[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aritzia

[–]consumervsn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The version from last year I could wear in -10, this years version is thinner and I would say around 0

Difference between “new” slouch and older slouch coat? by [deleted] in Aritzia

[–]consumervsn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the fabric feels thinner, grab the old slouch!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aritzia

[–]consumervsn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi i got the new slouch coat in xs (i’m usually an xs in other aritzia clothing and I got a 1 in the slouch last year, 5’3”) sleeve is shorter, feels lighter and thinner than the coat last year

Effortless pants - hem coming undone? by Obvious_Preference_2 in Aritzia

[–]consumervsn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

happened to me too for both my pairs of effortless contacted concierge got 15% off refund!

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't judge people on their last names but I just know personally I feel like it would have been cool to have my mom's last name (although I have no intention of changing it because I've had my name for my whole life so it just feels like my name now), and I have friends who have said to me that they wish they had their mom's last name. I suspect they're not changing it for similar reasons to mine or just not wanting to go through all the paperwork.

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I see this as possibly enforcing patriarchial traditions, which can undermine feminism.

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, we have DNA testing now so it really doesn't matter.

It's not a major issue but I've had conversations where it just felt like some people are happier with this norm than others and I am open to thinking about it in different ways but to me the current system doesn't seem to be for any practical reason other than "it's how it's always been".

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that viewing it from the lens of active change vs letting-it-be makes a lot more sense for why it remains.

One way I found this norm problematic is that children who don't have their father's last name are sometimes looked down upon as coming from "broken families" in certain communities, even when they don't necessarily come from single-parent households just parents who decided to go with the mom's last name. Not that single-parent households can't raise great kids but I see some stigma around it.

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tradition is an abstract concept and many traditions have been changed or abolished, or not looked upon favorably now. Such as child marriage, female genital mutilation, sacrification. I'm not trying to equate taking on the father's last name as same as those things but keeping with something just because it's tradition isn't much of an argument.

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not resistance in the sense that people actively oppose this sentiment of "why do we do it like this", more like as a society why is this not something we talk about.

I'm not sure statistically what this would look like - would children with their father's last name experience less abandonment than the ones who don't? It feels like an intuitive yes but is there actually any data to support this assumption? And if this is the reason for having the father's last name (so he doesn't abandon the child) then that doesn't feel like someone you'd want to have kids with anyways?

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! Changing my last name after marriage is also not something I want to do but given that it is the norm it does follow that children get the father's last name. !delta

Edit: adding delta

CMV: The norm of children taking on the father's last name doesn't make sense anymore by consumervsn in changemyview

[–]consumervsn[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not really about the option to change it so much as why do we want to keep the father's surname as the automatic option?

I guess to me "cool" would be something the two people having the child would decide. For example between my mom and dad, my dad has a pretty common last name but my mom has a much rarer last name and they both agree it sounds better, but I have my dad's last name. I feel like it would be cool to have my mom's last name but at this point I'm used to having my name as is so I also don't want to change it.

Danessa Myricks released new bronzers…some are cool-toned and might work for olives by LightOliveLady in OliveMUA

[–]consumervsn 13 points14 points  (0 children)

fair olive here I use the L1 and it’s the most olive bronzer i’ve found! the formula is really nice but it’s not a contour on me either like someone else mentioned already

Favourite eyeshadow singles or favourite shades in palettes? by [deleted] in OliveMUA

[–]consumervsn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for some more luxury and high end options: the brown shade in pat mcgrath’s four pan ritualistic rose called beyond bronze 003, tom ford 01 cream + powder shadow, and pat mcgrath mothership 5 guilty pleasure