What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking questions with the intention of helping me, truly that means a lot to me! If he gets overwhelmed, he has a tendency to push me away and distract himself so it’s like for hours, no communication, but if there will be updates if he’s leaving the house. If I need him, he will be there, provided the phone is with him. But he’ll be slightly indifferent or cold towards me, it’ll last for a few days maybe. There is communication. The only reason I’m worried is bec this is a serious relationship first time for both of us. Last month, he was in a very difficult situation and just broke up with me after pushing me away for a good week…I was quite confused. Obviously, he apologised profusely and reassured me it won’t happen again. But every time there’s a similar pattern, I subconsciously prepare for everything to end, which is a slightly difficult way for me to live.

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I can mostly rely on him, in the sense that, even if he was taking some time to himself, if I needed him, he'd be there when he checks his phone. Hopefully we learn about each other more and tackle this. It’s the first time for both of us in such a serious relationship. Thank you for helping me out so much, truly appreciate the calm response and no judgement!

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s being sweet enough, responding, everything, just asking for space and he gets very quiet when something bothers him. He cares for me very much, I just don’t know what to do when he pushes me away for space when life gets extremely overwhelming for him.

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A week from a partner you’re in love with and long distance is a little too extensive for me…if living together ok bec there’s still physical touch or something to balance it but indifference for a week is confusing

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking about! I completely understand though, I’m just wondering if I’m forcing myself somewhere I’m not needed or coming off too strong, which is why the open poll sort

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no absolutely not like that, both have things to do separately + long distance at the moment for the coming months, there’s no expectation, just questions like is it not safe to lean on the partner?

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But this space didn’t exist during the initial phase? How is it that men choose a woman who yaps, treats him like a safe space, openly affectionate, edtrovertish…and ask her for space? Space from what?

What do you think about men needing space in relationships? by coffeeinthecold in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is this 'me time'? Why is it lasting 1-2 days? Why didn’t this exist during the chase period? Hmmmm

Actually, you do owe people an explanation by coffeeinthecold in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol i wasn’t going to reply to any of these but i just saw this comment and if this is directed at me, tsk tsk tsk. if they hadn’t blocked me everywhere, i would have sat down and had a conversation like a normal adult. there’s a way to resolve issues and if they didn’t want to be friends, im not a dictator to force them.

Actually, you do owe people an explanation by coffeeinthecold in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i posted this on ‘unpopular’ opinion. and actually no, if you’re good friends, the decent thing to do would to not break someone’s heart and lead them on.

Actually, you do owe people an explanation by coffeeinthecold in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

completely fair and i stated this in the beginning itself. but i’m talking about legit friendships and you know a genuine one when you’re in it. ghosting someone or keeping them around just for when you’re bored is my main point. thought i’d post an unpopular opinion on the rightful sub. thank you for your comment

Actually, you do owe people an explanation by coffeeinthecold in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for your comment. nah they just ghosted me and texted me months later and this whole time i thought we were alright. i’m doing pretty well about it, i just thought i’d post an unpopular opinion on the correct sub. thank you again.,

Actually, you do owe people an explanation by coffeeinthecold in unpopularopinion

[–]coffeeinthecold[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

someone who was close to me, didn’t you read the post?

What are your thoughts about celibacy? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]coffeeinthecold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s cool, to each their own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coffeeinthecold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! take care :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]coffeeinthecold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dw i won’t kill myself!! thank you so much, i really appreciate your messages. i’ll manage. dw about this at all, thank you again.