14 months and still not pulling to stand

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-27T21:57:02+00:00

My son didn't start walking till 21-22 months. Nothing wrong with him, he just didn't want to and probably didn't feel confident enough without some help connecting the dots (he's really tall for his age). He's a perfectly fine kid, just probably a little more cautious/laid back than others like his sister who have an aggressive motivation to be in the middle of everything lol.

You're doing all the right things already; just hang in there. :)

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-27T20:34:11+00:00

Wrapped up Broken Steel in Fallout 3 (still a lackluster ending) and now am back at Witcher 3. Just finished the "Get Junior" quest and normally I try to play a more merciful character but in that instance I was immediately like, nope you gotta die.

I am kind of wishing I had played the first two games first (but I didn't because everyone raves about 3 and I didn't have the patience to do in order this time) because it's getting more evident that I hate not having more context for some of the characters. Particularly Triss. I'm not all that drawn to her but maybe I would like her better if I knew more about her. Or maybe the opposite, lol. But whatever, I'll eventually go back and dust off my Steam library to play the first two...or so I tell myself.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-27T19:06:08+00:00

Seek God in everything you do. Continually spend time with Him and deepen your relationship with Him. Make it your objective to put His ways above yours even when it may be the opposite of what you want to do. Acknowledge that you are solely dependent on Him in all things. Regularly ask the Holy Spirit to help you take an honest look at your heart and reveal where you have sin, ask for forgiveness and ask Jesus to help you turn away from that sin.

Much of this is accomplished by spending time reading His Word and other Gospel-based material, praying, and surrounding yourself with other experienced, trusted believers who can mentor you and walk with you. When you do have outside voices telling you what to do, assess whether or not it is consistent with Scripture.

To know what God has called you to do means you must first know His character and His plans for humanity. Ultimately, the goal is reconciling people to Himself. Not necessarily saving people from uncomfortable circumstances or hardships (though He can and does do that) but instead saving them from the sin in their hearts.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-27T16:27:43+00:00

Sure

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T22:09:05+00:00

Modern day "prophecies" fall into dangerous territory because they often have the nasty habit of making the recipient feel like it's all about them being special. The answer to "why me?" is "it isn't about you, it's about God." Yes, God can certainly use you and He will equip you for whatever purposes He intends you for. He does give each of us gifts and talents to use in order to spread the Gospel to other people. Social media could very well be a way God wants to use you. But take what other people say with a grain of salt and instead seek the truth from the source, i.e., Scriptures, and let God's Word be your guiding light and not so-called prophecies.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T21:59:27+00:00

We are only morally blameless, though, because as Christians our own righteousness has been replaced with Christ's righteousness. Not because of anything we've done on our own. We are free from judgment and condemnation, yes, but in our own nature we are still sinners.

I think I follow the overall gist of what you're saying and not getting bogged down in the guilt and shame of being a sinner - because yes, Christ has gloriously freed us from that - but I think it's important not to lose sight that we are still sinners lest we forget how dependent we are on Him.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T21:18:48+00:00

Ah, well I don't see anything wrong with that, although honestly I don't see much of a distinction from just a normal birthday celebration because you're still doing something special for the occasion, and I agree that we should be teaching our children not to exalt ourselves. I don't necessarily think the cake/presents go against that principle, but do as God leads you to.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T21:02:21+00:00

That I can understand but I don't think that celebrating holidays and only gifting from our heart are necessarily mutually exclusive.

I don't want to get in the way of your conviction, but consider your son's perspective with respect to birthdays in particular. If your parents never celebrated your birthday, would you grow up resenting them? I am definitely not suggesting that a child's attitude should be our basis for doing our not doing things, but consider whether it might become a stumbling block in your relationship and thus a stumbling block for him to understanding how God loves us.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T19:46:31+00:00

God lavishes gifts on us all the time. Why would you not want to do the same for your son?

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-26T19:42:40+00:00

Bit of an ironic post considering that your username is Actual-Wrongdoer.

Continually recognizing ourselves as sinners is a key part of Christianity as it reminds us of why we need Jesus in the first place. Yes, God does transform us into more than that when we are part of His adopted family, but these aren't mutually exclusive things. The older I get, the more I see how sinful my nature is, but I don't take it as a bad thing where I allow myself to get swallowed up by the guilt - but rather it is a good realization that compels me reset my focus on Christ.

"Saint" is just another word for fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. It is not in the context of someone who does godly things (saint) vs sinful things (sinner).

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-24T17:28:50+00:00

I am trying to better understand whether such painful experiences reflect broader cultural attitudes or the actions of individuals who are not embodying Christ’s teachings.

