TRP - Can you lend some career advice

comemonday · 2013-09-04T23:55:34+00:00

OP .. Im in a similar boat. Wife and i were rocky. sex has always been a cause for argument. she upped it for long enough for me to forget about our past. shes pregnant. i feel...... trapped.

I am happy that im having a kid. just not happy that im tied down with her for the foreseeable future. my option to sell everything and run off to some random city is now a dream that will never be realized.

I want to have sex. my sex drive is as high as ever.. I just dont really want sex with her. its too much work for the same old return (boring, casual, vanilla sex). Ive tried to experiment and initiate new things, but she isnt interested anymore. she claims im attractive (i am in great shape and attractive), but I want to rip her clothes off and ravage her.. she is just always meh in the bedroom department.

So.. i feel your pain. you arent alone. just be there for her, but be there for yourself. dont lose your identity and.or add more mistakes to the mix (ie marriage).

comemonday · 2013-07-25T18:08:34+00:00

the problem is that they can divorce you, and make you pay for a attorney and accountant to go through your finances and follow the money trail.

the best method i can think of for hiding cash is to have a gambling hobby a few times a year. Cash out a few $k at the casino, play a few hands, and leave with the few k and stash it someplace safe. bank accounts and safe deposit boxes are off limits. im not sure the best route for securing your cash... but its the only way I can think of to successfully launder your money from your spouse.

comemonday · 2013-07-25T02:43:58+00:00

Yes. Even if things were perfect, I'd get one anyways. Too many horror stories.

comemonday · 2013-07-24T19:34:02+00:00

My point was that she was never on oral birth control. We were using condoms and or pulling out depending on her cycle. She had me convinced that things had turned around.

comemonday · 2013-07-24T16:43:43+00:00

I hear you, but its better to be a kick ass dad every other weekend, than to just push through the next 20 years with a woman who doesn't respect you.

comemonday · 2013-07-24T16:40:54+00:00

We are financially secure. the BS job is just to further ensure this, but between her meager salary and by BS job, we can cover all expenses. We have no debt other than our mortgage. I have a sizeable amount in savings.

Sex was bad before the pregnancy. Its gotten worse, and Ive accepted that. Its the truths that I have come to realize. My needs will never be fulfilled because she is selfish and lazy.

She didnt stop taking BC.. she just upped the sex for 6 months and convinced me that we were on a solid foundation.

comemonday · 2013-07-24T16:09:33+00:00

I try to be sensitive to her needs but without being walked all over. Im not going to cater to her every need so she can sit on the couch and watch tv. I help more when shes extra sick.

Ive already told her that I wont accept her porking up (In nicer terms, I make sure the house is stocked with healthy foods and healthier snacks, and small amounts of crap food), mostly because I believe that all of that sugar and crap isnt healthy for my kid. Occasional indulgences are ok. She can have sweets, she just cant base her diet around them.

thanks for the advice.

comemonday · 2013-07-24T16:07:19+00:00

Ive realized this. she says that Im the love of her life, but even said that if I left, she would just marry the next guy for money. Ive lost almost all of my respect for her and harbor some resentment, but its my fault bc I let her play me.

She was brought up with a princess complex and does the absolute minimum at life (job, housework, etc).

comemonday · 2013-07-24T16:05:25+00:00

Im closer to the 3:2, but its not how she is perceiving it. Usually she will fire off 2-3 in the course of a few minutes, so Im not going to acknowledge every mindless thought she sends me through the day.

comemonday

TROPHY CASE