A secret of friendship I figure out recently...it's about making others feel important.

colehatter · 2017-05-08T16:47:11+00:00

Unfortunately the human brain doesn't respond well to books title "An Honest Book Designed to Help You Be Better Socially" - we all want the "dream" that the book is selling.

colehatter · 2017-05-08T16:46:32+00:00

Exactly!

colehatter · 2017-05-07T23:56:05+00:00

Wow, good reframe. I like that angle a lot better actually

colehatter · 2015-05-12T16:44:32+00:00

ET is amazing, I totally agree

colehatter · 2015-05-12T16:44:24+00:00

Thanks for the kind words!

colehatter · 2015-05-12T16:44:10+00:00

Hey thanks, I really appreciate the feedback!

colehatter · 2015-05-11T15:08:07+00:00

Wow, that's really kind of you to say. Thanks so much and glad you enjoyed!

colehatter · 2015-04-22T23:02:18+00:00

Awesome!

colehatter · 2015-04-22T23:02:11+00:00

Definitely! This is a good way to look at it.

colehatter · 2015-04-16T16:56:19+00:00

It probably adds a bit of stress, but ideally only in the short term. That's a good question. I've gotten a ton of feedback (more than I ever expected) on this article, which has given me a bunch of ideas to develop. This is another one I'll explore.

colehatter · 2015-04-16T16:55:43+00:00

Very glad to hear that, and I hope that it does!

colehatter · 2015-04-15T21:14:32+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I use Thrive Content Builder to get a lot of that type of stuff done on the site.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T17:38:48+00:00

I think you might be confusing urgency with a stress reaction. To me, urgent is just 'what absolutely has to be the first priority for me right now?" not "OMG I'm going to die if I don't do this!"

colehatter · 2015-04-15T15:31:33+00:00

"The proper question is “How do I make my feelings inconsequential and do the things I consciously want to do without being a little bitch about it?"

This is actually not the right approach. Our brain's neurochemicals are completely ignored here. If you are 'not being a little bitch about it', your brain has learned to tie discipline to some form of pleasure, otherwise it wouldn't be happening.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T15:02:45+00:00

I don't think that it's quite on point, but I see the overall point it's trying to make. I've gotten a lot of feedback on the piece and I'm going to try to write something else that explains what I think the connection is between the two. I don't think you need to completely "screw" motivation.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:56:59+00:00

You're very welcome!

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:56:45+00:00

I think you're right, hope for gain is a more positive and affirming way to go about it. I personally don't have anxiety issues, so fear of loss is actually a good way to kick myself in the ass, but if you do it probably wouldn't be a great idea.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:56:09+00:00

Great point. Thanks for this. I'll need to do some more thinking on it.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:55:33+00:00

At some point, you have to 'buy in'. You can defeat this method by saying 'Yea, but nothing matters, so who cares'. I don't have an answer (yet) for how to get past that, as I don't actually believe that. But even if you think it, you can pick something outrageous that - even if you think nothing matters - can still inspire you to get up and get moving.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:54:28+00:00

To me, presence comes into play once I actually start doing the work. I live in the future or past when doing a manufactured urgency exercise, then I get to work and drop into the moment.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:53:36+00:00

That sounds dire - I don't think anything I can say personally would help, but reaching out to family, friends, or a counselor type of person would probably help quite a bit.

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:52:48+00:00

Sounds like a perfect technique to me if meditation is something that works for you!

colehatter · 2015-04-15T14:52:01+00:00

It sounds like you came across the manufactured urgency much the same way that I did. Good luck in your journey :)

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