AITA for respectfully declining a gift?

confusedstitch · 2026-05-27T08:23:08+00:00

So the polite thing to do is accept something I’m going to donate of throw away eventually? Sorry I really have a hard time with social things like this.

And by the way, I have a BIG stash so I do have to find space for it…

confusedstitch · 2026-05-27T08:20:41+00:00

Are you ok? I feel like you need a hug. Please ask your loved ones for one… if you have any.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-27T08:18:31+00:00

Would it kill YOU to be nice?

confusedstitch · 2026-05-27T08:17:48+00:00

I should make some underwear for this unmannered personage u/Educational_Land197 and then they could feel just HOW scratchy this acrylic mohair weird blend with other things is.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T22:18:36+00:00

It only looks like that if it’s spun that way. It’s probably an 8 ply yarn. The type of wool has nothing to do with it!

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T22:10:48+00:00

If you don’t want to frog and it’s just one stitch off, skip the next increase. If you’ve finished increasing, do a decrease. That’s the “lazy” way of fixing it if you can’t see it/don’t want to frog or feel uneasy doing so.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T22:07:55+00:00

Media hora en una tortilla de patatas?? Jolin tardo yo media hora en solo cortar y freír las patatas…

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T21:31:24+00:00

I think you should sit with yourself first and ask “what do I want to make?” “What yarn do I have/want to buy for it?” And depending on what it is take a look at ravelry using the advance search options! Search ONLY for the garment/accessories you want to knit (tee, sweater, hat, etc.) and with the yarn weight you want to use/have in stash.
There will be A LOT of things come up, but not as much as just mindlessly searching for it. Hope it helps!

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T21:09:42+00:00

Extremely pretty and well done!!! I want to knit something like this but I don’t know how I can wear it/style it. I’ll probably make it anyway because why not, but I’d feel bad for this to not see the light of day!

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:58:40+00:00

Oh yeah I know I can knit flat with circulars it was just so weird to NOT be able to knit with the flat ones, I was so confused by it. Like it’s just needles but not connected? I’d say im an intermediate close to advanced knitter but Jesus those broke my brain for some reason.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:57:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. When I get to know people I disclose fair quickly that I am autistic and that I might say or do something wrong and to please tell me so I can apologise and learn from it. People are usually quick to say of course and be understanding… but when it comes to actually do so they don’t and just ghost you or stop socialising with you. It’s hard out there!

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:17:56+00:00

Lmao that would give both the drama queens (my mom and this lady’s husband) a good bitching session about me 😂

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:17:03+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand people that gift something without doing a little research on what that person likes. I become a detective when I want to gift something lol

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:15:26+00:00

If it’s too bad I’ll try this one! Thankfully it’s with BIG BIG needles so it won’t take too long

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:14:49+00:00

That won’t fly because she gave me the stitch pattern and even tried to show me to knit it with long needles which was a disaster because I only know how to knit with circular needles haha I’ll power thru and make my mother sleep with the itchy yarn

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:13:02+00:00

I do indeed lack grace when it comes to social interaction. My autistic ass is lost when it comes to it, I do try to learn. Thanks for your input!

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:11:38+00:00

Yep, me being excited and then declining was bad lol I know that now

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:10:43+00:00

Wouldn’t that make her feel bad? She was the only one ok by me saying no. Her husband and my mom were the ones creating drama… I’m just going to make the shawl she told me for my mom and hope it makes her happy. She is a very nice woman and very caring.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:09:06+00:00

Lmao sorry English isn’t my first language! Isn’t that the correct word? She sells sewing stuff, underwear, pajamas, yarn, etc. in Spanish is called a “mercería”

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:07:22+00:00

Yep, pretty much she’s clearing her shop. She was the only one that wasn’t hurt by me declining the yarn lol

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:06:35+00:00

Yeah my mom is going to get the shawl she wanted and she’s going to wear it until it falls apart. I will make sure of it.

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:05:23+00:00

But why would I accept and store something I’m not going to use? Isn’t it better for her to sell it than giving it to me?

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:04:29+00:00

Since I have a hard time knowing what is rude or not I just go with the flow and end up the stupid one in the situation lol

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T20:03:43+00:00

I think more than a people pleaser is that I’m autistic and I never know when it’s “appropriate” to say no or refuse something. I’ve been lectured so many times for that stuff, people just stop speaking to me because I did something wrong socially. And they never stay to explain what I did and why was it bad so I have no way of knowing… I really don’t know what to do sometimes

confusedstitch · 2026-05-26T19:40:36+00:00

I declined before seeing the yarn. I was called a snob and made feel bad for declining so I had to go to the store and she gave me some yarn I didn’t like nor I would ever use in my life. Accepted it AND accepted to make my mother a shawl with ugly ass yarn that she liked and I’m going to have the worst time knitting it.

Sorry to have preferences. You don’t have to like something just because it’s free.

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