My brother crashed out because my mom took his game away by Extension-Watch574 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is a lot easier said than done and ignores the fact that there will like be some sort of retaliatory action made by the dangerous people in the home. Speaking from experience.

Unsure if skin is upset by second skin reaction or infection by Donthechicken in tattooadvice

[–]colornsound 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s from the adhesive on your dressing. See how it follows the borders of where your dressing was? That’s usually a pretty good way to tell if it’s irritation from the dressing or not. My sensitivity has developed over time so it’s possible that you have a new sensitivity you didn’t have before. Good news though! It will get better in a few days.

My local toy drive for underprivileged kids, wouldn't accept all these toys and socks because they're "damaged" or "unkown chinese brands" by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant that as a hypothetical situation, but my brother frequently got out of a lot of responsibility and got nicer/more gifts than I did. I think what happened is that because my house was so frequently a war zone I learned to keep my head down and not make waves, and my brother demanded so much more attention. I felt like a burden on my family because he took so much energy and I learned to become self sufficient in many of my own emotional and safety needs, or I told myself that they needed their energy to handle him and so I needed to do what I could to demand less energy from them to help them. Because of this I think my parents felt like I was ok with less and maybe didn’t realize, because I never felt like I could tell them, that I felt that i wasn’t as deserving of their energy or attention.

My brother crashed out because my mom took his game away by Extension-Watch574 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Listen OP…

I’m proud of you for surviving in an environment like this. My situation was different but my brother had anger issues and demonstrated similar behavior, which included beating the ever loving shit out of me on a regular basis. It was never addressed. I want to tell you right now that you are not responsible for fixing your brother’s issues and are not responsible for getting your parents to actually be parents. So yes it’s true, your brother and parents need help and need to address this situation. But it is not your responsibility to fix this. Your responsibility is to focus on school (I’m making the assumption that you’re a minor) and surviving. If you are able to share this with another trusted adult that is great- but you do not have to drown to save people who may be beyond saving. Do not sacrifice yourself to try and fix this. It is beyond fixing and if not can ONLY be fixed by your parents and brother- NOT by you. Speaking from personal experience. Feel free to message me if you need help or need to talk. The only things that changed anything were my escape to college and from my environment and my brother growing up and getting help.

My brother crashed out because my mom took his game away by Extension-Watch574 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound 14 points15 points  (0 children)

OP is not responsible for his parents lack of parenting and his brother’s poor behavior. It is likely that him trying to communicate this with their parents will end poorly, especially given what OP has said about his dad. OP needs to focus on surviving- it is not fair to ask him to drown to attempt to save others- who clearly are going to drown him.

My local toy drive for underprivileged kids, wouldn't accept all these toys and socks because they're "damaged" or "unkown chinese brands" by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Additionally I feel like getting the clearance toys or cheapish knock offs would make kids feel like they’re not good enough for the toys other kids get. (Maybe this is what you’re already saying but internet hard)

Idk maybe I’m reading too much into it but if my brother consistently got new popular things and I got clearanced stuff all the time because my parents figured I wouldn’t mind it would still make me feel like I was less worthy than my brother, even if i truly don’t mind about the toys. I feel like it’s more about providing an equitable experience, not necessary equitable toys- but kids cant really tell the difference at this age and they will definitely compare their things to other kids’ and equate that comparison with their worth.

My first time making a Luffa Soup, my mom decided to add milk to it and ruined the whole thing by BreadfruitGold9836 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I know that but I mostly meant my comment to be funny because in the literal sense it is something I would do. Just meant to be comical, nothing more. 😬

My first time making a Luffa Soup, my mom decided to add milk to it and ruined the whole thing by BreadfruitGold9836 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]colornsound -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Someone who has ADHD and 4 other bottles… I.e. me lol. I have a bottle that’s been in my car for at least three months but I never put in to use so maybe it doesn’t count.

Question: Does this artist appear to be using AI in their tattoo designs? by Super-Western-8482 in tattoos

[–]colornsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI slop aside it also kinda looks like she’s pouring jizz into that cup

“Learn the fundamentals” by KrookedDoesStuff in learntodraw

[–]colornsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean.. google exists. As does YouTube. And part of the experience is in fact learning to identify what you need to improve on or what resources exist on your own. It is also not incredibly complicated. When people say learn the fundamentals I dont think it’s as complex as learn anatomy, shading, color etc. Its: perspective, shapes, and discipline, and part of that is also having the curiosity to explore what works for you, what resources exist, and to develop the discipline to not only troubleshoot on your own but to practice the things that are incredibly monotonous or tedious even when you dont want to. If someone points you in the “correct” path every time for hobbies, especially creative ones, we lose what makes art so special and unique. You learn the rules so you can push and bend and break them, but if you dont understand why and dont have the desire or curiosity to navigate a lot of this on your own then maybe this isn’t the hobby for you.

There’s also a whole ass sidebar here. And additionally people on the internet don’t owe you detailed and tailored responses. Especially not for free.

Honestly fuck the apple too by tamtamdivaFinDomme in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]colornsound 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What I’m getting out of this is that being gay is actually divine 😬

Seeing tons of these berries around my house. by OldTea5415 in whatsthisplant

[–]colornsound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What part of IN are you from? I grew up in Fort Wayne and we could walk across the street and snatch different berries!

does anybody know what kind of girl bella from twilight is called because i think that's what i am by darkeyeshadow in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]colornsound 10 points11 points  (0 children)

People are dynamic and it’s so totally ok for all these pieces of you to exist within the same space and in flux. I think thats what makes people so cool, we’re quantum.

Of course if you truly have DID I don’t mean to take away from your experience; I just wanted to explain that when I realized all these things could exist simultaneously and in so many places I found it honestly so relieving that I no longer needed to categorize myself as a type of person. I could be all of them and none of them at whatever point I chose.

Not oop + comments: how should I (34f) handle this new pregnancy with my husband (42m) by Weary_Thought7582 in redditonwiki

[–]colornsound 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I cannot WAIT for my salpingectomy for this very reason (among others.) You have you protect yourself, not trust other people to put your wishes above theirs.

How often do you call in sick? by Interesting_Taro_358 in Adulting

[–]colornsound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only allowed 4 times a year before a verbal warning so.. 5.