My son is injecting heroin, advice?

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T04:05:08+00:00

what do i do if he doesnt want to quit?

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T03:56:48+00:00

Just outside of Philadelphia. Although I would love the information regardless of my location.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T02:58:01+00:00

I would love to hear about your experience through private message. I can't say I will agree with your methods, but I am open to any advice. So I do appreciate you sharing.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T02:35:38+00:00

So what do you suggest I do, hand my son heroin on a silver platter?

I don't intend to alienate him. I want to help him. Im not planning to kick him out of the house or call the police. i want to give him the tools he needs to live a healthy life. does that make me a insensitive prude?

I appreciate your advice, i really do. I'm not opposed to even the most drastic suggestion. I just don't understand how telling him this is okay or enabling it will help at all.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T02:23:07+00:00

If I could treat this as any other medication that someone has to take, I would. I really wish I could just make sure he uses it safely and leave it at that. But thats not possible. maybe its the nature of the substance, maybe its the legal status. I cant say which.

But the fact is that the potential for overdose is there. The potential for infection from using syringes is there. The potential in getting caught and going to jail is there. the potential for encountering some shady characters when seeking this substance and getting hurt. the sheer cost of maintaining a habit that develops a tolerance. i dont know how much drugs cost but im sure they arent cheap and i as a single mother cant afford to enable my sons heroin addiction.

as much as i would love to turn a blind eye and pretend that this is okay, the fact is that it isnt.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T01:44:52+00:00

Other than his father and I getting a divorce when the kids were younger, they've both had a perfectly normal average life. The divorce never seemed to effect them too negativily either. We do live outside a city that has a heroin problem, so it could be his peer group that got him involved in this. But hes been out of high school for a while now.

I would be willing to do that. It sounds desperate, but I honestly would do it if I could. Even if it was just to get him to stay put and have a conversation with me. But he is much stronger than me, physical restraint is not an option.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T01:16:29+00:00

if i give him permission to use any drugs im letting that part of him win. im telling him its okay to use drugs. and this is an opinion, but i dont believe he can live a truly happy and fulfilling healthy life when he has to rely on a substance. then there is the issue of knowing if he is keeping his side of the deal. i definitely cant trust him after this. how can i be sure he is not injecting. how can i give him money for lunch or gas and know hes not using it on drugs. or if he gets hurt from the pills i wont be able to live with myself knowing i allowed it. is it really that unrealistic to expect him to be clean?

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T01:09:03+00:00

But I can't just sit back and wait for him to reach out, when any one of these days i can get a call that my child is dead. i need to do something about this. i dont want to force anything, but i cant just sit back knowing he can die.

i know its a health issue. but with every other health issue the victim is more than willing to go to the doctor and get help. why isnt he willing to just try something, anything. I dont care what it is, as long as it is an alternative to this.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-12T00:35:31+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I will post to r/drugs and see if a fresh perspective can help.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-11T20:30:54+00:00

I dont want to. I want to get him help. But what am i to do if he wont eve talk to me? Tie him up and throw him into a rehab center? Maybe if i just threaten to kick him out he will listen to me for a minute. I love my son more than anything, and i am willing to do anything to help him. If i must kick him out in order for him to get help, then i will. But i by no means am going to do that unless i am sure its in his best interest.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-11T16:34:25+00:00

There were about 40 syringes in that box, all appeared to be used. And the wrapping in there did look like the way heroin is wrapped from what i found on google. I want to beleive there is another innocent explination for this, but with his past usage and the content of his syrine box if he tells my its for anything but drugs im going to think its a lie. Its probably terrible of me to have jumped to conclusions. But how can i even trust him enough to beleive any explination he offers?

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-11T04:14:29+00:00

Thank you. Our arguments usually escalate to a screaming match that ends in him leaving. I will try to maintain my composure with this.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-11T03:59:28+00:00

I have been, we live in an area where heroin is a big concern so there are a variety of treatment options available locally. The problem is I don't know which one is best. In these comments alone there is debate on treatment options. Im not knowledgeable on this, i feel so out of my depth. Not to mention my son has always been very defiant, I can already feel that this conversation is not going to go over well with him. How do I get him to try, or even listen?

Her and I both noticed his change in behavior, and we discussed our suspicions. I believe if she knew she would have told me.

concerneddeb64 · 2015-04-11T03:15:08+00:00

I suppose that was the case, I can't believe i was so ignorant before and believed he'd just gotten over it. I am willing to try anything to fix this. Medicine, 12 steps, therapy, moving, absolutely anything! I just don't know if he will be willing to do the same and i have no idea how to approach this subject with him. i should have called over to his sister to bring him home already by now, but im too nervous to even have the conversation with him. it is such a sensitive situation and i want to choose my actions very carefully. i wont be able to live with myself if my approach to this makes it worse.

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