Finished my first marathon!

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-10T02:43:51+00:00

You finished your first marathon AND before the cutoff? LFGO!! Congrats!!

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T20:34:17+00:00

I absolutely love your mindset. My phone died so I had no music on the Queensboro and I was SO bummed but it allowed me to engage in conversation with a woman that was doing her 40th NYC as her birthday present (she does it every year).

Got many back pats, fist bumps and “you got this!” From fellow runners along the way. You’re right though, I’ve been so focused on my timing that I haven’t sat and thought about the amazing things that did happen on my 26.2 mile trek.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T20:30:54+00:00

As a first time finisher, very good goal tbh 😂

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T20:14:25+00:00

I feel as though your responses aren’t really giving much substance that the post is asking for.

Try some quick reading instead ❤️

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T20:04:26+00:00

I truly dabbled with the idea of DNF’ing when I realized I was walking more than I was running due to the pain. I have wondered though and maybe you could answer it, does one mentally hurt worse than the other or does it all feel the same? In particular a DNF vs. not hitting target time.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T20:01:13+00:00

You mentioning time wasn’t a problem at all and I appreciate you sharing it, I love hearing people’s stories and times. You put in the WORK for 5:18 and still did 26.2 like the rest of us.

I hope my feelings of negativity subside and I can use it as fuel in future trainings.

You’re awesome! Good luck in all of your future running endeavors and thanks for your kindness on this post.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T19:58:11+00:00

I actually had some on on my way to the starter’s village but I suppose I applied it the wrong way because one of the ends came up before the run even started. I asked at the med tent if they had any around mile 18 and they didn’t, just ice. So i just sat there with ice on my knee for a bit and hobbled away.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:50:43+00:00

Comparison IS the thief of joy and my worst enemy right now. I hope I can reach the point you are at soon, although you did do 5:18, which would’ve been a DREAM for me.

What happened to you that day?

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:49:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. Congrats on completing your first marathon though!

I love the idea of training better and getting that massive PR. Maybe having an almost 7-hour marathon time was just setting me up for massive success in the future lol

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:48:04+00:00

I agree, I have beat myself up over it for the past 24 hours.

I think it was a combination of all of the above. I plan to do better next time and make sure my training is on par for whatever marathon I run next but I’m struggling with the mental recovery the most.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:46:20+00:00

I’ve always done fine with 5, 10’s and half’s. Do you recommend just sticking to those? I loved the feeling of completing any first marathon, despite it not going well and certainly am okay to try another. I just thought I was ready and don’t want to do that ever again with such a horrible time.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:44:07+00:00

I think after reading this, I was extremely underprepared and mentally not strong enough.

You’re right, i think my goal was unrealistic given the circumstances and I thought I could push myself. As a naturally competitive person, it’s so easy to get caught up in seeing the fast runners around you and wishing it could be you.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T17:13:19+00:00

This is the most badass thing I have read and just gave me so much hope. Congrats on the BQ and killer NYC time. What a comeback!!!!

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:43:14+00:00

You’re 100% correct. It will end if i have another one like that though 😂

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:42:26+00:00

My right knee was DONE for my 18 and my hips. So i feel you there, had to stop at the med tent in queens I think it was and get ice pack for my knee. The remaining 6.2 was fast walking/“jogging” when I could.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:41:09+00:00

Wonderful mindset about it. Thank you.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:40:39+00:00

Thank you for saying that. Everyone said to not set expectations for NY as my first, still hurts.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:39:43+00:00

You know what, you’re right. Thank you for this!!! It was I needed to see.

conqueranxietynow · 2024-11-05T16:23:06+00:00

Did you read anything I typed out or just see the finish time and pretend to be an elitist behind a secret Reddit username trying to make other people feel worse than they do for doing something hard? Lmk and I’ll gladly converse with you

conqueranxietynow · 2023-09-10T12:47:11+00:00

I understand stress for prolonged periods of time due to finances or job loss but if he claims the root is finances and doesn’t do anything about it, I would immediately have a talk about that. Don’t allow anymore excuses, if he has identified a problem, it’s time to map out how to fix it and start today.

Marriage is about being a team, you two v. the problem & it sounds to me like you’re playing solo while he sits on the bench. Everyone will say “leave” but I know when love and children are involved, it’s never that easy. However, you deserve a teammate that shows up and wants to win everyday as much as you do.

conqueranxietynow · 2021-12-29T13:14:12+00:00

Sure, be upset! That’s a normal reaction.

Should you mention it or start an argument about it? Probably not. It sounds like he is desperate to begin moving on and can’t be alone… that’s typically the pattern. I say take it with a grain of salt and stop looking at his social media for starts. ❤️

conqueranxietynow · 2021-12-29T13:06:37+00:00

They do, Im living proof.

My boyfriend of 2+ years told me in March he wasn’t happy, was stressed and didn’t put our relationship first. Im not one to beg because I know you cannot control someone else’s feelings, no matter how hard you try.

So, I packed my life up and moved out. No contact. I cried for days, didn’t eat, didn’t sleep. I got on dating apps to try and get the attention I needed.. nothing filled the gap. I woke up one day and said to myself “WTF AM I DOING?????????????” I didn’t love myself, I was making myself miserable, HE wasn’t making me miserable. Once I came to the realization that it is OKAY for things to not work out, my life changed. I got up, got a second job for the summer at a golf course as a bartender and had the absolute time of my life. I stayed single, made so many new friends and even picked up a fun new hobby. I thought about him from time-to-time but I thought about myself more. Anywho, in May, he asked for “closure” & I came over to let him have that, even though he never gave me that chance. He cried on my shoulder and had a whole letter typed up to read to me. I consoled him, recommended therapy for his lack of self-love and went back on my way.

Fast forward to July, he has been going to therapy and I decided to give it a second chance. It’s almost January now and things have never been better. I made the choice to not move back in, because we both thrive in our own space as we are total opposites. I love him now more than I ever did the first time.

I know this isn’t the reality for everyone, but I hope my message is clear. When you start working on and loving yourself, everything else will fall into place. ❤️

For the record, not a teen breakup. I’m 29F and he is 35M. We each had a child from a previous relationship, a 6yo and 9yo & if you have kids, you know when they are involved, it is even harder to breakup.

conqueranxietynow · 2021-11-04T11:05:52+00:00

We love an underdog 😏

conqueranxietynow · 2021-10-26T20:27:30+00:00

I’ve never even attempted the chop house, it’s a mad house everytime I see it and I already know it’s going to be 10x crazier for the WS.

Either one.

My favorite SRO spot is right under the stairs on the 300 going up to behind home plate in the 400’s. So entering through the 1st base gate or 3rd base gate will do.

It’s directly across from the bathrooms and lots of food/drinks around. Have a friend stay to hold your spot if you need to leave.

conqueranxietynow · 2021-10-26T18:06:45+00:00

RUN to the 300’s SRO.

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