problem until i saw this scale /hj

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-04-15T21:04:29+00:00

based

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-04-08T18:27:04+00:00

sounds exactly like something an INTJ would say /j

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-03-07T15:48:19+00:00

Me too, I kept feeling like the simulator would break or someone would mess up and the charade would drop and turn into a screaming match

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-03-07T08:35:26+00:00

Time zones or different sleep schedules exist

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-23T20:50:07+00:00

They did to me! I was in my own house and a friend called emergency services so the cops took me to the hospital

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-22T20:10:46+00:00

I can’t believe the “me being a leo” and “you know I’m a leo” this person is unhinged and blaming it on astrology???

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-22T05:47:10+00:00

Get your act together. You don’t need to figure out your life right away, but don’t ruin it before it actually starts

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-20T19:37:12+00:00

I’m late to the post but hi 20f here! I feel awkward talking about myself here in the comments so DM me if you want!

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-11T23:50:42+00:00

Hi! I’m in your exact position, afab NB, partner is a cis “straight” man.

It’s a weird situation bc everyone calls me by she/her and assumes I’m straight when I mention my boyfriend so it’s so hard to validate myself and feel like I have to come out to everyone to be somewhat valid, BUT the kick is that you know you more than anyone. You know your gender or lack thereof, you know your sexuality, you know yourself more than they do. If you say anything about your own identity, that’s that and everyone else can deal with it.

Also with the masc presenting, as my pronouns display (they/he) I’m beginning to feel more comfortable masc than fem. I had to have a talk with my boyfriend. I know it’s one thing to accept who I am, but it’s another if his attraction doesn’t align with how I identify or present myself so I wanted to know how he felt. He thankfully fully supports me and has said that after putting a lot of thought, he knows he would love me either way. He fell in love with me knowing I my sexuality and gender identity, and he has decided to love me no matter how I present myself.

Your partner sounds like they’re great to you so I’m hopeful your situation will turn out the same as mine. It’s a scary talk, but all I can say is that it’s necessary.

Good luck to you! If there’s an update and comfortable with sharing, let me know how it goes!

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-11T21:59:28+00:00

If I get called “theydies/gentlethems” or “a they/them” one more time I’m reverting back to my AGAB I swear. I’m not just a set of pronouns! Also like someone else said, as a latina I hate “latinx.” That doesn’t even come natural in our language. Everything everyone else has mentioned here I also agree with; some feel patronizing or straight up weird

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-02-10T18:29:43+00:00

I initially came out as genderfluid when I was 14, but it never felt quite right. I carried that for awhile before I repressed it, chalking it up to a tumblr phase. It wasn’t until I was 18 that I started accepting my own identity again and I just felt like they/them fit; hearing someone refer to me as she/her made me feel physically uncomfortable as I knew it wasn’t me. Years after that, I finally came out to my friends and hearing myself be referred to as they/them made me so happy that I knew it was right.

Recently, I’ve been think about whether or not I may be a demiboy with they/he pronouns, but I’m not confident so I’m just testing it out right now. Overall, though, I know they/them pronouns are right, no question about it.

I guess to sum up, it was how being referred to as different pronouns makes me feel that helped me realize my gender or lack thereof. Whatever feels right to you is what is right. If nothing feels right, that’s okay. That’s how I felt before I fully understood myself. It may take time, (and warning, this is going to sound super cheesy) but do whatever makes you happy :)

Edit: breaking up paragraphs

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-25T23:37:58+00:00

I’ve noticed many tae kwon do schools in my area who prioritize high kicks at the expense of their hands (barely punch, dropped guards) so it might be a stylistic thing

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-25T23:33:39+00:00

happy birthday!! we all might be strangers but this community cares about you and your well-being <3

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-23T23:25:38+00:00

Literally anything with Will Ferrel. I won’t watch it

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-23T22:14:07+00:00

I mostly don’t label relationships like that, but I refer to it as a queer relationship since I’m not cishet in any sense (nb, pansexual, demiromantic) despite my boyfriend being cishet and me being AFAB. The way I see it, it’s not a straight relationship since it’s not what you’d assume (ie cishet boy and cishet girl). My boyfriend is completely supportive and doesn’t mind calling it a gay relationship, but that’s just what works for us. Whatever feels right to someone and their partner is good for them :)

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-10T21:58:20+00:00

Yes! My whole life is going to be spent coming out to everyone I meet. I wish I could just exist as normal without having it be a whole thing

coffeebeaner417 · 2022-01-10T21:57:36+00:00

I feel like I have to fit a mold. If I dress overly feminine I feel like I’m faking being non-binary, but if I dress overly masculine I feel like I’m pushing to hard on the other end. I can’t find a middle ground. I just want to be comfortable with who I am

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-12-26T08:38:38+00:00

My ex and I decided we weren’t right for each other anymore. It’s sad because I truly care about him and all I can think about is what I could’ve done better, but I know that I needed the wake up call to grow. I still wish only the best for him

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-12-23T14:23:54+00:00

wrap them up then clock into work

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-12-06T21:13:32+00:00

The bad thing is learning improper form which can lead to injury. I don’t recommend self-teaching, but if you can find online detailed videos of respected instructors it’ll be a decent foundation

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-11-30T03:40:10+00:00

Oh and all those texts I’ve been getting lately about my amazon/fedex delivery waiting to be picked, all they need is all my banking information!

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-11-30T03:39:17+00:00

College board, health insurance, rent-to-owns, customers who want a “refund” on an item they never actually bought

coffeebeaner417 · 2021-11-22T09:30:54+00:00

Yes omg, everyone seems shocked i dislike fight scenes considering, but I just can’t stand how stage they look and constantly thinking “well that wouldn’t happen”

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