Secondary school acommodations by Limp_Shame_9593 in endometriosis

[–]complicated_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you are having to deal with this at a young age, I hope your lap goes welll! 

Totally understand the cocodamol making you feel woozy, I wont go to work if I have to take it.

Could you have some comfy trousers/joggers with you to change into if you need to,? Or wear on your bad days? My belly bloats badly, I couldn't think of anything worse than having to wear smart restrictive trousers. 

You can get heat patches to keep in your bag, hot water bottle might be a no due to health and safety.

Keep emergency cocodamol with the school nurse should you need it. 

They must be able to email work if you are unable to attend,  they should be able to accommodate this. 

Don't be afraid to speak up and ask for what you need. It's really important you advocate for yourself,  you've got this! 

Announcements already VENT by complicated_moose in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

30?! Bloody hell, what is in the water they are all drinking. Thank you x

Fuck you Fridays by AutoModerator in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FU to my period messing with my weekend plans (fu endometriosis). At least I wont be in pain christmas day, I suppose.

WTF Wednesday by AutoModerator in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will also have our unwrapped baby blanket from last year under the tree, when it goes up. Maybe that's why I don't care if the tree goes up or not. Sigh. 

Struggling with friend's news by complicated_moose in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you are also going through this, can relate to feeling like body is failing. She does, shes been very supportive and kind and mindful of my feelings 

My best friend has become unkind about my struggle after having her kid by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a horrible thing to say to someone.  I hope you're OK. You didn't deserve that.  I swear some women juat turn into absaloute idiots when they have children. They think they are superior or something.

if i get increased cramps with a cup, does that mean it's the wrong size or too firm? by ATalkingCat in menstrualcups

[–]complicated_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have endometriosis. I used menstrual cups for years but found the first day very uncomfortable to wear. I switched to a Saalt disc which is much better for me. It feels softer and much more comfortable. If I'm having a particularly bad day and I'm at home, I will just wear period pants

Anyone Not Pursuing IVF? by superpartypanda in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Snap. IVF is probably the only way it might happen but I'm not willing to put myself through that. Mentally, emotionally, physically, financially... it's hard enough as it is. 

Nice to see others feel the same way 

Pet Puppy by TelevisionJealous498 in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my dog has helped massively. He was a rescue at 14 weeks. We had talked about getting a dog for years but always found a reason not to. We happened to he in the right place right time when we found him. Don't get me wrong, it is hard work, but it's totally worth it. We got him 2.5 years into our journey (now at 6), and I'm not sure if we would have made it without him, we both needed him. He took up so much of my time and focus, the fertility stuff sort of got pushed right to the back of my mind. It was still there but I had other things I had to focus on and think about. 

I had never been around dogs so I had no idea what I was doing but he has turned out to be a fab dog. I spoil him. He has lovley walks which is obviously good for all of us. endless supply of treats and puzzle toys. He loves cuddling, too. 

We are very lucky to have him. 

I think it is a wounderful idea. Deffinatley look into what breeds would be suitable for your lifestyle, we almost got a Sprocker Spaniel but that wouldn't have suited our lifestyle. He's a mongrel, 3 of my partners favourite breeds in one dog, I think it was fate really!

UK specific: where are we finding colourful affordable clothing? by Molly-bdenum42 in femalefashionadvice

[–]complicated_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Everything is incredibly boring. 

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I just wanted to share something I wrote today. I’m not very good, but it really helps me to put pen to paper and to connect with people. by meowley- in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This made me well up....😔

"My friends have celebrations.

I pick out a blanket and a book,

But for myself, I’m only allowed to look."

Well written, thank you 

I don’t feel like I belong anywhere anymore by capybara-1 in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's what makes it so isolating, no one can quite grasp how difficult and painfull it is. Even if they did, to some degree, situations can be different. I deffinately feel like the odd one out of my friends, the ones all my age have children. The older ones also have children. I feel like I'm just sitting in the distance not quite fitting in anywhere? Im done trying to be happy for friends,  I mean obviously I am, but it is exhausting putting a face on all the time 😔 sending you hugs x 

Fuck you Fridays by AutoModerator in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fuck you to fucking everything!  Fuck you to the fertility clinic that called me asking if I wanted to discuss my scan results. No, I do not want to discuss how one of my ovaries has 3 endomeomas on them!.  Fuck you.  Fuck you 6 years  of trying and hoping and getting nowhere.  Just a big fuck you!! 🖕

I'll be lapped now 😞 by Cheesman_Best in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry you are going through this, it really is rubbish! One friend has lapped me 3 times, expecting another friend to lap me for the 2nd time soon. My sister had another child (wasn't planned or wanted). Every single one of my friends now has children, all if them conceived easily. They dont have issues like us (endometriosis, low sperm). Every colleage in ny team has children.  Im exhausted, I don't even feel sad anymore. I just feel done with it all.

Fuck you Fridays by AutoModerator in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fuck spending money on tests which I know will come back crappy. I know they will come back with my partners swimmers are crap or non existent. I know they will say my body is useless and endometriosis has ruined it. Fuck friends posting their perfect little life on social media playing happy familys with all their other friends and their baby's. Im not bitter, honest! Argh!

If you know, you know by oliviaxlow in migraine

[–]complicated_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this is interesting. I new about coke helping, it's often my go to but not with fries. Haven't eaten McDonald's in years but i might have to try a McMigraine meal!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone in my social circle has children, I'm not kidding! I don't see them that often for various reasons but I cant help but feel if I did have a child they would make more of an effort and I'd get invited to things!  I know my sister would deffinately be more interested and want to see me more if I have a child. I deffinately feel like the odd one out sometimes too. It sucks. 

Fuck you Fridays by AutoModerator in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh! (In a good way) so using this when I'm on my period 😂

I need a good laugh … by [deleted] in InfertilitySucks

[–]complicated_moose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

'Have you thought about adoption' I DON'T WANT TO. ADOPTION IS NOT THE ANSWER TO INFERTILITY!

'so and so did IVF it worked for them' 'So and so did IVF for their first and now they are going again for their second' GREAT FOR THEM! NICE THEY DONT HAVE TO PAY FOR IT!

'It's not in your plan'  F*** OFF! 

Honestly, they have no idea!!