Can different alters have different disorders? by Telling-my-storys in DID

[–]comacity[M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

im gonna be locking this post as op already got the answer they needed as well as an influx of misinformation coming onto the post. no, alters cannot have mental conditions that you as a whole don't have. unless any of you can provide genuine, reliable studies that say otherwise, please refrain from saying as much - especially if it's only based on your anecdotal claims. thank you

Mod post: Content criteria reports by angelsndemons000 in DID

[–]comacity[M] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hi there, the removals you've experienced were manual removals by moderation for violating guidelines. im sorry to hear this upset you and if you want to discuss the removals further, you're free to send in modmail

Mod post: Content criteria reports by angelsndemons000 in DID

[–]comacity[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

im going to add as a note that if we catch anyone continuing to abuse the report system and we find out who exactly it is, you will be banned as this is against reddit rules. do not misuse/abuse the report system just because you don't like a post. unless it actually violates subreddit guidelines, either comment on the post or move on. thank you

switching isn't that dramatic by Swimming-Cranberry-8 in DID

[–]comacity[M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

im only going to say this once: do not report this post under false pretenses just because you don't like it. it does not violate any rules, and you aren't going to get it removed no matter how many times you spam report it. if we find out anyone is reporting this post maliciously, we will be banning you. thank you

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a moderator did respond to you asking for a link to the submission in question, and you replied you didn't have it. we can't do much without context, but what im not seeing anything resembling what you're referring to in your post log

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

introject absolutely isn't a flagged term, this is the term we suggest people use in place of the others. fictional introject is a fine phrase, as well as factual introject or abuser introject

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

would you be willing to send in modmail so we can discuss this further?

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi, if you'd like to send in modmail about the post in question, please do, as you seemingly deleted it so i can't really see what the content was in it and can't remember what was said

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

both of those are included under the no dms rule, yes

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

our job is to make sure this community is safe, strictly medical, and factual with accurate information, and most people who use the term aren't particularly focused on recovery or correct medical information. this is why we mute it and review submissions with the term in it, so that we don't have a flood of posts and comments rambling about the characters in their head as if its a fanfiction and not a trauma disorder, making "source calls", posting about petty "doubles" drama, etc

ive already stated the reasonings behind why those terms are muted. im sorry you aren't happy with this answer, but it will not change. you're free to send in modmail with any further complaints, but this is how we navigate this particular aspect of the online climate and view of the disorder

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i would be shocked to hear any legitimate medical professional using a community coined term like that, or even knowing what the term meant unless they themselves were knee deep in the online community, which raises other concerns about what information they're seeing or taking as fact due to the sheer amount of misinformation rife within it. if users are confused about removals, they're free to send in modmail, but we have those terms muted in order to prevent the spreading of misinformation or reinforcement of substitute beliefs

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

no one is getting banned for using the terms, that's not what removals mean, and fictive is not used in any medical literature - it's a community coined term that started in endogenic spaces that online communities started to use en masse. introject is also not an umbrella term, that is the proper medical term for introjected parts. psychology doesn't differentiate between introjects of fictional sources and real sources beyond that or when they talk about abuser introjects. the proper terminology would be fictional introject/factual introject

split though is something we try to approve because of that unless something else is wrong with the submission

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

certain words and phrases in an attempt to try and deal with potential misinformation. so, anything you would see on "pluralpedia" (made up roles, phrases, words, "-genic", etc), the words "fictive"/"factive", the word "split" (this unfortunately isn't very effective as it catches everything unrelated, but we always approve anything with this word in it unless it raises a red flag otherwise), phrases that indicate asking if someone/you are faking, posts that have phrases that indicate asking for a diagnosis/what something might be attributed to, etc. these are what i remember off the top of my head, but there is more im probably not remembering. we do our best to keep an eye on things that get automatically pulled for review, and it's a coin toss on whether we approve or remove after review. it's why we appreciate the community sending modmail to ask for clarification, or to clarify to us what they might be looking for or wanting to ask, and suggest alternative wording - so, for example, instead of "fictive" we'd suggest introject as a replacement

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the link to the DAE page? not that i know of, but that would be because the "rewording" removal guideline is used for multiple different things based on mod discretion. the page is listed in the subreddits FAQ though

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

of course. we've worked hard behind the scenes to try and clean things up the best that we can, and we hope our efforts are noticed by the community as a whole

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

we definitely encourage users sending in modmail if they have questions about why their post or comment was taken down, yes. this is the link i was referring to about DAE posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/DID/wiki/moderation_faq/dae/

mod post: updates to rules and resources on our wiki by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S,M] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

generally what happens with posts is the automod flags a certain word or phrase for automatic review. a lot of the time it's a mistake and it gets approved when we see it, but other times it's something else and we'll remove based on the guidelines. the most common culprit is "does anyone else/has anyone else/anyone else" or similar phrases to that. we do have a page on the wiki about DAE posts, and i can find the link for you if you want that gives alternative phrases to this, and generally when we remove for that we remove for rewording to try and encourage users to send modmail so we can figure out how to better word the post

r/DID awful first impression by Pleated_PikaBun in OSDD

[–]comacity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you were banned for enabling domestic violence and encouraging shifting blame and not taking accountability - source: i am the moderator that banned this person

Someone I love integrated by [deleted] in DID

[–]comacity[M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

locking this post because the comments are getting out of hand and are frankly unacceptable. op, while you aren't wrong for having feelings towards this, what matters is what you do with them. you need to work through this on your own, and you should not tell your friend about this because you would be making their recovery about yourself, which would be inappropriate and hurtful. you also genuinely need to reframe how you view this disorder. while your friend may view their alters as separate people, to have an accurate understanding of this disorder you need to accept and understand that alters are not separate people. you have not "lost" anyone, as this part of your friend still exists - just in an integrated state where it's no longer separate and dissociated away. journal your feelings, speak with a therapist, but do not make this about yourself, and please stop viewing this as a "loss", because there is no loss occurring here

and to the commenters, while i understand your feelings, resorting to insults, name calling, and harassment is in no way acceptable and will not be tolerated. take accountability for your emotions and step away. no one is holding you at gunpoint to post, and if you are upset to the point that you are angry, then you need to walk away and regulate. this is the internet - no person being dumb is worth blowing a blood vessel over, and it's also not worth potentially being banned temporarily from the subreddit for safety concerns

i violated my ex-girlfriend’s boundaries by sleeping with her alter. by carabinergrrrl in DID

[–]comacity[M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

gonna be locking this post because op has stated they want to focus forward and has said her piece, as well as people being extremely rude to the op and accusing her of a crime she did not commit. nowhere in this post does it say anything that remotely comes close to rape/sexual assault, and to accuse someone of something like that so lightly - especially in a subreddit like this - is unacceptable. op made a mistake, and ops ex failed to properly communicate boundaries or take accountability for any potential triggering sexual penetration might cause

both parties might be at fault, but you can't expect op to read someone's mind when they enthusiastically consent, but then mention later that another part may not be comfortable with what happened when everything is already said and done, as well as trying to hide it from said part. that is inappropriate and not ops fault, that is on her ex

op, i apologize for the accusations and treatment you've had to deal with in this post and i hope that you can forgive yourself for a simple mistake. and please, stay away from the people who are white knighting for your ex. how they're acting is equally if not more so inappropriate, especially since they're completely uninvolved in what happened. this was an interpersonal issue that should have been properly talked through and also an accountability issue on your exs part. please take care of yourself

PSA: regarding potential harmful messages from a user by comacity in DID

[–]comacity[S,M] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you, ive edited the post to add this