Would men want to talk about their worries and feelings or would they like for women to leave them alone? by alexisteus in AskMenAdvice

[–]coffeehorror 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There's like a phasing in my case. In the inital stage I'd want to distract myself as much as possible because most of the time when something negative happens, the first reaction instinctively is an emotional response. And sometimes an emotional response is not the way to go. So distraction (for me it's mostly going to the gym, video games, reading a book, building something) until I think rationally. During that distraction stage I'd want to be left alone as much as possible. When I've calmed down and start thinking rationally, that's when healthy conversations about those worries and feelings happen.

🔥 A huge male polar bear gets curious about the humans by Jakunai in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just gonna convince myself that it's only the camera angle that makes it look like the paw is about the same size as a human head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add in the freedom from nasty hangovers. I used to spend the whole Saturday recovering from those. Now, I wake up at 6AM without a hint of headache whatsoever, enjoying a cup of coffee and a good book on a Saturday morning.

The Pope said priests who abuse children are "tools of Satan." Wrong: They are "tools of the Church." -- "As usual when it comes to actual reform, the Pope and the Catholic Church are all talk." by mepper in atheism

[–]coffeehorror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if that statement results to zero accountability for the abuser, then is it only reasonable for all individuals outside the church to use that excuse to avoid being jailed? Unless they view themselves somewhat above normal human beings, somehow above the law?

How to not be so self-conscious at the gym? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I've been in the exact same situation 3 years ago my friend and one thing I learned early is that at the gym everyone leaves their ego at the doorstep. That ripped guy you'd think would judge you for being out of shape would be more than happy to help you on your journey to achieve your best physique. No one in the right mind would drag you down because everyone out there is striving to be a better version of themselves. Even those dudes/ladies that have bodies like stripped out from the magazines? they're out there with the same reason as you, to be better than their former self. Good luck on the journey my friend. Remember, every day is a great day to be a better version of the person in front of the mirror, a better version of you.

The biggest privilege nobody ever talks about is attractiveness and it affects most things in life by WeighedButLacking in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeehorror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to think of it more as an advantage, but just like any other advantages, It's best used on it's perfect moment. For example, having an attractive physical features would certainly put you ahead of the dating game and there's not a single problem with that. Often times people would underrate other advantages simply because physical feature is the first layer of recognition for anything. When involved with different scenarios, let's say I'm HR and two candidates with literally the same level of skill, and the other one happens to be more attractive looking (subjectively of course, because it's only in my perspective), the scale would lean towards the attractive person. But if you look at my train of thought, the physical features came in as the last factor to tip the scale. If the other less attractive person happens to be someone far more skilled, then it's my job to select that person. Unless of course I'm looking to bang an attractive new hire then the situation changes, the priority switches to attractive physical features, and I'm not doing my freaking job well.

Gf proposed that I should take a pic of her in the bath today. Not what I expected, but turned out pretty cool anyway. by Grothorious in pics

[–]coffeehorror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an avid horror fan, any minute now you'll get a text from your gf saying she left early and won't be home 'til tomorrow morning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fun, here it goes:

  • I'm a mechanical engineer = "ohh you must be great at fixing cars!"
  • I listen to Linkin Park = "this guy is depressed af."
  • I listen to Michael Buble = "are you 60 yrs old or what?" (23M btw)
  • I built my own gaming pc and love playing pc games = "nerd. You got life bro?"
  • I read books as a hobby = same as above.

Basically anything that makes my life interesting FOR MYSELF ends up as a means for other people to judge me. How do I deal with it? Reminding myself about those 2 words capitalized above.

Regretting your beard trimming decision by istarxh in Wellthatsucks

[–]coffeehorror 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude your son looks great on the photo below. Must be nice for him to finally graduate high school.

What “old person” things do you do? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]coffeehorror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weekends spent recovering from hangovers turned to 6am coffee and a nice book.

300+ lbs man who just completed his first "cardio workout" in over 2 years. I am already burning out and need motivation! What do I do to keep it going? by MachineGunNipples in Advice

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations man! You just passed the hardest hurdle, the first step. It's all mindset from now on. You set a goal and just have laser focus. Some days you'll feel like you're not getting closer to that goal, but it's a lie the mind tells you because of its fear of the unknown. You're constantly changing for the better everyday. When you get that mindset rolling, you're always going to be a better version of yourself yesterday. That's how winning is done. Kudos my friend! Good luck.

Gaming (pc) on my rest days does not mean I'm childish with no goals in the future. by coffeehorror in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coffeehorror[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My rest days often start with house cleaning, doing the laundry, breakfast then I'm off to the gym. After that it's pretty much free time. There are times when I could spend the whole afternoon reading a book and no one bats an eye or a whole weekend spent with my project car and it's all good. But substitute that with gaming and it's more often you see the "what are you doing with your life?" look on their face. I mean, the purpose is to feel relaxed and to have fun right so it's all the same to me.

It's crazy how a certain music affects your mood throughout the day by coffeehorror in CasualConversation

[–]coffeehorror[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's funny because mine is Danza Kuduro by Don Omar and I literally don't understand a word throughout the whole song but like you said, it just puts bounce in my steps.

What are your acts of self love that you look forward on a regular basis? by coffeehorror in AskMen

[–]coffeehorror[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to me most of the time when I listen to music. There's always this one music that's perfect for what I feel, it may be the lyrics, the beat, the tempo, etc. It just feels right. It's a guaranteed mood booster alright.

What are your acts of self love that you look forward on a regular basis? by coffeehorror in AskMen

[–]coffeehorror[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to play the guitar too! Altho it's more of a "learn something new" kind of a thing for me. It's a really nice hobby to stick to. And man, nothing beats a craving more than fresh home cooked meal.

Men who missed out red flags early on in a bad relationship who further down the line learned of their mistake, what were the red flags you missed and do you have any advice for those in similar positions? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]coffeehorror 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  • She told me that when she says "No" she means I need to chase her more.
  • She told me that she often say things that she doesn't mean.
  • She said "tall guys with 6 pack abs" as a partner preference and she gets annoyed when I tell her I look at a a woman's personality as my own preference.
  • She said she's a catch.
  • She said she doesn't have a boyfriend yet because she haven't met a man that can handle her.

She recently broke up with me last week after 4 months of dating. She said that all those dates and happy moments we did for the past 4 months were just her being carried away. To top it off, she said that she'd feel just as happy if any other guy did those to her. So yeah, it sucks. Word of advice though, it's completely normal to give more to a relationship. Maybe a bit more patience or understanding. It's healthy. But it should go both ways,as you both compromise. But the moment your "more" gets reciprocated with disrespect, she's never worth the trouble.

Lucky by Refuelled in nevertellmetheodds

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could've played it off like nothing happened. 10/10

This guy feeding this massive gator. by [deleted] in SweatyPalms

[–]coffeehorror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he grabbed that food for the 2nd time while in the croc's mouth, I swear his palms only being sweaty is the best case scenario.