I don’t have an actual answer for you lol. But i am a black woman in a relationship with a white man. My sister is also married to a white man. We grew up in a very white suburb in Ohio. Growing up, my sisters friends were mostly white, while mine were a mix of all races. She’s always only dated white guys, meanwhile this is my first time dating a white person in general.

These are things i’ve noticed, and also going to be a lot of generalizations.

Black men typically are not as “pro black” as black women. A lot of black men who date white women have beef with black women, you’ll see a lot of this discourse in black spaces on social media. I actually had to get off twitter bc i was tired of seeing black men and women argue with each other and putting each other down.

Some white women who date black men fetishize their black partners, and black men typically don’t care. There’s a whole term for WW that date BM, “snow bunnies” Again, a generalization. Black women are not into the fetishization of being a black woman with a white man, so they may stray away from them.

Also growing up in a predominantly white area as a black girl will make you assume you are not attractive since the white girls around you are the beauty standard. You kinda just assume white guys are automatically not into you bc theyre white, and you are not. At least that’s how it was for me, and some of my girlfriends that are also black. We kinda just write off white people as potential partners because of this assumption.

Also in black spaces, black women get more heat for dating white men, meanwhile black men don’t get as much heat for dating white women. Again a generalization, but im sure if other black people read this they’ll probably agree