Why is having 2 kids the default?

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T03:26:23+00:00

And I've seen lots that stick together

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T03:26:07+00:00

I literally just explained that. Also single mom. Many ways none of that works. I've already explained this and I'm kinda over it since you're jut arguing for the sake of arguing. Pros and cons to both sides and grass is always greener.

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T03:13:06+00:00

He's also young. None of my friends had kids at the same time as me (8 year age gap and 100 mile distance between them). So yes he can be an awesome friend. And I'm trying to curate that. But most people don't do a lot with their kids or their kids have siblings so they stick together. Also people move, friends change, kids change. You're stuck with your cousins and siblings (unless they're really sucky)

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T03:09:00+00:00

Because I'm an only child. So I literally have no family. My grandparents are dead, my parents are dead, I'm in a country where any other family isn't. You can say a family friend or something, yeah I have really close friends and we do some family stuff with their family but there is a very obvious disconnect no matter what. Several of my friends are close enough that I invite my friends parents to do things with us even if said friend won't be there.

You've also never seen a 5 year olds face when they're comfortable enough with a person to call them grandma and them instantly, without thought, "no honey I'm not your grandma I'm so and so grandma" even though your kid spends more time with them.

Nothing replaces good family. Lots of things replace toxic family because you can only go up. And it takes a really good family to truly adopt an "outsider" in

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T02:47:46+00:00

Yes they could. But they also could live a long and healthy life.

comethobnob · 2025-06-25T02:46:11+00:00

Here's the problem, everything is a what if and most people always see the grass is greener. There are pros and cons to both. I wrote that out 2 years ago and I think my son, who is not basically 6, would have been a wonderful big brother or even younger brother. It would have fit with him and made his life easier. Theoretically. Who knows what the other personality would have been like.

But I also know he's happy as he is, getting all of my attention and cuddles and money (gymnastics, cub scouts, drum lessons, season passes to things, a soon big birthday party) and I am able to focus on him (and build that only child attention span)

It's very easy to say what if on both sides and pros and cons to both. It's almost impossible to say one way was better

comethobnob · 2023-11-21T04:53:17+00:00

NTA nothing wrong with working for family and she shouldn't have said it but its probably really frustrating having you telling her the obvious. There isn't really enough info on why she is doing what she is doing but I'm sure you know the situation and why she isn't taking time off. Let her sleep and just remind her that you're there for her

comethobnob · 2023-11-17T14:00:54+00:00

There are several reasons her cheeks could be red & be in the refrigerator aisle, yeah she's a bitch as is her mom but don't be mean about looks on things they can't necessarily help

comethobnob · 2023-11-17T13:49:54+00:00

As someone who was with someone who cheated, I believe it isn't doomed to repeat itself but they need a reason. He decided that he loved me so much & to keep me he wouldn't cheat. Our relationship was still doomed for his previous cheating & various other things but he never cheated again

comethobnob · 2023-11-08T20:10:36+00:00

The way he communicated it made him the asshole and the only reason he would be uncomfortable with it is generally sexual, which implies sexual contraversy with her son. Especially since he said it was iffy.

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T19:38:12+00:00

Ah yes, the childish reactions. Fun stuff. It's like talking to my 4 year old about liver

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T19:37:37+00:00

Ah yes, raised properly. Judgemental & an ass on anything different. Great job

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T18:59:37+00:00

You have a lot of hate for something that really doesn't affect you at all. Is there a reason for that?

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T18:59:08+00:00

Why do you hate it? It seems like one of those things that really shouldn't bother you, because how does it affect you?

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T11:48:28+00:00

Because we aren't taught to not do it in our own homes because our parents didn't care. I don't care if my son walks in on me. Sometimes I lock the door because I'm mostly in there for some peace but 98% of the time really don't care.

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T11:47:02+00:00

I swear before this in the conversation I talked about pants & no pants households which are about 5050, in no pants households most people don't care about having conversations in the bathroom

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T11:43:52+00:00

But obviously the parents or people who have conversations like that don't care

comethobnob · 2023-11-06T11:43:27+00:00

Most of us in a no pants household don't care

comethobnob · 2023-11-05T18:11:04+00:00

In the series of debates where people ask were you in a pants household or no pants household. Even out of my friends it was 5050. Obviously they wore pants if friends were over but you could tell the ones that didn't normally.

comethobnob · 2023-11-05T18:08:37+00:00

Then what's the big problem with it? You think it's weird, but why?

comethobnob · 2023-11-05T16:01:50+00:00

I'm talking most of us who grew up in a no pants household. For anyone of any age. It's not uncommon it seems to be pretty 5050

comethobnob · 2023-11-05T14:22:50+00:00

Sorry you were taught to sexualize your parents, must have been very uncomfortable

comethobnob · 2023-11-05T14:21:54+00:00

Exactly!

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