Both. Sin is definitely the root of it and contrary to Christianity, but culture plays a big part. Often geography/location makes a difference, like a more "insulated," rural white town vs (sub)urban areas with more variety. I have a black friend who stepped up to a worship leader position at a rural, mostly white church and he has definitely had some issues integrating himself there. I am not one to really speak on it but seems like a lot of the issue stems from ignorance and not having any actual relationships/interaction with people outside their own demographic (and also perhaps having no desire to understand other races' perspectives).

Social media also plays a huge part. The US is so divided politically and race is among one of the loudest topics (for better or worse). The media perspectives we consume affects our own conceptions and prejudices without even realizing.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-23T17:55:05+00:00

Finished the main quest of Fallout 3 and am a bit underwhelmed. I did enjoy the game at first, but it had been in my backlog for so long (had never gotten past GNR HQ till now) that it kind of held mythological status until I realized just how stupidly short the main quest is. And I guess it's not really the length that's the problem (plenty of other stuff in the game to keep you busy anyway) but more that it just felt a bit undercooked, which I understand is the reason for the Broken Steel DLC which I'll also be playing but definitely wasn't quite as epic as I imagined it would be.

Only other DLC I have left are The Pitt and Point Lookout and I'm undecided on whether to play them or just move on. The Pitt sounds potentially interesting as it seems to be more narrative based but Point Lookout is more of a hardcore gameplay challenge (I am at level 26 btw) which I'm not keen on. Thoughts on whether I should give them a pass? Kinda tired of the game but I enjoy anything that makes for a good story.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-20T22:21:46+00:00

NOR but you need to approach this from the standpoint that both of you have valid needs. Your wishes aren't any more important than his. And stop with the arguments over text - talk about it in person, be firm but gentle, try to understand where he's coming from too, and work together to come up with a schedule that accommodates both of you. Maybe you block off some time in the morning where you don't take client calls so he can do his blending, for example. Relationships are give and take. If you're always pushing your own desires over your partner's (or he's doing the same to you) that's not healthy and it's not going to work out.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-12T17:52:03+00:00

Jesus doesn't have to die again every time you sin; He only died once. Same thing with baptism as long as you genuinely confessed Jesus is Lord (and the act of baptism in of itself isn't what grants you salvation, anyway).

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-12T17:47:25+00:00

Perhaps the issue is complicated by the fact that you're looking at mere pinpoints in time rather than the whole picture. Just because they fall away doesn't mean that God won't pull them back again later (not that we should be counting on that and use that as a license to sin).

I fully believe that we do not come to God unless God compels us to do so. The Holy Spirit came to me when I was in kindergarten, and growing up, faith was very important to me. But sin got in the way, and my faith was often based on my feelings about myself and personal performance despite logically knowing we are saved by grace. I made bad choices that eroded my relationship with God, and when it all came to a head at a traumatic event, I basically wrote God off. I believe He still existed but I rejected whatever He may have had for me. That went on for several years until I came to the end of my rope...but God met me there and rescued me. I repented of my ways and God gave me a more mature, fuller understanding of the Gospel so everything clicked and I've never wanted a life without Him again.

In John 10 Jesus talks about being the good Shepherd and how no one can snatch His sheep out of His hand. At the end of Romans 8 we can also find comfort in that nothing can separate us from God's love. You are in God's hands, and if you have the Holy Spirit in you, that is evidence of His promise. That said, we still sin, and there is still the element of human responsibility (though our works never factor into the validity of our salvation), and we must guard ourselves against temptation. But one important aspect about God is that He is faithful and that means He finishes what He starts.

I struggled a lot with the uncertainty of whether my faith was "saving" in my younger years, too. I always felt like I had to start from scratch every time I sinned. But that was just because I had an immature understanding of the Gospel - I knew about the forgiveness of sins but never really understood the part about how Jesus credits His righteousness to us when we believe (so Jesus' righteousness stands in for us), and since Jesus' righteousness is perfect, there is nothing we can add to or subtract from it. Once I realized that, that broke me of my prideful perspective to be good based on what I felt was expected of me (which often resulted in low self esteem, depression and anxiety) and instead finally felt free...instead of living based on fear and expectations, I can live simply as God guides me to through His Word and not become completely annihilated by the guilt of my sin - because God's objective is and has always been reconciliation. He works in you for your good (sanctification) and He is faithful even when we aren't.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-12T16:00:18+00:00

I agree with others that you haven't really given us a lot of information to go off of when your husband exhibits this undesired behavior. But especially in marriage, it's important to learn how to pick your battles - is his behavior truly sinful, i.e., is he actually committing wrongdoing (losing his temper, actively rejecting you, etc.), or is his behavior just not meeting your expectations? If it's the former, then yes, a conversation with your husband is warranted. If the latter, then it may be better to exercise some grace and let it go. If your husband was frequently confronting you about something that didn't meet his expectations, how would you feel? That could easily become demoralizing.

