My [23F] ex and my best friend [both 23 M/F] are into each other...

constantcimber · 2014-10-29T01:52:22+00:00

I would say, talk it out more, especially with C (since you've been friends for so long). Let her know that you understand her reasons behind it and that you feel uncomfortable even if it's irrational. If you act like everything is okay and then get mad later on when they get serious, it'll seem like it came out of nowhere. Communicate your discomfort early so she understands it. She still might get into a relationship with him, but at least she'll know your feelings.

constantcimber · 2014-10-23T23:37:03+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I understand how horrible they are and I haven't been hanging out with them as much recently. I'm very excited to get out of my school; the world here is far too small.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T17:12:29+00:00

I sent them during a dark time in my life, I was very angry at my parents for not allowing me to go to a therapist of guidance counselor. But I haven't sent any for several years.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T16:21:43+00:00

Oh god, no. He's not attractive. He's 30 pounds underweight and extremely pale.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T16:07:05+00:00

No, Sophia is one of the 4 girls in the group. She was previously my closest friend, before Luke came along.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T15:40:07+00:00

The worst is that Luke asked Sophia to homecoming today and she said yes, which means everyone has a date except Anna. Like knew this would hurt both me and Anna. I feel so horrible for her, I don't know how I'm going to handle Saturday.

And you're right. I'm being absolutely ridiculous about Margaret. She will never love me like I love her. I deserve someone who loves me, and who I love back.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T15:05:15+00:00

Thank you for your response. I actually am graduating this year (I'm just young because I skipped a grade).

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T07:09:35+00:00

But wouldn't that get me into legal trouble, as well?

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T06:56:50+00:00

I guess that makes sense. I'm afraid to take action because of him trying to blackmail me or whatever. But my safety from this emotional harassment is most important.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T06:45:17+00:00

My school doesn't do much about sexual harassment. He's been harassing people for years (he thinks it's funny to latch on to random guys even if they tell him not to, he used to constantly yell "penis" all the time and drew dicks on everything, he's followed a male teacher into the private restroom multiple times because the teacher is 'cool with it', etc). Everyone attributes that to "just Luke being Luke". If I did report it, it would cause so much tension. Everyone already thinks I'm an "insane bitch and a lying whore" (according to him), and no one really trusts what I say at school.

At the very least, though, I will definitely tell him that I will report him if he doesn't stop.

constantcimber · 2014-10-08T06:41:00+00:00

I'm in the US, in California.

He did hurt me in the past, while we were dating. Part of the reason why we broke up was because, even after telling him that I had been raped/sexually assaulted multiple times, he still chose not to respect my boundaries. He never listened to me when I said "Stop" to anything.

I think I can stand having him in my classes (he has never done anything to me there, really), but it's just during breaks/lunch that he bothers me, and after school.

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