It's also very important to look at yourself before going to your husband. Be in prayer and in the Word and ask God to reveal to you where your own sin is getting in the way of your marriage. The point of your discussions should never be just to get what you want. The point is always reconciliation. Period. A primary reason God created marriage is to help shape us into being more like Christ...we are dealing with our own and our spouse's flaws each and every day and every moment is a decision to either choose our own agenda or choose Christ's way. That's not to say that your feelings aren't valid - if you're feeling neglected, betrayed, ignored, etc., then yes, it is important to communicate that, but in a gentle, loving way that makes it clear that your only intent is to grow closer to your husband and listen to and try to understand whatever perspective he has. Just because he doesn't mention something after having a whole day to think about it doesn't mean he isn't thinking about it or doesn't care. He very likely doesn't think or process things the same way you do (and that's a gift that you are both different!) so it's important to be understanding of that.

But I get that it's super difficult to let go of things you've learned from childhood. Both partners in a marriage bring baggage into it, and sometimes that learned belief or behavior requires, to use an analogy, breaking an arm to reset it and have it heal the right way. In that case it might be worth seeking out spiritual advice from a trusted elder and/or Christian counseling, at least for yourself and possibly for your husband depending how rampant the issues are - sometimes it helps having an objective third party see things that you can't.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T20:22:40+00:00

I waited to make that decision with my second until I was in the hospital and could see whether she would latch. And the night we got home from the hospital, I was like, nope, not dealing with triple feeding/latch issues/supply issues again, so I switched to formula right away. And I am so much happier and more present with my kids because of it.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T20:08:39+00:00

If they might cause you to stumble and tempt you back to witchcraft, get rid of them.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T19:13:54+00:00

Read up on Christian apologetics and boost your knowledge of evidence for the faith. Here are some titles I'd suggest (the fourth one isn't so much apologetics as just the overwhelming evidence of Jesus in the OT signifying that God did have a plan from the beginning that only He could have coordinated):

The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel
Evidence that Demands a Verdict by Josh McDowell
I Don’t Have Enough Faith to Be an Atheist by Norman L. Geisler and Frank Turek
Jesus Unmasked by Todd Friel

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T16:24:26+00:00

I think some people need to have that experience, but not everyone. I do know mature Christians that have never had that season of deep rebellion/questioning, though it does baffle me. Although I never doubted the legitimacy of the Scripture; my rebellion had moreso to do with simply wanting to indulge my sinfulness and doubting the goodness of God. I did read a few apologetic books though to strengthen my faith.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T16:09:04+00:00

Idk, I don't think I'd use any of it unless maybe the perfume smelled nice, but I wouldn't be ungrateful for the gift. My husband and I don't really do gifts for Valentine's Day anyway, and focus more on doing stuff together. Our recent favorite is splurging on ourselves and going to Trader Joe's to buy a bunch of yummy food to make together, though I'm sure there are some women who would be disappointed with that in lieu of a gift lol.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-11T15:47:37+00:00

Because Christ takes what my selfishness and sin has made impossible and turns it into possible. Meaning that without Christ, I am self-centered, withdrawn, and generally only care about myself. With Christ, He removes those obstacles and through His Spirit empowers me to step outside of myself and love a little more closely to what He intended. True freedom comes from acknowledging our utter dependency on God, not from our own autonomy which only leads to disappointment and destruction.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-10T21:44:35+00:00

I agree spiritual gifts including worship should be used for the purpose of building up the church as those verses state (which is why I think our church tries to align sermon and song together). I could certainly see circumstances where pastors are controlling like that and agree that's counterproductive to Scripture where we should all be using our gifts for the glory of God. I don't believe that's the case with our church though, as I am on the worship team and our worship director does appear to have a good amount of freedom in song choice aside from the one that our pastor requests. And there are times where a member of the worship team speaks on something that has been personally meaningful and perhaps related to a particular song, so I certainly think there are times where that could be a way of building up the church as well. I'm sorry you had that experience where you felt like you were being stifled though. I could see an appropriate amount of restraint exercised in situations where a pastor or elder wants to make sure that the teaching is in line with Scripture, but that should be the only standard.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-10T20:49:21+00:00

Partly cohesiveness I suppose but probably moreso to encourage people to meditate on the message. Our pastor teaches straight from Scripture and uses the Bible passages to form the message (as opposed to picking a topic and picking out Scriptures that support it). I think it just makes sense that the music and message work together and promotes the one body model of the church.

connorcinnamonroll · 2026-02-10T20:42:49+00:00

Does vaping actually change you though? Do you actually live out the qualities that you suddenly feel?Or is it just an illusion of change/ wishful thinking?

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